Guessing game

Wednesday April 16, 2014
Kris: Hope your event went well yesterday. (With all my “blah, blah, blah” never said so.). Hope u have a good day today….still “Frisky” for u…. 🙂 7:37 AM
Me: Good morning hot stuff! Event went well except for horrible weather, coolers that leaked all over near the bar and speaker stuck in NYC! Whee! 9:52 AM
Me: Hope you have a wonderful Wednesday! 9:53 AM
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Kris: Do u like surprises? (devilish grin) 2:14 PM
Me: Sure! (silly grin) 2:48 PM
Kris: K….just take all my craziness in stride….while i scheme 2:54 PM
Me: Uh oh 3:07 PM
Kris: Heh, heh, heh (sinister snicker) 3:45 PM
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Kris: Can u chat? 7:29 PM
Me: Just got home. Give me 10 min? 7:32 PM
Kris: Give me 20….and i have a surprise for you!!!  humor me and try to guess what it is….when we chat. you get three guesses. if u guess right u get a $50 gift certificate to a store of your choice. if u guess wrong u still get a fun offer just for being a good sport and playing along. so put on your thinking cap and i’ll be on in 20…..Crazy Kris. 7:48 PM
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·       Apr 16 8:20 PM Kris: Hi!
·       Apr 16 8:21 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Apr 16 8:21 PM Kris: ok….so will you play a guessing game with me?
·       Apr 16 8:21 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 16 8:22 PM Kris: ok…before you try guessing tell me how your day was
·       Apr 16 8:24 PM Sassy: Not great. But I have high hopes for tomorrow.
·       Apr 16 8:24 PM Kris: oh? what happened today and what r u hoping for tomorrow?
·       Apr 16 8:26 PM Sassy: Took Mom in to finish her taxes at H&R Block… big mess. Found out her broker has been creating capital gains like crazy. And the Post Office closed at 5 PM.
·       Apr 16 8:27 PM Kris: he’s been “churning” her account…do you know what that means?
·       Apr 16 8:27 PM Sassy: yes. I used to manage pension funds, know a fair amt
·       Apr 16 8:28 PM Kris: i trade options online…will tell you about it another time…go on
·       Apr 16 8:28 PM Sassy: so ticked
·       Apr 16 8:28 PM Kris: a-hole, eh?
·       Apr 16 8:29 PM Sassy: asked her to talk with her friends, help me find someone better
·       Apr 16 8:29 PM Kris: anything else bad happen today?
·       Apr 16 8:31 PM Sassy: No. That was enough
·       Apr 16 8:31 PM Kris: sounds horrible…is she open to finding someone different?
·       Apr 16 8:31 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 16 8:32 PM Kris: that’s good…..
·       Apr 16 8:32 PM Kris: ok….if you’re not in the mood to play my silly guessing game i’ll just tell you what the “surprise” is….which way do you want to go?
·       Apr 16 8:34 PM Sassy: play
·       Apr 16 8:34 PM Kris: ok…before you start guessing i’m going to ask you a few questions or make some statements that are “clues”… ready?
·       Apr 16 8:34 PM Sassy: Sounds great!
·       Apr 16 8:35 PM Kris: ok…first question: Did you eat dinner already?
·       Apr 16 8:35 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 16 8:35 PM Kris: ok….statement: It would be nice if I were closer to you right now…then maybe we could have dessert and talk face to face…but, oh well…it is what it is….
·       Apr 16 8:36 PM Sassy: that’s so true
·       Apr 16 8:36 PM Kris: ok….so now you get 3 guesses….remember….a $50 gift certificate is riding on this….so here you go…what’s your first guess?
·       Apr 16 8:37 PM Sassy: photos of you?
·       Apr 16 8:37 PM Kris: no…one down two to go
·       Apr 16 8:38 PM Sassy: chocolate?
·       Apr 16 8:38 PM Kris: close…..but not exactly…two down….one to go
·       Apr 16 8:39 PM Sassy: hmmm
·       Apr 16 8:39 PM Kris: want another clue?
·       Apr 16 8:39 PM Sassy: may I?
·       Apr 16 8:40 PM Kris: ok…here it is…I REALLY wish I were very close to you right now….
·       Apr 16 8:41 PM Sassy: SEX?
·       Apr 16 8:42 PM Kris: that would be wonderful…but sorry that’s not it…so i’ll tell you.
·       Apr 16 8:43 PM Kris: i’m sitting at Finale’s in Harvard Square with a dozen roses sitting on the table waiting for you to come down here so i can give them to you and buy you dessert and look in your eyes and talk to you and hold your hand….
·       Apr 16 8:44 PM Sassy: WHAT?
·       Apr 16 8:44 PM Kris: 30 dunster st….corner of dunster and mt. auburn….are u coming?
·       Apr 16 8:46 PM Sassy: Sure.
·       Apr 16 8:46 PM Sassy: Where did you park? 
·       Apr 16 8:47 PM Kris: street nearby…got lucky…but there’s a parking garage right across the street from here…
·       Apr 16 8:47 PM Sassy: Ok. I have to get dressed… hang on!
·       Apr 16 8:48 PM Sassy: HOLY SHIT!
·       Apr 16 8:48 PM Kris: SURPRISE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 16 8:48 PM Sassy: You are something.
·       Apr 16 8:48 PM Kris:  ;D
·       Apr 16 8:56 PM Kris: right!….see you soon!
·       Apr 16 8:56 PM Sassy: Mwah!
·       Apr 16 8:56 PM Kris: back at ya!
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Me: In my car 9:00 PM
Kris: :)…let me know when you’re here so i can greet my “old friend” with a hug and kiss….will that b ok….or too close to home? 9:04 PM
Me: Should be fine. I’ll look around. 9:06 PM
Kris: K 9:06 PM

Sassy STD results

Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Me: Good morning hot stuff! 8:05 AM
Kris: Morning! 8:06 AM
Me: I’m off to work to run a big reception. Whee! Have a terrific Tuesday! 8:06 AM
Kris: Thanks!…u have a great day too! 8:09 AM
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Me: Results! Clean! See email! 9:58 AM
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 10:03 AM
Subject: Results
Here’s the email from my nurse practitioner: 
Date: Tuesday, April 15, 2014, 9:37 AM
Subject: Your Results
Your STI screening tests were all fine.  You have antibodies to type 1 herpes, the virus that causes cold sores.  All the other tests were negative.  You do not have immunity to hepatitis B so you may want to consider getting immunized.   Please let me know if you have any questions.
11363 – CHLAMYDIA/N. GONORRHOEAE RNA, TMA
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
CHLAMYDIA TRACHOMATIS RNA, TMA
NOT DETECTED   
NOT DETECTED      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
NEISSERIA GONORRHOEAE RNA, TMA
NOT DETECTED   
NOT DETECTED      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
COMMENT (SEE BELOW)          4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
This test was performed using the APTIMA COMBO2 Assay
(Gen-Probe Inc.).
The analytical performance characteristics of this 
assay, when used to test SurePath specimens have
been determined by Quest Diagnostics.
  
