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Getting to know The Northerner

August 28, 2015 Friday

Date: Fri, Aug 28 2015 1:46 PM
From: Sassy
To: brett
Subject: Connection
Tap…tap… does this thing work?  It’s that Sassy one seeing if I have the right address.  
 -S

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Date: Fri, 08/28/15 at 2:05 PM
From: Brett 
To: Sassy 
RE: Connection
Oh yes, it works.  So glad to hear from you!
brett (in case you had to guess)
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Date: Fri, 08/28/15 at 2:08 PM
From: Brett 
To: Sassy 
RE: Connection
I just realized that my first reply may not have conveyed sufficiently that I’m the one you met on AM.
Just wanted you to be sure.
brett
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Date: Fri, Aug 28 2015 2:11 PM
From: Sassy
To: brett
Subject: re: Connection
Hiya Brett!  Thanks for clarifying.  I’ve been getting some odd chat requests and spam, obviously inspired by the breach, so every little bit helps.
How are you this fine Friday?  Hope life is going as well as the weather! 
 -S
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Date: Fri, 08/28/15 at 2:36 PM
From: Brett 
To: Sassy 
RE: Connection
Sassy,
I’m holed up in the office.  The weather seems OK from my view out the window.  I’m trying to get a program kicked off so that it runs over the weekend and it’s going to be close.
I’m getting a few of those emails as well, but thankfully every one of them ends up in my spam folder.  I was checking it in case your first email ended up there but you apparently passed the test.
brett
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Date: Fri, Aug 28 2015 2:51 PM
From: Sassy
To: brett
Subject: re: Connection
Hiya Brett! 
I’m heading out now to go to a medical appointment with Hubby.  He likes me along to listen and take notes.  Best of luck with your program.  
Glad Yahoo thinks I am trustworthy.  Hope you will agree soon.  
So three questions for you: 
1) How old were you when you lost your virginity?
2) Have you always lived in MA? 
3) Do you cook? 
 -S
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Date: Fri, 08/28/15 at 5:16 PM
From: Brett 
To: Sassy 
RE: Connection
Sassy,
I’ll get back online this evening.  Quick answers to your questions
1.  23
2.  No, I grew up way up North, was transferred to Boston area for work.
3.  Yes, but not too much…it’s very difficult in our kitchen (needs longer explanation…perhaps during a face to face)
I will answer questions about current and past relationships when we meet face to face.  Kiss and tell is not in my wheelhouse, especially online.  I would only give very generic answers to such questions online.
While I believe you are who you say you are, I have read only today that this is not the case with many AM connections.  I presume you feel the same way and when we meet, the information sharing can move to the next level.
Did you grow up in this area?
What do you enjoy about living here?
Do you know who hacked AM?
massaging your lower back and edging downward….ooh.
brett
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Date: Fri, Aug 28 2015 8:22 PM
From: Sassy
To: brett
Subject: re: Connection
Hiya Brett, 
Hope your weekend is off to a grand start.  I’m so glad to have your email.  Did you hear that the CEO of AM quit today? No more Noel.  AM will go belly up any moment.  *sigh 
Thank you for answering my questions.  23?  Interesting.  That is the oldest I’ve heard.  Tell me the story behind that sometime.  North eh?  Cool.  I don’t cook but I make great reservations.  Or delivery orders.  
Here are my answers:
1) Who says I grew up?  😉  
I was raised in upstate NY, came to MA for college, then moved in with my older sister in Somerville “for three weeks while I hunt for a job.”  Nine years later… I bought my own condo in Boston.  
2)  Boston is… my home.  I have traveled all over and each time I look around and think… “This is great!  But it’s not where I want to live.”  It’s some combination of the restaurants, the relative safety, close to the ocean, liberal politics, the diversity, great neighbors who are kind but not nosy, close to family who moved here after I did… and very different from the tiny town fishbowl I started in. 
3) Ha ha.  No.  I wonder what I’d do with the info if I did…  
I am not part of the nastiness in this world but you have no way of knowing that for sure, so it makes sense to be careful.  
Three more questions: 
1) If you could show me anywhere in the world you’ve been, where would that be? 
2) Are you a morning person? 
3) Do you sing? 
If you massage my back, I may have to like you.  The basics can be so alluring!  Here’s to holding hands while my thumb rubs your wrist.  
-S
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Date: Fri, 08/28/15 at 10:16 PM
From: Brett 
To: Sassy 
RE: Connection
Sassy,
AM may survive, it’s always hard to tell.  Sometimes publicity is a good thing, even when it’s not good news.  The way I look at it, they’ll be the first to be resolving the situation if they survive, so it might be the best place to be.
I would show you the area where I grew up.  Dramatic coastline and beautiful forest.  Longest stretch of undeveloped sea shore on the Atlantic Ocean (save for even further north).  Will have lots of stories about that area.  It’s much like Acadia National Park, just further away (if you can imagine that).
I work out at the gym every morning before work.  Not sure if that makes me a morning person or not, perhaps that just discipline…but it gets me ready to start my day.  I’ll sleep in sometimes if I have nothing going on.  I do usually go to bed between 10:00 and 11:00, so not a late night bird.
