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Tell Me What You Want

August 13, 2018 Monday

[I am still not ready to talk to him due to unsportsmanlike behavior two days ago,  But I posted to my Facebook wall where he could see it.]

8:43 PM Sassy
Interesting interview about an interesting book.

‘Tell Me What You Want’ looks at sexual fantasies and the science of desire

Justin Lehmiller’s book is based on the results from the sex survey he created.(DON CORAM)


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And Still He Persisted

June 3, 2018 Sunday

There’s a new man on the horizon. 

After The Trainer went silent in April, I wasn’t sure I could ever put myself out there again. We seemed so perfect for each other and he just disappeared and I was crushed. I sat on the shelf, rarely opened the Ashley Madison web site, and focused on work and The Northerner when he had time. 

The less you log on, the fewer message you get, so I didn’t have any reason to log on. When I went to check, they were too young or too strange and I just couldn’t get psyched to answer. I’m sorry… I know how frustrating that is for guys!

I resolved on the first of June to go in and start answering, even if it is was to say, “Thanks but no thanks.”

I found a bunch of older messages from the same guy. Oh dear… I felt especially bad that he’d had to spend so much money trying over and over. Ugh. Never had a guy so determined to get me to answer!  I focused on him at last on June 3.

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WINK (automated message this is free)

Date: May 9th – 4:54pm
From: OddlyAlone

Message
Please check out my profile to see if you might be interested in connecting with me. If you are interested, ‘wink’ me back and I will initiate contact!

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PHOTO ACCESS (another automated message)

Date: May 9th – 4:54pm
From: OddlyAlone

Message
Access to Private Showcase Attached.
Please click the “key” icon.

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WINK (a second automated free message)

Date: May 10th – 12:16pm
From: OddlyAlone

Message
Please check out my profile to see if you might be interested in connecting with me. If you are interested, ‘wink’ me back and I will initiate contact!

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That is odd… most men don’t contact me again unless I contact them. That’s what all the advice says… don’t pester her. But he is eager.

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Date: May 10th – 12:17pm
From: OddlyAlone

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Hi there. I would love to know you, Sassy 🙂

I think I check most of your boxes. I am in your area during the day and it might be easy to meet. Do let me know!

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Hmmm… he ups the ante and pays to send me a real message a minute later? Very odd.

It was lunch time at work so I took a quick look at his profile – he’s more than 10 years younger. That is very unlikely to work. I usually adore them but they don’t want me. And he is dark-skinned. Tough to tell from his blurry photo exactly what ethnicity or race but I’ve never adventured in that direction (except once in high school which didn’t go anywhere), so without thinking about it too much, I move on to other messages waiting in the inbox.

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Date: May 10th – 2:14pm
From: OddlyAlone

Message
No? Now that you have checked my profile. If not, I won’t be offended if you let me know.

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Of course he can tell I looked at his profile… he must be keeping a very close eye on his Ashley Madison account! Oh dear… I wonder if there is some sort of sale on the site for Mother’s Day or something so he gets to write as much as he wants for free? Or he doesn’t mind spending money?
I am really busy at work so I move on.  I never want to offend a man but I also don’t want to encourage this onslaught of repeat messages. 

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Date: May 10th – 8:50pm
From: OddlyAlone

Message
Take a chance on me 🙂

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Another message? I can’t decide if this is charming or creepy?

I don’t have time to figure it out. He doesn’t respond so I forget about it.

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PHOTO ACCESS

Date: May 17th – 5:36pm
From: OddlyAlone

Message
Hello. Is there anybody out there? Just nod if you can hear me!

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Wow… here he is again! So persistent. I do not know what to make of it. I am not ready to jump back in. I know I should write but I don’t. Bad Sassy. *sigh

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Date:Jun 1st – 3:46pm
From: OddlyAlone

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Hi there. Would love to connect with you. Reaching out again. Cheers.

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Wow… the 8th contact. I really need to answer.

I look at his profile more closely. He is tall and thin, young, has quite a vocabulary (words I don’t know!), definitely an intellectual – mentions reading twice and various high level topics and philosophical issues, wants someone active and fit, well-read, who likes wine… oof. I am none of those things. He is not going to want me. *sigh

I look at the extra photo he sent. This one is not blurry! He has a beautiful smile. So young and cute! His skin is like chocolate.  My fingers tingled to touch!  I haven’t been particularly attracted to anyone of color but there is something special about him. He reminds me of that actor… what was his name? From that TV series about people with super powers… um… about 10 years ago now? Heroes! I dig into IMDB.com looking for a name and photo… aha! Sendhil Ramamurthy… yum. Hmmm… maybe he is using a photo of Sendhil? There is no way a hottie like that would want a gray-haired old lady, right? 

Sendhil Ramamurthy

I write up a response to thank him and explain why it’s not worth his time and… then I stare at it. What is the point? I leave a draft in my inbox and resolve to think about it more before I send it. It takes me two days but I finally do it.

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Date: Jun 3rd – 4:34pm
From: Sassy

Message
Hiya! Hope you’re enjoying this beautiful Sunday. Thank you for your interest in me and for sharing your sexy smile.