36126 – RPR (DX) W/REFL TITER AND CONFIRMATORY TESTING
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
RPR (DX) W/REFL TITER AND CONFIRMATORY TESTING NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
37676 – HEPATITIS B CORE AB TOTAL W/REFL IGM
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HEPATITIS B CORE AB TOTAL
NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
499 – HEPATITIS B SURFACE ANTIBODY QL
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HEPATITIS B SURFACE ANTIBODY QL
NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
6447 – HSV 1/2 IGG,TYPE SPECIFIC AB HERPESELECT
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HSV 1 IGG TYPE SPECIFIC AB 4.81   H      
4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
HSV 2 IGG TYPE SPECIFIC AB <0.90         
4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
                          Value          Interpretation
                          —–          ————–
                          <0.90          Negative
                          0.90-1.10      Equivocal
                          >1.10          Positive
This assay utilizes recombinant type-specific antigens
to differentiate HSV-1 from HSV-2 infections. A
positive result cannot distinguish between recent and
past infection. If recent HSV infection is suspected
but the results are negative or equivocal, the assay
should be repeated in 4-6 weeks. The performance
characteristics of the assay have not been established
for pediatric populations, immunocompromised patients,
or neonatal screening.
8472 – HEPATITIS C ANTIBODY
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HEPATITIS C ANTIBODY
NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
SIGNAL TO CUT-OFF 0.04    <1.00     
4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
* Test Performed By QUEST DIAGNOSTICS, INCORPORATED
19728 – HIV AB, HIV 1/2, EIA, WITH REFLEXES
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HIV 1/2 EIA AB SCREEN
NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/11/2014 12:00 PM *
A Nonreactive HIV-1/2 antibody result does not
exclude HIV infection since the time frame for
seroconversion is variable. If acute HIV infection is
suspected, antibody retesting and nucleic acid
amplification (HIV DNA/RNA) testing is recommended.
Effective April 28, 2014, Quest Diagnostics will 
discontinue the HIV-1 Western Blot confirmation and 
replace it with an HIV-1/HIV-2 differentiation assay.
This assay exhibits increased sensitivity over the 
HIV-1 Western Blot test and simultaneously 
differentiates HIV-1 antibody reactivity from HIV-2 
antibody reactivity.
* Test Performed By QUEST DIAGNOSTICS, INCORPORATED
*** END OF FINAL LAB REPORT ***
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 12:02 PM
Subject: Re: Results
Hi Sassie,
Overall that seems to be good news.  I say “seems to be” because I have a few questions.  
1) The summary statement is a little confusing.  It starts by saying: “Your STI screening tests were all fine.”  But then it immediately follows with: “You have antibodies to type 1 herpes, the virus that causes cold sores.”
Could you call and ask for a little more information about the above statement?  “Cold sores” sounds “harmless” enough–but basically they’re saying you’re positive for genital herpes (which doesn’t sound “so nice”).
Based on what I’ve read (which I haven’t had to really do that much of before), you’re positive for one of the two types of viruses (type 1) that causes genital herpes.  Trying to understand how “serious” this is is a little confusing.  “Cold sores” doesn’t sound too serious–but “outbreaks” of it seem to vary in degree.  It can be contracted through oral, anal, or vaginal sex–and wearing a condom apparently doesn’t guarantee not contracting it.  While contact with a person having symptoms (“outbreak” of cold sores) seems to increase risk of transmission–it can be transmitted through the skin of an “a-symptomatic” person with the virus.  Here is a CDC website address you could cut and paste into your browser to read more about genital herpes–and the type 1 and type 2 viruses that cause it:
http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes-detailed.htm
2) Another question I have is:  Were you tested for syphylis?  I don’t see that on the list of your results.  Could you ask about that?
3) And finally, could you get clarification about this statement under HIV:  
“A Nonreactive HIV-1/2 antibody result does not exclude HIV infection since the time frame for seroconversion is variable.  If acute HIV infection is
suspected, antibody retesting and nucleic acid amplification (HIV DNA/RNA) testing is recommended.”
I hope you don’t take this as me not being positive and hopeful.  I just want to know exactly what risks i’m taking–and hopefully you would too.
So if you wouldn’t mind calling and getting a brief consult with the nurse about the above—I would really appreciate it.
 I REALLY want to chat with you about these test results.  Would 10:30 tonight be a possibility to chat?  
They make “cold sores” sound rather “harmless.”  But the reality is they’re talking about genital herpes–which scares me a little.  But I want to talk to you about it.  I think you should be tested for syphilis if you haven’t been.  The “really big one” (HIV) seems to be fine—but I’d still like clarification about my question above.
I want our relationship to continue to be what I feel it has been so far—open, direct and honest.  Otherwise, at least for me, it won’t work.  
If we can’t chat tonight—maybe tomorrow night.
Kris
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Kris: Great news on most…especially “biggie” (hiv). Have some questions…read my email. Would like to chat soon about (or even meet to talk)…Kris 12:13 PM
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 1:10 PM
re: Results 
Hi Kris, 
Thanks for your email.  The way you approach this is wonderful! 
Here are my answers:
1) Herpes
 I have had cold sores all my life.  They are the HS 1 virus.  I have not had an outbreak in a long time, and I get notice long before they break the skin, and have never transmitted them.  I am very careful to avoid contact when they are active.  I have medicine that clears them up, usually about 7-10 days. I have never had genital herpes (HS 2 virus) symptoms.
I also believe you need to have a predisposition to it, as people like my husband who was kissing me all the time, never got it.  And in my family, two of us had it and three didn’t, which would’ve been very hard to explain if skin contact alone transmitted it.  
Finally, I believe they have mostly stopped testing for it, because over 90% of the population tests positive and it is not considered serious, so you are unlikely to find another woman without it. 
2) Syphilis 
I was tested.  The results are listed as 
RPR (DX) W/REFL TITER AND CONFIRMATORY TESTING
You can google that and it says “test for syphilis.” 
3) HIV 
Science doesn’t know how long it takes HIV antibodies to show up in the blood.  I’ve heard 6 weeks to 6 months.  So they’re saying “You don’t have any antibodies right now” but I could have had sex without a condom last weekend and that wouldn’t show up.  So this says at one point in time I didn’t have HIV antibodies but they can’t guarantee that is the case now. 
I am glad to talk more.  I want you to have peace of mind.  I am running this big reception which usually wears me out, but I will try to stay up to talk tonight.  If not, tomorrow for sure. 
-S
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Me: Hiya! Email read. Replied. Off to the reception. We’ll talk. Have a fun meeting! 1:17 PM
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 1:24 PM
Re: Results 
I want to say that if you find any of this too scary, I understand.  I’ll be sad but I don’t want to worry you.  I want you to have fun.  And if you can’t with me, I will wish you the best of luck and be any help I can in helping you find someone you can adore. 
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 1:51 PM
Re: Results
Hi Sassy,
Well–looks like you’ve already “done your homework”–a long time ago–and don’t need to consult with anyone.  Your answers satisfy my curiosity and make sense.  
I didn’t mean that I thought that “skin contact alone” could transmit HS-1.  I based it on a statement on the CDC site–which I interpreted to mean that “under the right conditions” (probably meaning skin that was compromised in some way, a sore, cut, something like that)–that it could be transmitted.  Not something as harmless as “intact-skin to intact-skin” contact. 
Thanks for pointing out the test for syphilis–and explaining what the HIV qualifier meant.
If you’re too tired to chat later no problem.  Because of how direct and clear you are here–all my questions have been answered.  You have once again come through with “flying colors” on being direct, clear, honest and to the point.  Which I SO like about you.  And I still don’t know whether to believe how you manage to be so positive–finding ways to compliment and find good in what I say and do.
As far as this being “scary”—see my reply to your other email on that one.
Kris
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 2:19 PM
re: Results
Hi Sassie!
There’s some small level of risk in my mind knowing that you have the HS-1 virus.  It’s something I need to weigh a little.  I think the risk is very minimal that you would transmit it to me–and the fact that you are very aware of it, know when it’s coming on, and take steps to treat yourself and protect others is HUGE for me.  The truth is, I’m probably more at risk riding a motorcycle than having sex with you and contracting HS-1 (which even if I did contract it– isn’t going to kill me–which a bike very easily can if not handled properly).  My greater concern would be the “longer term implications” of possibly “getting caught” by contracting something there would be “no plausible explanation” for—-which I think you know what I mean by.  But, again, I understand the risk is very minimal.  
Your offer to help me find someone else is sweet—but I would never take you up on that.  I might just get to a point of “giving up” and just accepting my “boring” life—-which actually isn’t that bad compared to what seems to drive a lot of people to AM and similar sites.  But I haven’t “counted us out” based on this.  I may be able to decide in advance—-or if you’d be willing to “take me for another test drive”—maybe that would be the only way for me to really know.
If I “shut down”—-it won’t be a surprise—-if you could handle that if it happened.
Apart from that—there are two other things that I would need from you:
1)  That I can really get you off—and that you receive as much pleasure as you give me.  If I can’t—-you don’t get to have all the “power fun” (I listen very carefully too.  Remember what you said to me after you got me off: “Power”—which is VERY true about sex.  My wife and I used to watch this “raunchy series”– forget the name of it.  She got the series video at a library.  It was about politics and a reporter’s quest to “get the dirt” on politicians.  She was a pretty, ambitious young woman who screwed one prominent senator regularly just so he would feed her inside stories.  So basically–she was an “inside scoop” whore: “You can fuck me senator–but then give me an exclusive story to help my career.”  At one point the senator said to her:  “Everything is about sex–except sex–which is about power.”  That’s kind of an exaggeration–but psychologically it’s at least part of what “gets us off”—knowing we have the “power” to get someone else off.
2)  I could use some help with expenses sometimes–like on rooms–or whatever you can do.  I don’t agree that men should always pay for everything.  I think most women “want their cake and eat it too.”  They don’t want men to be “chauvinist pigs”—-they want equal pay for equal work—–they want equal power in general—-but I don’t see too many “rushing to pick up the tabs” at lunches.
So if: 1) I don’t freak out over you having HS-1, 
2) You seriously cum–and tell me what I need to do to make it happen for you, and
3) You can help with at least some expenses on occasion—I will probably only want to know one more thing—
When and where is the next time I can try to get my brains fucked out by you—and you by me—-and this time “the whole nine yards”.
So am I a little worried?  Maybe.  I don’t know—-yet.  Willing to hang around a little longer to find out?
Still frisky,
Kris
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Kris: Sent two emails….you’ll love the directness of my reply about “scary”. (so when do i get to meet these horny chicks you’re setting me up with)? 2:22 PM
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Kris: I’m almost home….pulling off the highway…had to say this….couldn’t wait….u are one of the kindest, sweetest women i’ve ever met….so you are both “sweet & sassy sauce”….power nap when i get home…online mtg…bed right after….up at 3:30am to do some work …no chatting tonight…..trying to find words….just, well…..thank you…..sweet dreams Sassy. 6:08 PM
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• Apr 15 8:52 PM Kris: Hi, I’m being really bad….like a student texting during class instead of paying attention. I’m listening to the presenter for work as I type this. I’m glad to be part of it—but it’s starting out “a little slow”…rather be chatting with you…but have to “restrain/control” myself. Read my last text message (if you didn’t)—you are SO SWEET….I just can’t get over it.
• Apr 15 8:54 PM Sassy: Naughty man.
• Apr 15 8:56 PM Kris: omg…..my heart is pounding and i don’t know what to do….i can’t stay on here with you right now….did you read my texts/emails?
• Apr 15 8:56 PM Sassy: Yes. There’s plenty of time tomorrow. Go do your thing.
• Apr 15 8:56 PM Kris: are we still good for now?
• Apr 15 8:57 PM Sassy: Sure
• Apr 15 8:57 PM Kris: ok….i have to pull myself away…..talk to you tomorrow….nite sweet Sassy!

• Apr 15 8:58 PM Sassy: Nite nite

Sassy STD results

Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Me: Good morning hot stuff! 8:05 AM
Kris: Morning! 8:06 AM
Me: I’m off to work to run a big reception. Whee! Have a terrific Tuesday! 8:06 AM
Kris: Thanks!…u have a great day too! 8:09 AM
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Me: Results! Clean! See email! 9:58 AM
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 10:03 AM
Subject: Results
Here’s the email from my nurse practitioner: 
Date: Tuesday, April 15, 2014, 9:37 AM
Subject: Your Results
Your STI screening tests were all fine.  You have antibodies to type 1 herpes, the virus that causes cold sores.  All the other tests were negative.  You do not have immunity to hepatitis B so you may want to consider getting immunized.   Please let me know if you have any questions.
11363 – CHLAMYDIA/N. GONORRHOEAE RNA, TMA
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
CHLAMYDIA TRACHOMATIS RNA, TMA
NOT DETECTED   
NOT DETECTED      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
NEISSERIA GONORRHOEAE RNA, TMA
NOT DETECTED   
NOT DETECTED      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
COMMENT (SEE BELOW)          4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
This test was performed using the APTIMA COMBO2 Assay
(Gen-Probe Inc.).
The analytical performance characteristics of this 
assay, when used to test SurePath specimens have
been determined by Quest Diagnostics.
  