I have sung…but I’m not particularly great at keeping tune.  I will definitely sing with a group.  I did try Karaoke in China (it’s big over there) when I was there and I’m pretty sure they have autotune because I sounded a lot better than I thought I would.  I dabble at the piano.
My three:
What kind of car do you drive?
What is your favorite music?
It sounds like we a making a good connection…do you agree?
sensuous footrub with your legs on my lap against me…
brett
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Date: Fri, Aug 28 2015 8:22 PM
From: Sassy
To: brett
Subject: re: Connection
Hiya Brett, 
It is such a treat to get your messages!  I hope you don’t find them too tedious.  I am feeling a connection.  You make me smile.  And tingle.  Good things! 
I went to Acadia National Park on my honeymoon.  🙂  My favorite place is in CO.  Have you been to the Garden of the Gods in Colorado Springs?  There is something about the red rocks that I found uniquely beautiful.  I also adore the halls of Buckingham Palace… probably too much Masterpiece Theatre watching.  And the beach at Trunk Cove on the island of St John… that silly blue water and white sand and… ahhh.  
I have a blue car.  🙂  I didn’t own a car until I was 43.  I was a Dodge Grand Caravan driver for years, hauling people and stuff around for various charities.  A couple years ago Hubby decided he was tired of being everyone’s best friend when they were moving, parking a huge car, and spending too much money on gas.  So he convinced me to get something smaller.  I picked a hatchback.  What about you? 
My musical tastes are eclectic.  I like almost everything, especially if I can sing along.  Folk and Broadway show tunes and modern a cappella.   The Beatles.  Old hymns.  Rock.  50’s.  60’s.  70s.  80s.  The Hallelujah Chorus!  My favorite musician is David Wilcox, an American folk singer from NC, similar to James Taylor.  He is an extraordinary guitarist, and a musical storyteller.  He can wash a load of clothes and come back with a song, or touch on the toughest moments the human heart faces with humor and tact.  Tell me your favorites? 
Sweet sexy dreams! 
-S
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Date: Fri, 08/28/15 at 11:34 PM
From: Brett 
To: Sassy 
RE: Connection
Sassy,
I too enjoy receiving your emails.  It can never be too tedious connecting with another soul.  
I drive a Prius…always practical.  I get 50MPG.  I take the back roads to work to avoid running at highway speeds that kill MPGs and it’s only a few minutes longer.
My musical tastes run all over the map.  My favorite band is Pink Floyd, something about their haunting guitar solos.  Classic Rock is what I listen to mostly.  I’m also a BIG fan of the B3, so any band/musician that plays that will be a hit with me.  The blues and gospel often feature B3 virtuosos.  Bach on the pipe organ is also high on my list.  I really like most music but not twangy bluegrass.  Sometime bluegrass is played in a bluesy style so that’s tolerable.  My daughter really likes drum and bass music and I can even chill out to that.  That sounds pretty ecletic to me.
Do you play a musical instrument?
My favorite song is “Great Gig in the Sky”.  Sadly Pink Floyd won’t be doing any more concerts and I never saw them live, but I do go to some Pink Floyd tribute bands when they are in the area and they really do put on quite a show.  I just went to see Deep Purple about a month ago.  Theirs was my first record purchase when I was a kid.  I still remember that I had to pay the premium price of $5.00 for that album.
Are you at all a sports fan?  I gave up on baseball when we couldn’t get games without cable, never liked basketball but football and hockey are my favorites.  A group of us at work are doing another year of fantasy football and that starts Wednesday.  Just in time to coincide with the end of golf season.
Do you have a big family?  brothers and sisters?  
Got to get to bed, I have an 8:00 AM meeting tomorrow morning.
brett
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Date: Sat, Aug 29 2015 12:48 AM
From: Sassy
To: brett
Subject: re: Connection
Hiya Brett, 
Wow… you stayed up late writing.  Yay!  I will do the same.  It’s fun poking around in your head.  
Ah… a Prius!  Great car!  Hubby wanted one but he couldn’t fit in it.  
Can you send me a youtube link of a good example of your B3 faves?  
I used to play the piano.  Even composed a few songs.  But I haven’t touched it for ages.  
My dad was a Yankees fan and took me to the Old Yankee stadium when I was 12.  I switched to the Red Sox when I moved here and was a baseball fanatic until the strike in 1994 that ended the season early.  Never got back into it with the same intensity but I do keep an eye on them.  I hadn’t been to Fenway in forever but won a ticket to a game with a gang from work earlier this year – got to see Brock Holt hit for the cycle and they actually won!  Never been to hockey or football.  I did get a free ticket to the Ryder Cup when it was in Brookline years ago.  Fun to stroll those beautiful grounds following Tiger Woods around.  I was a total figure skating junkie until about 10 years ago.  I traveled all over the world with my younger sister to Worlds, Nationals etc. and met most of the big name skaters and their families.  The rule changes and increased ticket prices stopped me.  I do still go when they’re in town and already have tickets for Worlds at the Garden next March!  
I have two sisters – one older and one younger!  The older one is a challenge to deal with, tries to be a second mother.  The younger one is my best pal.  She and I help run a community project in our spare time.  My mom is still around, in a lovely assisted living community.  What about you? 
My big Saturday plan is lunch with my Mom.  She likes to get out and about.  
Here’s to workouts of a different kind.  😉