I don’t think I’m the gal for you. I don’t read much and I had to look up sapiosexual! I’m always happy to talk and dish about AM, but I never get far with younger men as I have gray hair and appear more like someone’s grandmother than someone to play with . I wish you all the best in your search. -Sassy

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I also wrote to another younger man in a similar situation, telling him I’m not right for him and best of luck.  Trying to be courteous.  He wrote right back whining and wanting more info about why I thought he wasn’t right and nothing positive. It was not the way to make me want to reply.  It made me sorry I had written.  *sigh

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Date: Jun 3rd – 5:16pm
From: OddlyAlone

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I have a huge fascination with someone much older (yes, even at this age) and would love to meet you. If you are nearby, perhaps we can have lunch one day? Or may be coffee?

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Wow.  What a contrast!  He doesn’t know what a favor the other guy did him.  Heh. 

Of course he wrote right back and jumped right into an invite to meet. That is usually a very bad sign. Ugh. Now what do I do? He is quite charming and straightforward. He sounds… real. I am curious. *sigh

I can feel myself sliding off the shelf.  Hope I don’t crash and burn too quickly! 

I take a deep breath and decide to play along. It’s usually only 2-3 days before with the younger men disappear, and I don’t have much else going on, so what the heck? It takes me a long while to craft a response. I decide to keep it simple and Sassy! I send it and go off to bed early.

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Date: Jun 3rd – 9:15 pm
From: Sassy

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Good evening! Older women, eh? Fascinating. Lunch or coffee sounds fun.

It is okay if I ask a few questions, get to know you a bit?

Hugs with groping! -Sassy

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Date:Jun 3rd – 10:43 pm
From: OddlyAlone

Message
Of course. Ask away.
Here or e-mail? [email redacted]

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A dozen and done

May 26, 2018 Saturday

https://www.redbubble.com/people/menhys/works/14242508-neon-sigh?p=lightweight-raglan-sweatshirt

I am done.  *sigh

Last time I heard from The Trainer was more than a month ago – April 14.  I’ve sent twelve messages – forwarding fun articles or jokes I saw that reminded me of him.  No pressure… just short snippets of humor.  I tried to make it clear that whenever he is ready, I am here.  No answers.  *sigh

I adore this man.  He seemed so perfect for me!  But I can only take so much silence. I promised myself after the first time he disappeared last year that I wouldn’t keep writing more than 3 or 4 times without an answer, but the universe kept showing me stuff I could not resist sending him.  But a dozen messages is enough, right?  Even though I am itching to hear what is going on with his travels and work and cock.  *sigh

Time to make a list of the reasons he wasn’t perfect.  Maybe that will keep me from writing. 

Done.  Must not email him anymore.  Must not.  *sigh

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Sassy Answers: Dental visit tips

Dear Readers,

So wonderful you are here today! Thanks for stopping by! It’s time for a little break from the Philip and Sassy and her adventures on Ashley Madison, since Philip didn’t write much today, and none of my AM men wrote to me today and I didn’t write to any of them! So I am going to answer a question that a special blog fan asked.

Q: Do you know a way to make it easier to go to the dentist?  I want to keep my mouth clean and healthy but I hate going to the dentist. I get so anxious before and during and wonder if you can help.

A. Oh, Dear Reader! I hear you! I do have seven tips that help me and are worth a try.  

I used to dread going to the dentist. I go for regular cleanings and having gums cleaned and even getting teeth pulled. I used to spend the week before agonizing over how much it would hurt and what the dentist would say and so forth.

What helped me the most was having cancer. After surgery, chemo and radiation treatments over the course of nine months in 2011, I am only mildly phased by dental visits. However, I CAN NOT recommend this solution!

Here’s what I recommend to make it easier for you.

1) Make appointments early in the day so you don’t fret too much waiting to go there. 

2) Plan a treat for afterwards so you can focus on that instead of the dental visit.  My dentist is upstairs from a chic cafe, so I plan to pop in there to pick up some tasty treats on way out.

3) Brush and floss seriously for 3 days ahead of time. Of course, you are probably already brushing and flossing like a pro – right? But take extra time so your mouth looks amazing and you can answer truthfully when they ask if you are flossing.

4) Don’t eat anything solid before going – have a nice Carnation Instant Breakfast or a Greek yogurt drink or your usual morning drink so you have something in your stomach but not too much and nothing in your teeth!

5) Put something on your lips – Chapstick or Neosporin – so they don’t crack when stretched

6) Take pain meds an hour beforehand so they have time to kick in and dull any pain from them poking or scraping.

7) MOST IMPORTANT! In the chair, fantasize about a nice person checking out your newly clean mouth! Think of their lips and tongue and maybe even a few fingers or more! Men may have to be a little careful about “raising a tent” but distract yourself as much as you can with SEXY THOUGHTS! 

From TV show “E.R.” 
Hope your next visit is not as bad.  
Please let me know if any of my tips work for you!  or if you have any other tips to help me?!  
-Sassy