36126 – RPR (DX) W/REFL TITER AND CONFIRMATORY TESTING
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
RPR (DX) W/REFL TITER AND CONFIRMATORY TESTING NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
37676 – HEPATITIS B CORE AB TOTAL W/REFL IGM
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HEPATITIS B CORE AB TOTAL
NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
499 – HEPATITIS B SURFACE ANTIBODY QL
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HEPATITIS B SURFACE ANTIBODY QL
NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
6447 – HSV 1/2 IGG,TYPE SPECIFIC AB HERPESELECT
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HSV 1 IGG TYPE SPECIFIC AB 4.81   H      
4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
HSV 2 IGG TYPE SPECIFIC AB <0.90         
4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
                          Value          Interpretation
                          —–          ————–
                          <0.90          Negative
                          0.90-1.10      Equivocal
                          >1.10          Positive
This assay utilizes recombinant type-specific antigens
to differentiate HSV-1 from HSV-2 infections. A
positive result cannot distinguish between recent and
past infection. If recent HSV infection is suspected
but the results are negative or equivocal, the assay
should be repeated in 4-6 weeks. The performance
characteristics of the assay have not been established
for pediatric populations, immunocompromised patients,
or neonatal screening.
8472 – HEPATITIS C ANTIBODY
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HEPATITIS C ANTIBODY
NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
SIGNAL TO CUT-OFF 0.04    <1.00     
4/14/2014 9:00 AM *
* Test Performed By QUEST DIAGNOSTICS, INCORPORATED
19728 – HIV AB, HIV 1/2, EIA, WITH REFLEXES
Test Name Result Flag(s) Reference Range Reported Date Footnote
HIV 1/2 EIA AB SCREEN
NON-REACTIVE   
NON-REACTIVE      4/11/2014 12:00 PM *
A Nonreactive HIV-1/2 antibody result does not
exclude HIV infection since the time frame for
seroconversion is variable. If acute HIV infection is
suspected, antibody retesting and nucleic acid
amplification (HIV DNA/RNA) testing is recommended.
Effective April 28, 2014, Quest Diagnostics will 
discontinue the HIV-1 Western Blot confirmation and 
replace it with an HIV-1/HIV-2 differentiation assay.
This assay exhibits increased sensitivity over the 
HIV-1 Western Blot test and simultaneously 
differentiates HIV-1 antibody reactivity from HIV-2 
antibody reactivity.
* Test Performed By QUEST DIAGNOSTICS, INCORPORATED
*** END OF FINAL LAB REPORT ***
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 12:02 PM
Subject: Re: Results
Hi Sassie,
Overall that seems to be good news.  I say “seems to be” because I have a few questions.  
1) The summary statement is a little confusing.  It starts by saying: “Your STI screening tests were all fine.”  But then it immediately follows with: “You have antibodies to type 1 herpes, the virus that causes cold sores.”
Could you call and ask for a little more information about the above statement?  “Cold sores” sounds “harmless” enough–but basically they’re saying you’re positive for genital herpes (which doesn’t sound “so nice”).
Based on what I’ve read (which I haven’t had to really do that much of before), you’re positive for one of the two types of viruses (type 1) that causes genital herpes.  Trying to understand how “serious” this is is a little confusing.  “Cold sores” doesn’t sound too serious–but “outbreaks” of it seem to vary in degree.  It can be contracted through oral, anal, or vaginal sex–and wearing a condom apparently doesn’t guarantee not contracting it.  While contact with a person having symptoms (“outbreak” of cold sores) seems to increase risk of transmission–it can be transmitted through the skin of an “a-symptomatic” person with the virus.  Here is a CDC website address you could cut and paste into your browser to read more about genital herpes–and the type 1 and type 2 viruses that cause it:
http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes-detailed.htm
2) Another question I have is:  Were you tested for syphylis?  I don’t see that on the list of your results.  Could you ask about that?
3) And finally, could you get clarification about this statement under HIV:  
“A Nonreactive HIV-1/2 antibody result does not exclude HIV infection since the time frame for seroconversion is variable.  If acute HIV infection is
suspected, antibody retesting and nucleic acid amplification (HIV DNA/RNA) testing is recommended.”
I hope you don’t take this as me not being positive and hopeful.  I just want to know exactly what risks i’m taking–and hopefully you would too.
So if you wouldn’t mind calling and getting a brief consult with the nurse about the above—I would really appreciate it.
 I REALLY want to chat with you about these test results.  Would 10:30 tonight be a possibility to chat?  
They make “cold sores” sound rather “harmless.”  But the reality is they’re talking about genital herpes–which scares me a little.  But I want to talk to you about it.  I think you should be tested for syphilis if you haven’t been.  The “really big one” (HIV) seems to be fine—but I’d still like clarification about my question above.
I want our relationship to continue to be what I feel it has been so far—open, direct and honest.  Otherwise, at least for me, it won’t work.  
If we can’t chat tonight—maybe tomorrow night.
Kris
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Kris: Great news on most…especially “biggie” (hiv). Have some questions…read my email. Would like to chat soon about (or even meet to talk)…Kris 12:13 PM
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 1:10 PM
re: Results 
Hi Kris, 
Thanks for your email.  The way you approach this is wonderful! 
Here are my answers:
1) Herpes
 I have had cold sores all my life.  They are the HS 1 virus.  I have not had an outbreak in a long time, and I get notice long before they break the skin, and have never transmitted them.  I am very careful to avoid contact when they are active.  I have medicine that clears them up, usually about 7-10 days. I have never had genital herpes (HS 2 virus) symptoms.
I also believe you need to have a predisposition to it, as people like my husband who was kissing me all the time, never got it.  And in my family, two of us had it and three didn’t, which would’ve been very hard to explain if skin contact alone transmitted it.  
Finally, I believe they have mostly stopped testing for it, because over 90% of the population tests positive and it is not considered serious, so you are unlikely to find another woman without it. 
2) Syphilis 
I was tested.  The results are listed as 
RPR (DX) W/REFL TITER AND CONFIRMATORY TESTING
You can google that and it says “test for syphilis.” 
3) HIV 
Science doesn’t know how long it takes HIV antibodies to show up in the blood.  I’ve heard 6 weeks to 6 months.  So they’re saying “You don’t have any antibodies right now” but I could have had sex without a condom last weekend and that wouldn’t show up.  So this says at one point in time I didn’t have HIV antibodies but they can’t guarantee that is the case now. 
I am glad to talk more.  I want you to have peace of mind.  I am running this big reception which usually wears me out, but I will try to stay up to talk tonight.  If not, tomorrow for sure. 
-S
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Me: Hiya! Email read. Replied. Off to the reception. We’ll talk. Have a fun meeting! 1:17 PM
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 1:24 PM
Re: Results 
I want to say that if you find any of this too scary, I understand.  I’ll be sad but I don’t want to worry you.  I want you to have fun.  And if you can’t with me, I will wish you the best of luck and be any help I can in helping you find someone you can adore. 
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 1:51 PM
Re: Results
Hi Sassy,
Well–looks like you’ve already “done your homework”–a long time ago–and don’t need to consult with anyone.  Your answers satisfy my curiosity and make sense.  
I didn’t mean that I thought that “skin contact alone” could transmit HS-1.  I based it on a statement on the CDC site–which I interpreted to mean that “under the right conditions” (probably meaning skin that was compromised in some way, a sore, cut, something like that)–that it could be transmitted.  Not something as harmless as “intact-skin to intact-skin” contact. 
Thanks for pointing out the test for syphilis–and explaining what the HIV qualifier meant.
If you’re too tired to chat later no problem.  Because of how direct and clear you are here–all my questions have been answered.  You have once again come through with “flying colors” on being direct, clear, honest and to the point.  Which I SO like about you.  And I still don’t know whether to believe how you manage to be so positive–finding ways to compliment and find good in what I say and do.
As far as this being “scary”—see my reply to your other email on that one.
Kris
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2014 2:19 PM
re: Results
Hi Sassie!
There’s some small level of risk in my mind knowing that you have the HS-1 virus.  It’s something I need to weigh a little.  I think the risk is very minimal that you would transmit it to me–and the fact that you are very aware of it, know when it’s coming on, and take steps to treat yourself and protect others is HUGE for me.  The truth is, I’m probably more at risk riding a motorcycle than having sex with you and contracting HS-1 (which even if I did contract it– isn’t going to kill me–which a bike very easily can if not handled properly).  My greater concern would be the “longer term implications” of possibly “getting caught” by contracting something there would be “no plausible explanation” for—-which I think you know what I mean by.  But, again, I understand the risk is very minimal.  
Your offer to help me find someone else is sweet—but I would never take you up on that.  I might just get to a point of “giving up” and just accepting my “boring” life—-which actually isn’t that bad compared to what seems to drive a lot of people to AM and similar sites.  But I haven’t “counted us out” based on this.  I may be able to decide in advance—-or if you’d be willing to “take me for another test drive”—maybe that would be the only way for me to really know.
If I “shut down”—-it won’t be a surprise—-if you could handle that if it happened.
Apart from that—there are two other things that I would need from you:
1)  That I can really get you off—and that you receive as much pleasure as you give me.  If I can’t—-you don’t get to have all the “power fun” (I listen very carefully too.  Remember what you said to me after you got me off: “Power”—which is VERY true about sex.  My wife and I used to watch this “raunchy series”– forget the name of it.  She got the series video at a library.  It was about politics and a reporter’s quest to “get the dirt” on politicians.  She was a pretty, ambitious young woman who screwed one prominent senator regularly just so he would feed her inside stories.  So basically–she was an “inside scoop” whore: “You can fuck me senator–but then give me an exclusive story to help my career.”  At one point the senator said to her:  “Everything is about sex–except sex–which is about power.”  That’s kind of an exaggeration–but psychologically it’s at least part of what “gets us off”—knowing we have the “power” to get someone else off.
2)  I could use some help with expenses sometimes–like on rooms–or whatever you can do.  I don’t agree that men should always pay for everything.  I think most women “want their cake and eat it too.”  They don’t want men to be “chauvinist pigs”—-they want equal pay for equal work—–they want equal power in general—-but I don’t see too many “rushing to pick up the tabs” at lunches.
So if: 1) I don’t freak out over you having HS-1, 
2) You seriously cum–and tell me what I need to do to make it happen for you, and
3) You can help with at least some expenses on occasion—I will probably only want to know one more thing—
When and where is the next time I can try to get my brains fucked out by you—and you by me—-and this time “the whole nine yards”.
So am I a little worried?  Maybe.  I don’t know—-yet.  Willing to hang around a little longer to find out?
Still frisky,
Kris
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Kris: Sent two emails….you’ll love the directness of my reply about “scary”. (so when do i get to meet these horny chicks you’re setting me up with)? 2:22 PM
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Kris: I’m almost home….pulling off the highway…had to say this….couldn’t wait….u are one of the kindest, sweetest women i’ve ever met….so you are both “sweet & sassy sauce”….power nap when i get home…online mtg…bed right after….up at 3:30am to do some work …no chatting tonight…..trying to find words….just, well…..thank you…..sweet dreams Sassy. 6:08 PM
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• Apr 15 8:52 PM Kris: Hi, I’m being really bad….like a student texting during class instead of paying attention. I’m listening to the presenter for work as I type this. I’m glad to be part of it—but it’s starting out “a little slow”…rather be chatting with you…but have to “restrain/control” myself. Read my last text message (if you didn’t)—you are SO SWEET….I just can’t get over it.
• Apr 15 8:54 PM Sassy: Naughty man.
• Apr 15 8:56 PM Kris: omg…..my heart is pounding and i don’t know what to do….i can’t stay on here with you right now….did you read my texts/emails?
• Apr 15 8:56 PM Sassy: Yes. There’s plenty of time tomorrow. Go do your thing.
• Apr 15 8:56 PM Kris: are we still good for now?
• Apr 15 8:57 PM Sassy: Sure
• Apr 15 8:57 PM Kris: ok….i have to pull myself away…..talk to you tomorrow….nite sweet Sassy!