-S


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Sassy replies

August 27, 2015 Thursday

I had a few minutes in between getting everything set up for the big event at work and when it started so I pulled out my laptop and replied to Mister_C.
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Date:  Aug 27th – 8:49am
From:  Sassy
Message:
Good morning MC! Hope your day is off to a grand start. The weather is perfect! I’m running a big conference, so the good weather makes all that so much easier. 

I was a completely mundane, faithful wife until 5 years ago. Hubby and I are great friends, but he decided he wasn’t interested in touching me anymore. I thought that part of my life was over. An old flame from high school found me after 37 years. We had only held hands in the cafeteria and kissed under the stairs for about three weeks, yet I stuck in his mind and he wanted to see if the flames still burned. He talked me into meeting him in D.C. “for dinner.” I figured he’d never touch an old curvy married lady, but he did! We had a grand time, but he was married, military, miles away… he encouraged me to find a local option. Then I got cancer four years ago and spent 9 months fighting that… taught me a lot including the whole “life is short” lesson. I want a full life, including sex! 

Several of my friends encouraged me to join Ashley Madison. I figured no one would respond, but they did! It doesn’t feel like the right place for me, but another step on my way to where I belong. I spent all my emotions on the old flame, so I’m only looking for passion and fun now. Hubby does his thing and I do mine. I know a lot about not getting caught to help my friends and the men I meet, but I don’t have to worry about it for myself. I promised to look after him – he’s a creative type who can’t manage the daily aspects of life – and I will continue to do that.

Very glad to hear you knew the right way to join AM. I talked to folks last night who are getting blackmail emails (the men) or random requests for sex (the women). It’s ugly. I’m closed to the character limit, so I’ll continue in another message. Mwah!

