Kinky sex.

That’s the August topic for Prowling with Kat‘s blog chain.  When I saw it, I thought “Well… I don’t know anything about THAT!”

So… what is kinky sex?  A lot of people think my cyber sex adventures are kinky.  The only time Philip ever used that word was during a sexy chat in April when I suggested pulling a strap-on out of thin air (I’ve never seen one) and shoving it up his ass.  That caused quite a reaction!  

In truth, I don’t know what’s considered kinky anymore.  I used to think sex meant 3.5 minutes in the missionary position and anything else was kinky.  Now I’ve read lots of sexy blogs, and seen tumblrs and videos, learning a lot while making my way from there to

• “sex can be FUN!” through
• “ways married couples can have fun!” to lots of
• “have sex with someone who’s not your spouse!” to a 
• dom’s blog
• sub’s blog
• swingers
• hotwives and cuckholds 
• lots of people with ropes, nipple clamps and whips
• a woman who adores anal sex and being fisted
• a man helping a friend with her abduction fantasy
• public sexual humiliation
• a bi curious married man, and most recently 
• a gay married family man who’s a top having sex with men who are bottoms for money!  

Is kinky “what other people do?”  Or “what I haven’t tried yet?” or “what the media get all hepped up about” or “what sex Hollywood shows the murderer having!”  Yes, I checked wikipedia and it has lots of interesting info but explains that “Because of its relation to “normal” sexual boundaries, which themselves vary by time and place, the definition of what is and is not kink varies widely as well.”

I’ve learned a lot and still have a lot to learn.  I like to read and try to understand, even if I decide it’s not my thing.  I am still relatively mundane, but don’t judge – you should do “whatever turns you on!”  And not worry about labeling it or classifying it.   Though that can help find you a like-minded person.  [Do check with your playmate(s) to be sure it’s consensual.]    

I often wish there was a short-hand term for “the kind of sex I like” but it is still evolving!   When Philip found me, he asked what I like to do in bed.  I replied, “I don’t know,” because it had been so long I had no clue.  Now I can go on for six paragraphs, but it boils down to “Men” and “Sex.”  That’s good for a laugh, anyway.

Due to the wonders of a long-distance relationship,  I don’t have sex very often, so my fantasies are stuck on the basics like “it would be nice to be kissed” or “wow…. I wish Philip was around to touch me.”  Different varieties of sex seem like impossible dreams!  

But I know you came here for some kinky sex, so tune in tomorrow when I give you a link to the blog chain and you can read where other bloggers go when they write about kinky sex.