• Apr 15 8:58 PM Sassy: Nite nite

Planning A Sexy Lunch

Saturday, April 12, 2014

·       Apr 12 11:05 PM Kris: Hi!…You are awesome….you made my day….twice in the last hour…..
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Sassy: How’d I do that??
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Kris: first by texting me to ask me if i wanted to chat.
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Kris: i was feeling sorry for myself….
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Kris: i was ready to go sulk in a corner for the rest of the night
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Kris: then you texted me…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: it cheered me up completely…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: it made me happy…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: it gave me something to look forward to…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: #2…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: i just read your email…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: you are SO nice…are you real?
·       Apr 12 11:08 PM Kris: ok…your turn
·       Apr 12 11:08 PM Sassy: Hiya Kris
·       Apr 12 11:08 PM Sassy: You are my treat at the end of a crappy day!
·       Apr 12 11:09 PM Kris: well…glad to hear i’m a treat. how was it crappy…what happened?
·       Apr 12 11:09 PM Sassy: eh… Mom waited til the last minute to go to H&R Block, and then she was missing SEVEN different documents
·       Apr 12 11:10 PM Sassy: So rather than go do the project stuff I was supposed to do… I had to go back to her house and sort through piles and… bleh.
·       Apr 12 11:11 PM Sassy: This too shall pass but man…
·       Apr 12 11:12 PM Kris: ok…what would you like to talk about?
·       Apr 12 11:13 PM Sassy: Sucking on you?
·       Apr 12 11:13 PM Kris: ok….lol…..and?
·       Apr 12 11:13 PM Sassy: Deep fierce kissing?
·       Apr 12 11:14 PM Kris: more…..
·       Apr 12 11:14 PM Kris: describe deep fierce kissing