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Date:  Aug 27th – 8:49am
From:  Sassy
Message:
Hi again! So what’s your favorite type of restaurant? My favorite has lobster. I also adore Chinese, Thai, Vietnamese and even a good steak now and then. I look for cheap, fast and good. Tough to find all three! 

Sorry if I crossed the line too fast for you! Men who push to meet right away feel fast to me. It’s been a long while since a man hugged me, so I am ready for a good long hug! And life is short… 

We can switch to email and chat soon. Do you use gmail or yahoo or something else? Sadly I’ve met some bad men, so it takes me a little while to trust enough to set a meet, but I am not an email queen. I am interested in face-to-face! 

Do you have children? I have two cats – rambunctious brothers – who entertain me. Want to share something about your work? I’m an office manager, that efficient woman in the back office who makes everything run smoothly and no one notices. 🙂 

I can take off for daytime adventures, or do late afternoon meets/dinners and weekends. I know you probably have way more limits and I am used to dealing with that. If you can find time every other week or so? I want you to be cautious and stay safe, while having great adventures. Hugs with groping! And an ear nibble. 😉 -Sassy

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Date: Aug 27th – 7:39pm
Message:
Sassy, 
My favorite type of dining is casual, I’m not a big fan of fancy but can do it if it fits. Having grown up near the sea, I find it strange that I’m not really a lobster fan. Once a year is enough for me on lobster, my seafood is fried clams. I love asian in both of its forms, americanized and authentic. I’m 
comfortable in a dive bar (within limits) chowing down on bar favorites as well. 
My email is (put it together without spaces…I’m not sure if AM filters) [redacted] 
I won’t go on AM at work so if you send a message I can’t reply til evening. Using the outlook would fix that. 
I know I’m not a bad man but I want you to be comfortable before a meet. And we can do it in a place of your choice. 
Two children. Both grown and living away from home.

I am a professional working in an office. I traditionally have put in lots of hours, so it’s not too suspicious if I arrive home late. It’s time to reap some benefits of that. Together we would figure out how to proceed. 
Got to go for now but I’ll check in a little later. 
wisp of a breath in the ear 
MC


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It’s raining men

August 26, 2015 Wednesday

What is going on?  When it rains, it pours!

I swear when I write to one man on Ashley Madison, the site posts my profile somewhere more men see it and all of sudden I am hearing from another man, and another man… so after a 5 month drought, I am flooded with messages.

Philip is away, 10-minute man is writing every day, and work is nuts?  Not the best time for more.  So of course, a new fellow wrote to me last night!  That’s the third one this month with CT Man and 10-minute man.

I am not in the mood to talk with yet another guy but there was something about his profile and his first message… he is about my age, 6″ 200 pounds, never smoked, about an hour away, anything goes, writes well, no typos and put in a lot of info I would usually ask about.  And he read my profile!  He seems… kind.  And polite.  And smart.  And lonely.  You know I want to help!  : )

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Date:  Aug 25th – 11:01pm
From:  Mister_C
Message:

Sassy, I read your profile and I’m intrigued enough to follow up. I think I fit your profile and just squeak in at 6′ in height. Sounds like we both need a little bit of being nice to each other. Being from the western burbs means a little travel, but if we’re a fit this would just add a little to the adventure. Check out my profile and if you think we might be a fit, message me back. Hell, message me back anyway, I’d be interested to hear about your experiences on AM. What do you think about the AM big data breach? Hope to hear from you soon. Mister_C

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Date:  Aug 26th – 1:07pm
From:  Sassy
Message: 
Hiya MC! Thanks for your sweet message and for writing such an informative profile! And for reading my words. What brings you to AM at this point in your life? How did you hear about it? AM can be fascinating, frustrating and lots of fun! Is the data breach worrying you? Several friends on AM are fretting about being outed, so I am reading a lot about it and try to keep them calm. I am sad it happened to hurt folks who are just trying to live life and find others in the same boat. I keep my philandering adventures separate from my “real life” – the only thing exposed is my mischief email, so I feel mostly protected. Many things you said resonate with me. Certainly seems like we should explore further! Feel free to ask me what you’d like to know to figure out if we’ll click. Hugs with groping! -Sassy
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Date:  Aug 26th – 11:11pm
From:  Mister_C
Message:
Access to Private Showcase Attached. Please click the “key” icon.