·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: you hold my face with your hands
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: press your lips to mine
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: ask for entry with your tongue
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: check out my dental work
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Kris: lol
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: nibble my lip
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: then ravage me
·       Apr 12 11:16 PM Kris: ravage as in?
·       Apr 12 11:16 PM Sassy: passionate kisses
·       Apr 12 11:16 PM Sassy: maybe some undresing
·       Apr 12 11:16 PM Sassy: a viewing of my famous cleavage?
·       Apr 12 11:17 PM Kris: when/where is this happening…in “theory”…
·       Apr 12 11:17 PM Kris: for the sake of this fantasizing…
·       Apr 12 11:17 PM Sassy: hmmm…
·       Apr 12 11:17 PM Kris: thinking?
·       Apr 12 11:18 PM Sassy: yup
·       Apr 12 11:18 PM Kris: k…pick a good place
·       Apr 12 11:19 PM Sassy: in my car (in reality)
·       Apr 12 11:19 PM Sassy: in a hotel room (in a fantasy)
·       Apr 12 11:19 PM Kris: explain why one is reality and one is fantasy
·       Apr 12 11:20 PM Sassy: one is free and can happen easily and I don’t have my STD results yet
·       Apr 12 11:20 PM Sassy: The other can be reality SOOON
·       Apr 12 11:20 PM Sassy: If I am not typhoid Mary
·       Apr 12 11:21 PM Kris: omg…you’re serious…we’re actually going to have sex…i almost can’t believe it…
·       Apr 12 11:21 PM Kris: think maybe your car tomorrow?
·       Apr 12 11:21 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 12 11:21 PM Kris: omg…i can hardly wait…
·       Apr 12 11:22 PM Kris: to answer you question about lunch…anything but mexican…or spicy food in general…other than that…anything’s fine…have anything in mind?
·       Apr 12 11:23 PM Sassy: What time are you thinking?
·       Apr 12 11:24 PM Kris: any time from noon on…what works for you?
·       Apr 12 11:25 PM Sassy: noon is fine
Apr 12 11:25 PM Kris: k…where?
·       Apr 12 11:26 PM Sassy: I’m looking at the map…
·       Apr 12 11:26 PM Kris: k
·       Apr 12 11:27 PM Kris: going to get a drink…b right back…
·       Apr 12 11:34 PM Kris: back!…find a place?
·       Apr 12 11:34 PM Sassy: I’m thinking of the Ninety-Nine at 194 Cambridge Rd, Woburn
·       Apr 12 11:34 PM Sassy: All-American
·       Apr 12 11:34 PM Sassy: If you can deal with a chain
·       Apr 12 11:35 PM Kris: that’s fine…know it pretty well…have decent food…sounds good
·       Apr 12 11:35 PM Sassy: should be less than an hour from you, won’t have to come down into the city
·       Apr 12 11:35 PM Kris: thanks…for being thoughtful…you’re just so NICE!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Kris: and naughty…
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy: If you know anywhere better, along Rte 93 up that way, say so
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy: It’s about 2 mi off the hwy
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy: But not too many turns
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Kris: that’s fine…see you there at noon…let’s go back to the “other stuff”…
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy:  : )
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy: Wow… about 12 hours and whee!
·       Apr 12 11:37 PM Kris: right!
·       Apr 12 11:37 PM Kris: how long do we have again?
·       Apr 12 11:38 PM Sassy: We’ll see
·       Apr 12 11:38 PM Sassy: I’m supposed to be at a meeting at 5 PM
·       Apr 12 11:38 PM Sassy: But I have to write the report
·       Apr 12 11:38 PM Sassy: I’ve done all I can… am waiting on numbers from others
·       Apr 12 11:39 PM Sassy: Might have to bug out and scoot home to write it
·       Apr 12 11:39 PM Sassy: How long do you have?
·       Apr 12 11:40 PM Kris: let’s see…working out can take a couple of hours (provided she doesn’t try to go at the same time)…then i’ll shop at home depot…i can make excuses for tomorrow for a good 4-5 hours…
·       Apr 12 11:41 PM Sassy: Wow
·       Apr 12 11:42 PM Sassy: Text me when you’re headed that way and I’ll take off too
·       Apr 12 11:42 PM Sassy: Yay!
 Apr 12 11:43 PM Kris: k…should be leaving home around 11 whoopee!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 12 11:43 PM Kris: i’m gonna be more casual…jeans…
·       Apr 12 11:43 PM Sassy: Cool
·       Apr 12 11:43 PM Sassy: Me too
·       Apr 12 11:44 PM Sassy: With a buttons shirt
·       Apr 12 11:45 PM Sassy: That you can unbutton!
·       Apr 12 11:45 PM Sassy: I’m going to park in the private-est spot I can find.
·       Apr 12 11:45 PM Kris: i was “dressed to kill” today…the leather I got is so cool…you’ll love the chaps…my jeans are all that stick out of the front…almost a little embarrassing…almost looks like my cock is hard…but it’s just the jeans bunched up…but now i can’t wear that except i’ll probably wear my jacket.
·       Apr 12 11:45 PM Kris: i can’t wait to unbutton you and play!
·       Apr 12 11:46 PM Sassy: I have a big chest…
·       Apr 12 11:46 PM Kris: i can’t wait!
·       Apr 12 11:47 PM Kris: random question…about the “pics you ordered”…
·       Apr 12 11:47 PM Sassy: ok
·       Apr 12 11:47 PM Kris: i understand the “erect cock” pic…standard fare…but…
·       Apr 12 11:48 PM Kris: the feet in particular intrigued me…and
·       Apr 12 11:48 PM Kris: then the chest and shoulders (i think that’s what you said)…
·       Apr 12 11:48 PM Kris: what is it about those particular parts?
·       Apr 12 11:48 PM Sassy: I like to ask for something non-standard
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Sassy: I’m a sucker for shoulders
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Sassy: and the toes are just silly fun
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Sassy: and easy to shoot
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Kris: oh…i thought maybe you had a “foot fetish” or something…lol
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Sassy: I knew you were thinking that.
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Kris: how?
·       Apr 12 11:50 PM Sassy: I don’t find them sexual but often rubbing a man’s feet, listening to him… can be very comforting…
·       Apr 12 11:50 PM Sassy: to both of us
·       Apr 12 11:50 PM Kris: can i tell you a little story about how one of the women i had an affair with many years ago made me feel good that way?
·       Apr 12 11:51 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 12 11:51 PM Kris: ok…it was the pretty “coke whore”…(sorry…but she really was…even though I didn’t provide her with any…she was mainly my “drinking buddy”…so anyhow…
·       Apr 12 11:52 PM Kris: one night we were on my bed in my little studio apartment…
 Apr 12 11:52 PM Kris: i was separated from my wife for the second time…
·       Apr 12 11:52 PM Kris: and i used to have discolored toe nails…
·       Apr 12 11:52 PM Kris: from a fungus (yucky word)…
·       Apr 12 11:53 PM Kris: so I’m laying on the bed with her and she’s sitting at the foot of the bed and i’ve got bare feet…
·       Apr 12 11:53 PM Sassy: bare other stuff or just feet?
·       Apr 12 11:53 PM Kris: and my wife has continually made fun of them…so …just bare feet…clothed…
·       Apr 12 11:53 PM Kris: so she starts to rub my feet…
·       Apr 12 11:54 PM Kris: and i get self-conscious and say…you may not want to do that…they’re not very good looking…
·       Apr 12 11:54 PM Kris: and she looks at my feet and starts rubbing them more…really nicely and soothing and a little sexy…and says…”there’s nothing wrong with your feet…i like them..” and keeps rubbing them..
·       Apr 12 11:55 PM Kris: and it made me feel like “she’s just accepting me and i’m ok…
·       Apr 12 11:55 PM Kris: and it wasn’t a big sexual thiing…
·       Apr 12 11:55 PM Kris: but it made me feel good…
·       Apr 12 11:55 PM Kris: that’s it…not too “hot”…but I remember it…and it does have something to do with you and me…
·       Apr 12 11:56 PM Kris: your turn
·       Apr 12 11:57 PM Sassy: A long time into knowing my old flame, he began to complain to me about his wife
·       Apr 12 11:57 PM Sassy: And I thought it was great that he was finally being real with me… sharing whatever was on his mind
·       Apr 12 11:58 PM Sassy: He was talking about how he drives four hours home from work on a Friday (he was a geographic bachelor during the week, then went home weekends)
·       Apr 12 11:58 PM Sassy: And all he wanted was a welcome home… a drink, a few snacks and someone to rub his feet and chill out
·       Apr 12 11:59 PM Sassy: And how she would just not be there (out shopping) or be “busy” reading or whatever
·       Apr 12 11:59 PM Sassy: He’d have to come home, make dinner, clean up the mess from a week in the kitchen
·       Apr 12 11:59 PM Sassy: So I stored that away
·       Apr 13 12:00 AMSassy: And the next time I saw him, I brought a bag of snacks and drinks to the hotel
·       Apr 13 12:00 AM Sassy: And when he got in from his day at a conference, I had a little platter of olives, crackers, cheese etc.
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: And I sat him down in the chair and pulled his feet up into my lap
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: and took off his shoes and socks
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: and rubbed his feet and was quiet
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: while he snacked
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: and then listened when he was ready to talk
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: He was astonished that I remembered
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: and that I brought stuff and had it ready for him
·       Apr 13 12:02 AM Sassy: and then let him chill
·       Apr 13 12:02 AM Sassy: He was like a dog that someone had kicked for a long time
·       Apr 13 12:02 AM Sassy: and he couldn’t believe a woman would pet him and let him sit awhile
·       Apr 13 12:03 AM Sassy: Not jump him, not drag him to dinner right away but do what he had longed for
·       Apr 13 12:03 AM Sassy: So I learned a lot of lessons from that
·       Apr 13 12:04 AM Kris: it’s kind of amazing…when you think of how short we’ve actually known each other…but nothing you’ve just said surprises me at all…it’s completely in character with who I think you are…
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: i know you’re listening carefully
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: i know you’re storing little things away…
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: i don’t know how much i’ve given you to use yet…
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: but i know you’ll use whatever i give you…
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: i want to do the same for you…
·       Apr 13 12:06 AMKris: so you need to tell me…what do YOU want/need most?
·       Apr 13 12:06 AM Kris: your turn again
·       Apr 13 12:06 AM Sassy: Talking and listening is crucial.
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Sassy: It takes this from a Wham bam thing to a higher level
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Kris: how am i doing…be honest
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Sassy: Very well!
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Sassy: Many guys want to fuck the first time they see me.
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Sassy: Don’t want to know me, just fuck me
·       Apr 13 12:08 AM Sassy: I get where that come from but it doesn’t go very far
·       Apr 13 12:08 AM Sassy: I could be a blow doll up for all they know or care
·       Apr 13 12:08 AM Sassy: I don’t know the answer to what I want…
·       Apr 13 12:09 AM Sassy: I have to see what you do… and then say “more of that!”
·       Apr 13 12:09 AM Sassy: Sort of like trying a new restaurant
·       Apr 13 12:09 AM Sassy: Have to read the menu first… try different things
·       Apr 13 12:09 AM Sassy: then I know what to order next time
·       Apr 13 12:11 AM Kris: ok…how we do the sex itself matters…but the knowing you as a person part is what “gets me off” as much…which not everyone wants…for some people its’ too much”…casual sex is all they can do and want…I want more…can’t help it…
·       Apr 13 12:12 AM Sassy: That scares me a bit but I am trying to roll with it
·       Apr 13 12:12 AM Kris: i don’t want to scare you…and i know it can be…so i’m trying to understand what you want on that level too…that part is one of the “trickiest” for me…
·       Apr 13 12:13 AM Kris: on some level an affair by definititon IS “casual”…
·       Apr 13 12:13 AM Kris: just is…
·       Apr 13 12:13 AM Kris: and on some level…”uncommitted sex” is “hotter”…
·       Apr 13 12:13 AM Kris: less personal…
·       Apr 13 12:14 AM Kris: but on another level…I want to fuck YOU…not just your body…otherwise…like you say…why not just get a blow up doll or something…does that make any sense?
·       Apr 13 12:15 AM Sassy: Yes. A lot.
·       Apr 13 12:15 AM Kris: so i’m trying to find a “balance” there with you…just so you know…
·       Apr 13 12:15 AM Sassy: I have to be interested in giving you pleasure… for it to be good for me.
·       Apr 13 12:16 AM Sassy: If I don’t care a bit, why bother?
·       Apr 13 12:16 AM Kris: explain…what do you mean you have to be “interested in giving you pleasure”?
·       Apr 13 12:17 AM Sassy: I can’t just use someone
·       Apr 13 12:17 AM Sassy: I need to care about how they feel
·       Apr 13 12:18 AM Sassy: But I also don’t want to get in too deep to where it hurts when I can’t be with them, and I panic when it gets to be longer than usual, and I get “addicted”
·       Apr 13 12:18 AM Kris: what’s longer than usual…so i know when to expect to be dumped…lol?
·       Apr 13 12:19 AM Sassy: Whatever our “usual” turns out to be
·       Apr 13 12:19 AM Sassy: I’ve ridden the roller coaster with the old flame and I want to stay on a more even keel if I can
·       Apr 13 12:20 AM Kris: so what’s your strategy for “staying on an even keel”?
·       Apr 13 12:20 AM Sassy: Try to stay less emotional, if I can. Tough to control though
·       Apr 13 12:20 AM Kris: less emotional how…
·       Apr 13 12:21 AM Sassy: Enjoy when we’re together, not pine too much when we’re not
·       Apr 13 12:21 AM Kris: easier said than done…but we can try…i think staying playful…and for me that means “a little crazy”…helps…
·       Apr 13 12:22 AM Sassy: Not think about this “going anywhere” just enjoy what it is
·       Apr 13 12:23 AM Sassy: But whatever I feel, I feel
·       Apr 13 12:23 AM Kris: it’s going to be fun hopefully for awhile…and at some point it will end…as do all things…and on this point I agree with you…rather not dwell on it too much…when it happens we’ll deal with it then…we’re just starting for God’s sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 13 12:23 AM Sassy: Yup
·       Apr 13 12:23 AM Sassy: Don’t get too far ahead
·       Apr 13 12:24 AM Sassy: Most people are used to be quite linear… first we eat, then we dance, then we play, then we go steady, then engaged, marry, have kids, buy a house…
·       Apr 13 12:24 AM Sassy: This is much more “in a a circle”
·       Apr 13 12:25 AM Kris: except your speed of saying we’re going to actually have sex is comforting…and exciting…i can’t…WHOAA GIRL…started to type the previous but then you typed that…
·       Apr 13 12:26 AM Kris: let me go back to a couple of things i don’t want to forget…then we’re going to see each other soon and should probably say goodnight… couple of things before i forget…
·       Apr 13 12:26 AM Kris: ready?
·       Apr 13 12:27 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 13 12:27 AM Sassy: Thing one
·       Apr 13 12:27 AM Kris: You turn me on because of your appetite for sex…
·       Apr 13 12:28 AM Sassy: We are grown ups. Don’t have to worry about “first base” or whether we kiss on the first date or all that silliness
·       Apr 13 12:29 AM Kris: no…that’s not what i meant…just “in general”…that you really LIKE it…and want it…and want to do it with ME…turns me on…
·       Apr 13 12:29 AM Kris: and secondly…
·       Apr 13 12:30 AM Kris: the initiative you took…grabbing me and kissing me in public…and groping me in a parking lot…now I’ve got little fantasies of “little acts of exhibitionism” in public places going on…and that’s all REALLY DIFFERENT…if you remember…I said sex with my wife wasn’t “bad”…just “the same”…
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Kris: that doesn’t mean I’m looking for something “novel” all the time…
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Sassy: Really? I hope to make it vary
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Kris: but i think you’re going to be LOTS OF FUN…and give me LOTS OF PLEASURE
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Sassy: That’s my plan
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Kris: i’m counting on it
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Sassy: Promise you won’t judge too much based on the first time?
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Kris: no and you too…
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Sassy: I will be nervous and thinking too much
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Kris: so let’s agree about that…and joke about it…
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Sassy: If it’s weird, let’s agree to talk and see if it’s fixable and try again
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Sassy: Keep practicing until we get it right.  : )
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Kris: ok…
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Sassy: Be honest. If after a couple of times it really isn’t working… say so
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Kris: ok
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Sassy: Don’t pity fuck
·       Apr 13 12:34 AM Kris: for either/both of us…
·       Apr 13 12:34 AM Sassy: But I am really really hoping we click!
·       Apr 13 12:34 AM Kris: honestly…i suppose it’s possible…but i will be surprised…disappointed and probably hurt…but surprised…
·       Apr 13 12:35 AM Kris: i don’t know why i think that…just do…
·       Apr 13 12:35 AM Sassy: Hope I am at least “better than nothing.”  ; )
·       Apr 13 12:36 AM Kris: What?????????/ Where did that come from?
·       Apr 13 12:36 AM Sassy: Out of the mouth of a relatively crappy guy
·       Apr 13 12:36 AM Kris: someone said that to you?
·       Apr 13 12:37 AM Sassy: Yup.
·       Apr 13 12:38 AM Kris: omg…you should have kicked him in the balls and run…
·       Apr 13 12:38 AM Sassy: Heh
·       Apr 13 12:38 AM Sassy: Not my style
·       Apr 13 12:38 AM Kris: i know…but what do you do with all the ugly hurt people put on you from time to time?
·       Apr 13 12:39 AM Sassy: Think they’re stupid and tactless and hope to do better next time!
·       Apr 13 12:39 AM Kris: GO SASSY!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 13 12:40 AM Sassy: At the start I would have taken it personally but I have gotten past that stage, thank goodness!
·       Apr 13 12:40 AM Kris: at the start of having sex with different people?
·       Apr 13 12:40 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 13 12:41 AM Kris: i wouldn’t know…i’m a “novice”…
·       Apr 13 12:41 AM Kris: but i’m getting a good education so far…wink
·       Apr 13 12:41 AM Sassy: I hope you never have to hear any bad stuff!
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Kris: men don’t as much…women aren’t as stupid or aggressive in general
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Sassy: I hope you will enjoy
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Kris: you?
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Sassy: It will make you less stressed rather than more
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Sassy: Add joy
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Sassy: Fulfill dreams
·       Apr 13 12:43 AM Kris: has it for you?
·       Apr 13 12:43 AM Sassy: or something like that…  : )
·       Apr 13 12:43 AM Sassy: Definitely
·       Apr 13 12:44 AM Kris: ok…well i guess i’ll find out…and am REALLY looking forward to it…with YOU!
·       Apr 13 12:44 AM Kris: you’re a great kisser…and i get more tomorrow…and i’m going to say goodnight now…any last burning thing you want/need to say?
·       Apr 13 12:45 AM Sassy: Cleavage
·       Apr 13 12:45 AM Kris: omg…feel free to tell me how to play with it…if whatever i do isn’t working…ok?…but not now…tomorrow…but I KNOW i’m going to have fun there…
·       Apr 13 12:46 AM Sassy: Good night dear man
·       Apr 13 12:46 AM Sassy: Sweet sexy dreams!
·       Apr 13 12:47 AM Kris: Good night Sassy Lady…same to you…Mwahhh…will text you when i leave tomorrow…nite!

Planning A Sexy Lunch

Saturday, April 12, 2014

·       Apr 12 11:05 PM Kris: Hi!…You are awesome….you made my day….twice in the last hour…..
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Sassy: How’d I do that??
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Kris: first by texting me to ask me if i wanted to chat.
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Kris: i was feeling sorry for myself….
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Kris: i was ready to go sulk in a corner for the rest of the night
·       Apr 12 11:06 PM Kris: then you texted me…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: it cheered me up completely…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: it made me happy…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: it gave me something to look forward to…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: #2…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: i just read your email…
·       Apr 12 11:07 PM Kris: you are SO nice…are you real?
·       Apr 12 11:08 PM Kris: ok…your turn
·       Apr 12 11:08 PM Sassy: Hiya Kris
·       Apr 12 11:08 PM Sassy: You are my treat at the end of a crappy day!
·       Apr 12 11:09 PM Kris: well…glad to hear i’m a treat. how was it crappy…what happened?
·       Apr 12 11:09 PM Sassy: eh… Mom waited til the last minute to go to H&R Block, and then she was missing SEVEN different documents
·       Apr 12 11:10 PM Sassy: So rather than go do the project stuff I was supposed to do… I had to go back to her house and sort through piles and… bleh.
·       Apr 12 11:11 PM Sassy: This too shall pass but man…
·       Apr 12 11:12 PM Kris: ok…what would you like to talk about?
·       Apr 12 11:13 PM Sassy: Sucking on you?
·       Apr 12 11:13 PM Kris: ok….lol…..and?
·       Apr 12 11:13 PM Sassy: Deep fierce kissing?
·       Apr 12 11:14 PM Kris: more…..
·       Apr 12 11:14 PM Kris: describe deep fierce kissing