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He sent me two photos!  He’s cute.  Great smile!  And he has hair!  I searched Google Images to see if he’d used public photos published somewhere else, but nothing came up.  Smart man.  

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Date:  Aug 26th – 11:11pm
From:  Mister_C
Message:
Sassy, What brings me to AM? I joined fairly recently, about a year ago. An unfulfilled marriage leaves a part of my life empty and I want to fill some of that void while I have something to give. (BTW…I’m always amazed at what I’m willing to say in the anonymity of the web). I’m not even sure how I heard about AM, perhaps I saw an AD in NYC, or on the web. I’m not too worried about the data breach. I used a prepaid credit card, no name on it and also have a separate email. I don’t live where I said, I work there so I think that adds another level of protection. I did try to leave the marriage a few years ago but it was clear it would have been too emotionally taxing on the spouse so I ended up staying. We did marriage counseling, but nothing is really fixed and I can’t leave her in the lurch. What is your situation? I love a wide variety of restaurants, although I must admit that Indian is not my favorite. Wow, you’re at hugs with groping already. You move fast. I’m not sure I’ll be able to keep up with you. Do you prefer continuing the messaging, or chat? I can do both but I really prefer face to face meetings. You can tell so much more looking directly into someones eyes and we could have much more revealing discussion. Do you work? How much time would you envision spending together should we decide we click? I’m not interested in upsetting the apple cart at home, so there are obvious limitations to avoid suspicion. Hope to hear from you soon! MC

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Awww… he sounds so nice!  I was so tired I couldn’t write an answer, so I went to bed smiling and planning to write tomorrow.


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Correct the ratio

August 26, 2015 Wednesday
Date:  Aug 26th – 12:39pm
From:  Sassy
To: 10-Minute Man
Message:
Hiya Handsome! Hope you’re having a great day. You working? Playing? I’m mired in running a conference… hundreds of people swirling around me and I am thinking quite naughty thoughts of you! Whee! Hugs with groping! -Sassy
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Date:  Aug 26th – 4:47pm
From:  10-Minute Man
To: Sassy
Message:
I’ve been in a mix of mostly work with little play; was hoping that you could correct this lopsided ratio. Seems yours has tipped unfavorably to work as well…don’t let them grind the sassiness out of you…I’d like some left over for us to share! :-p


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Inexplicable

August 26, 2015 Wednesday

8:02pm
The Red Sox are not renewing the contract of the announcer everyone likes.  Usually I can understand the reasoning behind their decisions, even I don’t agree.  This one has me stumped.

Does anyone understand this decision?

In a season of losses, Don Orsillo’s firing the worst of all

http://www.espn.com/blog/boston/red-sox/post/_/id/46455/in-a-season-of-losses-don-orsillos-firing-the-worst-of-all

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Sassiness stolen

August 25, 2015 Tuesday
Date:  Aug 25th – 8:58pm
From:  10-Minute Man
To: Sassy
Message:
Thinking of all your Sassiness! :-p
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Wow!  He’s keeping in touch! Not saying much, but it is something.  Too bad I don’t feel like writing back… I am never like this but somehow his brevity and my prepping for the big conferences is stealing my ability to respond.  Ah well… maybe tomorrow. 
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Still Together

August 25, 2015 Tuesday

2:27pm 
How cool is this… The couple from the Woodstock album cover are still together, 46 years later!!

Notice the original photo on the wall.  🙂 

https://www.facebook.com/1073TheWave/photos/a.241805832568070.57964.206481266100527/869292349819412/

Here’s an article with more details:
http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/a-woodstock-moment-40-years-later-33569550/?no-ist



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Bon Voyage

August 24, 2015 Monday

7:49am
Good morning kid! Bon Voyage!

7:53am Phil
Thank you! Heading to board the ship now

7:53am
I’m headed to work early to greet the new employees. Whee!

7:58am Phil
Have a great day!

4:40pm Phil
[photo of him in shades neck high in a pool with a drink smiling at the camera]

4:46pm
Yay!