·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: you hold my face with your hands
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: press your lips to mine
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: ask for entry with your tongue
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: check out my dental work
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Kris: lol
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: nibble my lip
·       Apr 12 11:15 PM Sassy: then ravage me
·       Apr 12 11:16 PM Kris: ravage as in?
·       Apr 12 11:16 PM Sassy: passionate kisses
·       Apr 12 11:16 PM Sassy: maybe some undresing
·       Apr 12 11:16 PM Sassy: a viewing of my famous cleavage?
·       Apr 12 11:17 PM Kris: when/where is this happening…in “theory”…
·       Apr 12 11:17 PM Kris: for the sake of this fantasizing…
·       Apr 12 11:17 PM Sassy: hmmm…
·       Apr 12 11:17 PM Kris: thinking?
·       Apr 12 11:18 PM Sassy: yup
·       Apr 12 11:18 PM Kris: k…pick a good place
·       Apr 12 11:19 PM Sassy: in my car (in reality)
·       Apr 12 11:19 PM Sassy: in a hotel room (in a fantasy)
·       Apr 12 11:19 PM Kris: explain why one is reality and one is fantasy
·       Apr 12 11:20 PM Sassy: one is free and can happen easily and I don’t have my STD results yet
·       Apr 12 11:20 PM Sassy: The other can be reality SOOON
·       Apr 12 11:20 PM Sassy: If I am not typhoid Mary
·       Apr 12 11:21 PM Kris: omg…you’re serious…we’re actually going to have sex…i almost can’t believe it…
·       Apr 12 11:21 PM Kris: think maybe your car tomorrow?
·       Apr 12 11:21 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 12 11:21 PM Kris: omg…i can hardly wait…
·       Apr 12 11:22 PM Kris: to answer you question about lunch…anything but mexican…or spicy food in general…other than that…anything’s fine…have anything in mind?
·       Apr 12 11:23 PM Sassy: What time are you thinking?
·       Apr 12 11:24 PM Kris: any time from noon on…what works for you?
·       Apr 12 11:25 PM Sassy: noon is fine
Apr 12 11:25 PM Kris: k…where?
·       Apr 12 11:26 PM Sassy: I’m looking at the map…
·       Apr 12 11:26 PM Kris: k
·       Apr 12 11:27 PM Kris: going to get a drink…b right back…
·       Apr 12 11:34 PM Kris: back!…find a place?
·       Apr 12 11:34 PM Sassy: I’m thinking of the Ninety-Nine at 194 Cambridge Rd, Woburn
·       Apr 12 11:34 PM Sassy: All-American
·       Apr 12 11:34 PM Sassy: If you can deal with a chain
·       Apr 12 11:35 PM Kris: that’s fine…know it pretty well…have decent food…sounds good
·       Apr 12 11:35 PM Sassy: should be less than an hour from you, won’t have to come down into the city
·       Apr 12 11:35 PM Kris: thanks…for being thoughtful…you’re just so NICE!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Kris: and naughty…
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy: If you know anywhere better, along Rte 93 up that way, say so
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy: It’s about 2 mi off the hwy
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy: But not too many turns
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Kris: that’s fine…see you there at noon…let’s go back to the “other stuff”…
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy:  : )
·       Apr 12 11:36 PM Sassy: Wow… about 12 hours and whee!
·       Apr 12 11:37 PM Kris: right!
·       Apr 12 11:37 PM Kris: how long do we have again?
·       Apr 12 11:38 PM Sassy: We’ll see
·       Apr 12 11:38 PM Sassy: I’m supposed to be at a meeting at 5 PM
·       Apr 12 11:38 PM Sassy: But I have to write the report
·       Apr 12 11:38 PM Sassy: I’ve done all I can… am waiting on numbers from others
·       Apr 12 11:39 PM Sassy: Might have to bug out and scoot home to write it
·       Apr 12 11:39 PM Sassy: How long do you have?
·       Apr 12 11:40 PM Kris: let’s see…working out can take a couple of hours (provided she doesn’t try to go at the same time)…then i’ll shop at home depot…i can make excuses for tomorrow for a good 4-5 hours…
·       Apr 12 11:41 PM Sassy: Wow
·       Apr 12 11:42 PM Sassy: Text me when you’re headed that way and I’ll take off too
·       Apr 12 11:42 PM Sassy: Yay!
 Apr 12 11:43 PM Kris: k…should be leaving home around 11 whoopee!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 12 11:43 PM Kris: i’m gonna be more casual…jeans…
·       Apr 12 11:43 PM Sassy: Cool
·       Apr 12 11:43 PM Sassy: Me too
·       Apr 12 11:44 PM Sassy: With a buttons shirt
·       Apr 12 11:45 PM Sassy: That you can unbutton!
·       Apr 12 11:45 PM Sassy: I’m going to park in the private-est spot I can find.
·       Apr 12 11:45 PM Kris: i was “dressed to kill” today…the leather I got is so cool…you’ll love the chaps…my jeans are all that stick out of the front…almost a little embarrassing…almost looks like my cock is hard…but it’s just the jeans bunched up…but now i can’t wear that except i’ll probably wear my jacket.
·       Apr 12 11:45 PM Kris: i can’t wait to unbutton you and play!
·       Apr 12 11:46 PM Sassy: I have a big chest…
·       Apr 12 11:46 PM Kris: i can’t wait!
·       Apr 12 11:47 PM Kris: random question…about the “pics you ordered”…
·       Apr 12 11:47 PM Sassy: ok
·       Apr 12 11:47 PM Kris: i understand the “erect cock” pic…standard fare…but…
·       Apr 12 11:48 PM Kris: the feet in particular intrigued me…and
·       Apr 12 11:48 PM Kris: then the chest and shoulders (i think that’s what you said)…
·       Apr 12 11:48 PM Kris: what is it about those particular parts?
·       Apr 12 11:48 PM Sassy: I like to ask for something non-standard
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Sassy: I’m a sucker for shoulders
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Sassy: and the toes are just silly fun
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Sassy: and easy to shoot
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Kris: oh…i thought maybe you had a “foot fetish” or something…lol
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Sassy: I knew you were thinking that.
·       Apr 12 11:49 PM Kris: how?
·       Apr 12 11:50 PM Sassy: I don’t find them sexual but often rubbing a man’s feet, listening to him… can be very comforting…
·       Apr 12 11:50 PM Sassy: to both of us
·       Apr 12 11:50 PM Kris: can i tell you a little story about how one of the women i had an affair with many years ago made me feel good that way?
·       Apr 12 11:51 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 12 11:51 PM Kris: ok…it was the pretty “coke whore”…(sorry…but she really was…even though I didn’t provide her with any…she was mainly my “drinking buddy”…so anyhow…
·       Apr 12 11:52 PM Kris: one night we were on my bed in my little studio apartment…
 Apr 12 11:52 PM Kris: i was separated from my wife for the second time…
·       Apr 12 11:52 PM Kris: and i used to have discolored toe nails…
·       Apr 12 11:52 PM Kris: from a fungus (yucky word)…
·       Apr 12 11:53 PM Kris: so I’m laying on the bed with her and she’s sitting at the foot of the bed and i’ve got bare feet…
·       Apr 12 11:53 PM Sassy: bare other stuff or just feet?
·       Apr 12 11:53 PM Kris: and my wife has continually made fun of them…so …just bare feet…clothed…
·       Apr 12 11:53 PM Kris: so she starts to rub my feet…
·       Apr 12 11:54 PM Kris: and i get self-conscious and say…you may not want to do that…they’re not very good looking…
·       Apr 12 11:54 PM Kris: and she looks at my feet and starts rubbing them more…really nicely and soothing and a little sexy…and says…”there’s nothing wrong with your feet…i like them..” and keeps rubbing them..
·       Apr 12 11:55 PM Kris: and it made me feel like “she’s just accepting me and i’m ok…
·       Apr 12 11:55 PM Kris: and it wasn’t a big sexual thiing…
·       Apr 12 11:55 PM Kris: but it made me feel good…
·       Apr 12 11:55 PM Kris: that’s it…not too “hot”…but I remember it…and it does have something to do with you and me…
·       Apr 12 11:56 PM Kris: your turn
·       Apr 12 11:57 PM Sassy: A long time into knowing my old flame, he began to complain to me about his wife
·       Apr 12 11:57 PM Sassy: And I thought it was great that he was finally being real with me… sharing whatever was on his mind
·       Apr 12 11:58 PM Sassy: He was talking about how he drives four hours home from work on a Friday (he was a geographic bachelor during the week, then went home weekends)
·       Apr 12 11:58 PM Sassy: And all he wanted was a welcome home… a drink, a few snacks and someone to rub his feet and chill out
·       Apr 12 11:59 PM Sassy: And how she would just not be there (out shopping) or be “busy” reading or whatever
·       Apr 12 11:59 PM Sassy: He’d have to come home, make dinner, clean up the mess from a week in the kitchen
·       Apr 12 11:59 PM Sassy: So I stored that away
·       Apr 13 12:00 AMSassy: And the next time I saw him, I brought a bag of snacks and drinks to the hotel
·       Apr 13 12:00 AM Sassy: And when he got in from his day at a conference, I had a little platter of olives, crackers, cheese etc.
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: And I sat him down in the chair and pulled his feet up into my lap
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: and took off his shoes and socks
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: and rubbed his feet and was quiet
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: while he snacked
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: and then listened when he was ready to talk
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: He was astonished that I remembered
·       Apr 13 12:01 AM Sassy: and that I brought stuff and had it ready for him
·       Apr 13 12:02 AM Sassy: and then let him chill
·       Apr 13 12:02 AM Sassy: He was like a dog that someone had kicked for a long time
·       Apr 13 12:02 AM Sassy: and he couldn’t believe a woman would pet him and let him sit awhile
·       Apr 13 12:03 AM Sassy: Not jump him, not drag him to dinner right away but do what he had longed for
·       Apr 13 12:03 AM Sassy: So I learned a lot of lessons from that
·       Apr 13 12:04 AM Kris: it’s kind of amazing…when you think of how short we’ve actually known each other…but nothing you’ve just said surprises me at all…it’s completely in character with who I think you are…
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: i know you’re listening carefully
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: i know you’re storing little things away…
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: i don’t know how much i’ve given you to use yet…
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: but i know you’ll use whatever i give you…
·       Apr 13 12:05 AM Kris: i want to do the same for you…
·       Apr 13 12:06 AMKris: so you need to tell me…what do YOU want/need most?
·       Apr 13 12:06 AM Kris: your turn again
·       Apr 13 12:06 AM Sassy: Talking and listening is crucial.
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Sassy: It takes this from a Wham bam thing to a higher level
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Kris: how am i doing…be honest
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Sassy: Very well!
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Sassy: Many guys want to fuck the first time they see me.
·       Apr 13 12:07 AM Sassy: Don’t want to know me, just fuck me
·       Apr 13 12:08 AM Sassy: I get where that come from but it doesn’t go very far
·       Apr 13 12:08 AM Sassy: I could be a blow doll up for all they know or care
·       Apr 13 12:08 AM Sassy: I don’t know the answer to what I want…
·       Apr 13 12:09 AM Sassy: I have to see what you do… and then say “more of that!”
·       Apr 13 12:09 AM Sassy: Sort of like trying a new restaurant
·       Apr 13 12:09 AM Sassy: Have to read the menu first… try different things
·       Apr 13 12:09 AM Sassy: then I know what to order next time
·       Apr 13 12:11 AM Kris: ok…how we do the sex itself matters…but the knowing you as a person part is what “gets me off” as much…which not everyone wants…for some people its’ too much”…casual sex is all they can do and want…I want more…can’t help it…
·       Apr 13 12:12 AM Sassy: That scares me a bit but I am trying to roll with it
·       Apr 13 12:12 AM Kris: i don’t want to scare you…and i know it can be…so i’m trying to understand what you want on that level too…that part is one of the “trickiest” for me…
·       Apr 13 12:13 AM Kris: on some level an affair by definititon IS “casual”…
·       Apr 13 12:13 AM Kris: just is…
·       Apr 13 12:13 AM Kris: and on some level…”uncommitted sex” is “hotter”…
·       Apr 13 12:13 AM Kris: less personal…
·       Apr 13 12:14 AM Kris: but on another level…I want to fuck YOU…not just your body…otherwise…like you say…why not just get a blow up doll or something…does that make any sense?
·       Apr 13 12:15 AM Sassy: Yes. A lot.
·       Apr 13 12:15 AM Kris: so i’m trying to find a “balance” there with you…just so you know…
·       Apr 13 12:15 AM Sassy: I have to be interested in giving you pleasure… for it to be good for me.
·       Apr 13 12:16 AM Sassy: If I don’t care a bit, why bother?
·       Apr 13 12:16 AM Kris: explain…what do you mean you have to be “interested in giving you pleasure”?
·       Apr 13 12:17 AM Sassy: I can’t just use someone
·       Apr 13 12:17 AM Sassy: I need to care about how they feel
·       Apr 13 12:18 AM Sassy: But I also don’t want to get in too deep to where it hurts when I can’t be with them, and I panic when it gets to be longer than usual, and I get “addicted”
·       Apr 13 12:18 AM Kris: what’s longer than usual…so i know when to expect to be dumped…lol?
·       Apr 13 12:19 AM Sassy: Whatever our “usual” turns out to be
·       Apr 13 12:19 AM Sassy: I’ve ridden the roller coaster with the old flame and I want to stay on a more even keel if I can
·       Apr 13 12:20 AM Kris: so what’s your strategy for “staying on an even keel”?
·       Apr 13 12:20 AM Sassy: Try to stay less emotional, if I can. Tough to control though
·       Apr 13 12:20 AM Kris: less emotional how…
·       Apr 13 12:21 AM Sassy: Enjoy when we’re together, not pine too much when we’re not
·       Apr 13 12:21 AM Kris: easier said than done…but we can try…i think staying playful…and for me that means “a little crazy”…helps…
·       Apr 13 12:22 AM Sassy: Not think about this “going anywhere” just enjoy what it is
·       Apr 13 12:23 AM Sassy: But whatever I feel, I feel
·       Apr 13 12:23 AM Kris: it’s going to be fun hopefully for awhile…and at some point it will end…as do all things…and on this point I agree with you…rather not dwell on it too much…when it happens we’ll deal with it then…we’re just starting for God’s sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 13 12:23 AM Sassy: Yup
·       Apr 13 12:23 AM Sassy: Don’t get too far ahead
·       Apr 13 12:24 AM Sassy: Most people are used to be quite linear… first we eat, then we dance, then we play, then we go steady, then engaged, marry, have kids, buy a house…
·       Apr 13 12:24 AM Sassy: This is much more “in a a circle”
·       Apr 13 12:25 AM Kris: except your speed of saying we’re going to actually have sex is comforting…and exciting…i can’t…WHOAA GIRL…started to type the previous but then you typed that…
·       Apr 13 12:26 AM Kris: let me go back to a couple of things i don’t want to forget…then we’re going to see each other soon and should probably say goodnight… couple of things before i forget…
·       Apr 13 12:26 AM Kris: ready?
·       Apr 13 12:27 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 13 12:27 AM Sassy: Thing one
·       Apr 13 12:27 AM Kris: You turn me on because of your appetite for sex…
·       Apr 13 12:28 AM Sassy: We are grown ups. Don’t have to worry about “first base” or whether we kiss on the first date or all that silliness
·       Apr 13 12:29 AM Kris: no…that’s not what i meant…just “in general”…that you really LIKE it…and want it…and want to do it with ME…turns me on…
·       Apr 13 12:29 AM Kris: and secondly…
·       Apr 13 12:30 AM Kris: the initiative you took…grabbing me and kissing me in public…and groping me in a parking lot…now I’ve got little fantasies of “little acts of exhibitionism” in public places going on…and that’s all REALLY DIFFERENT…if you remember…I said sex with my wife wasn’t “bad”…just “the same”…
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Kris: that doesn’t mean I’m looking for something “novel” all the time…
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Sassy: Really? I hope to make it vary
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Kris: but i think you’re going to be LOTS OF FUN…and give me LOTS OF PLEASURE
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Sassy: That’s my plan
·       Apr 13 12:31 AM Kris: i’m counting on it
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Sassy: Promise you won’t judge too much based on the first time?
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Kris: no and you too…
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Sassy: I will be nervous and thinking too much
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Kris: so let’s agree about that…and joke about it…
·       Apr 13 12:32 AM Sassy: If it’s weird, let’s agree to talk and see if it’s fixable and try again
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Sassy: Keep practicing until we get it right.  : )
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Kris: ok…
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Sassy: Be honest. If after a couple of times it really isn’t working… say so
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Kris: ok
·       Apr 13 12:33 AM Sassy: Don’t pity fuck
·       Apr 13 12:34 AM Kris: for either/both of us…
·       Apr 13 12:34 AM Sassy: But I am really really hoping we click!
·       Apr 13 12:34 AM Kris: honestly…i suppose it’s possible…but i will be surprised…disappointed and probably hurt…but surprised…
·       Apr 13 12:35 AM Kris: i don’t know why i think that…just do…
·       Apr 13 12:35 AM Sassy: Hope I am at least “better than nothing.”  ; )
·       Apr 13 12:36 AM Kris: What?????????/ Where did that come from?
·       Apr 13 12:36 AM Sassy: Out of the mouth of a relatively crappy guy
·       Apr 13 12:36 AM Kris: someone said that to you?
·       Apr 13 12:37 AM Sassy: Yup.
·       Apr 13 12:38 AM Kris: omg…you should have kicked him in the balls and run…
·       Apr 13 12:38 AM Sassy: Heh
·       Apr 13 12:38 AM Sassy: Not my style
·       Apr 13 12:38 AM Kris: i know…but what do you do with all the ugly hurt people put on you from time to time?
·       Apr 13 12:39 AM Sassy: Think they’re stupid and tactless and hope to do better next time!
·       Apr 13 12:39 AM Kris: GO SASSY!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 13 12:40 AM Sassy: At the start I would have taken it personally but I have gotten past that stage, thank goodness!
·       Apr 13 12:40 AM Kris: at the start of having sex with different people?
·       Apr 13 12:40 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 13 12:41 AM Kris: i wouldn’t know…i’m a “novice”…
·       Apr 13 12:41 AM Kris: but i’m getting a good education so far…wink
·       Apr 13 12:41 AM Sassy: I hope you never have to hear any bad stuff!
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Kris: men don’t as much…women aren’t as stupid or aggressive in general
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Sassy: I hope you will enjoy
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Kris: you?
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Sassy: It will make you less stressed rather than more
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Sassy: Add joy
·       Apr 13 12:42 AM Sassy: Fulfill dreams
·       Apr 13 12:43 AM Kris: has it for you?
·       Apr 13 12:43 AM Sassy: or something like that…  : )
·       Apr 13 12:43 AM Sassy: Definitely
·       Apr 13 12:44 AM Kris: ok…well i guess i’ll find out…and am REALLY looking forward to it…with YOU!
·       Apr 13 12:44 AM Kris: you’re a great kisser…and i get more tomorrow…and i’m going to say goodnight now…any last burning thing you want/need to say?
·       Apr 13 12:45 AM Sassy: Cleavage
·       Apr 13 12:45 AM Kris: omg…feel free to tell me how to play with it…if whatever i do isn’t working…ok?…but not now…tomorrow…but I KNOW i’m going to have fun there…
·       Apr 13 12:46 AM Sassy: Good night dear man
·       Apr 13 12:46 AM Sassy: Sweet sexy dreams!
·       Apr 13 12:47 AM Kris: Good night Sassy Lady…same to you…Mwahhh…will text you when i leave tomorrow…nite!

At the same time

Friday, April 11, 2014 
From: Kris 
To: Sassy
Sent: Friday, April 11, 2014 12:58 AM
Subject: How I plan to ravage you / final STD test results attached
Hi Sassy,
You are SO hot—because you understand so clearly what “good sex” really is—and most importantly WHERE it is—-which is in our heads!  Of course–the “parts” matter–but the exact shapes and sizes don’t so much as “the whole package”—including who you are.  And more importantly—how we use “the parts.”
But to be completely honest—-I REALLY want to get at your breasts—-and like them BIG—-and you are so clearly well-endowed.  I’ve made a mental note that you want your whole breasts kissed and licked and touched and explored–and not just your nipples.  Keep teaching me—-telling me what you like.  I can’t imagine a woman who can actually have an orgasm just by being touched on the right spot on her back.  So forgive me for “needing proof”—but I will have my hand pressing between your legs to feel your contractions—-not just for “proof”—-but because feeling your orgasmic contractions turns me on.
Let me tell you some “basic” ways I like to have sex.  When we get into it “hot and heavy”—-I will want to “work everything on you at almost the same time.”  Meaning, while I am thrusting deeply and rhythmically in you I will simultaneously being rubbing your clitoris with my finger.  I’ll try to find a rhythm that matches—- a medium speed of rhythmically thrusting and rubbing your clitoris—AT THE SAME TIME.  I may intermittently take my cock out of you to spread your wet juices on your clitoris–to make sure it’s as wet and lubricated as possible—-and then go back inside you thrusting deeply and rhythmically and rubbing your clitoris.  AT THE SAME TIME I’m doing both those things—-I’ll be intermittently deeply kissing you and licking and sucking on your nipples.  I can’t promise at that point I’ll be able to focus on your whole breast—I may be “fixated” at that point on your nipples.  But all of the above will be after a long period of foreplay—after I’ve spent plenty of time building up to going in you.  Back rub, rubbing and caressing you all over, kissing, touching, rubbing your clitoris, licking your clitoris, licking your clitoris and putting my fingers in you……..
As I said tonight chatting—-while I’d like to know your real name—-it’s more important to me that you feel you can trust me, and that I’m not pressuring you.  My wife will NEVER “come after you”–NO MATTER WHAT.  And I’m going to do EVERYTHING in my power to NOT get caught—-mainly because I don’t want to hurt her.
Attached here are the final results of my tests–all negative.  “Trust” is hard earned, easily broken, and requires some “hard facts” to be real.  Here are some hard facts to back up what I’ve told you about my sexual history–a clean slate.
And finally, maybe you don’t want to think about this—but if you have contracted any sexual disease and anything comes back positive—-I’m not “walking away” from you.  I probably don’t make a very good “casual fuck buddy”—but you’ll be hard-pressed to find a lover who will be a better, true friend.  In my line of work there is an ethical obligation to “never abandon a client at a point of their greatest need.”  So whatever your test results—I’m going to be there for you one way or another—and move forward with you in some way that makes sense.  Not just “dump you and walk away.”  I hope everything is negative and we just have “hot, care-free sex.”  But just so you know……..not for nothing—-I am different.  Not trying to be proud—-just am.  I’ve been forgiven a lot—so I can’t justify treating people in any way but as well as I possibly can.  Just so you know……
Kris
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From: Sassy
To: Kris
Sent: Friday, April 11, 2014 9:39 AM
Re: Friday fun
Good morning Kris!  Happy Friday!  What’s on your calendar today?  
I’m at work, doing payroll and then have a super-exciting (not really) meeting with the IT folks about putting in a new “customer relations database.”  
Thank you for this message.  I adore how you answer questions I haven’t asked but have been thinking about.  It is very very hot, but also comforting, to hear what might happen when we’re alone.  It made me wet and caused some interesting twinges.   
Hallelujah for negative tests results!  I am praying for the same.  It’s not worrying me much – I learned during cancer treatment to stay in the moment and only deal with what I had to deal with.  It is huge that you say you won’t run screaming if I have some positive result.  I was truly touched!  Another sign of how special you are.  And how special we may be together.  
I’d better get back to work.  Have a fantastic Friday! 
-S
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Friday, April 11, 2014 2:35 PM
Re: How I plan to ravage you / final STD test results attached
Hi Sassy!
I only had one meeting scheduled for today–and it was cancelled.  So I haven’t been doing much…except fantasizing about being with you and when and where.  I thought after I sent my last email, “That was a little over the top.  This woman has lived through beating cancer and had all kinds of support.  Your ‘noble’ offer of support is a little lame–if all she has to deal with is treatment for some STD (possibly excluding HIV).”  
But true to form–all you did was try to “find the best” in what I said–and made me feel special. Glad you got a little wet.  I hope “answering questions before you ask them” doesn’t mean “talking too much and taking the fun out of you asking them.”  If you have more questions….ask away!  For me, it’s part of the build up—anticipation—-learning—–getting to know you.
So here I go—rushing in where angels fear to tread.  Any chance you could get away for an overnight—-as soon as Friday, April 18th through Saturday, April 19th.  I don’t know how far you’re willing to travel—but I was fantasizing renting a cottage or something for 2 days.  I know—-way too “ambitious.”  But if your H can screw some woman and practically “rub it in your face” the same night (sorry–maybe that’s ok with you–but seems a little “insensitive” at a minimum to me)—-can you say to him:  “Thinking of spending the night away to take a potential new guy on an ‘extended test drive'”.   Or do you just “make excuses” and keep it “vague” with him?
Either way:  Check out my “over the top fantasizing” example of a place to stay for a day and a half of “naked romping around the place”:
$150 / 3br – Spacious Private Home Close To Storyland And Shopping Outlets (Bartlett/Glen(White Mountains Region))
Spacious Private Home Close
I expect you to take my “craziness” in stride as usual—-so I’m going to “relax” and not worry about your response to this.
Seriously Frisky
P.S.—We’ll talk more about this later–but any chance you can help a little with some expenses?  There isn’t such a thing as “this is the way to do it.”  In fact, the woman who dumped me after 3 months of chatting said part of why she was pulling away was feeling bad about not being able to help pay for a room.  I told her if she didn’t have the money to not worry about it.  But to her–having a man pay for everything was not ok.  I think you and I need to “make our own” rules–and screw what anyone else thinks about it.  They’re not the ones thinking about having this affair—you and I are.
P.P.S.—I could chat earlier tonight if you wanted–so it’s not so late.  But you probably have a project meeting–or may have other plans.  Let me know….big hug.
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Kris: Just finished work…going to gym till 10…home round 10:20…can u/want to chat then? 8:21 PM
Me: Sure! Sounds great! 8:22 PM
Kris: Big hug & kiss….huge smile….can’t stop thinking of u….fantasizing……later….mwah! 8:26 PM
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·       Apr 11 9:58 PM Kris: u could probably use a break from me…i know I could use a break from me…but everywhere i go–there i am…sometimes it’s annoying…either way is fine (i’m just getting addicted to you—and like it)…just don’t reply if you need a break…and we’ll chat another time…
·       Apr 11 9:59 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Apr 11 9:59 PM Kris: omg…aren’t you sick of me yet?
·       Apr 11 9:59 PM Sassy: not quite yet.  : )
·       Apr 11 9:59 PM Kris: oh goodie (i think)
·       Apr 11 10:00 PM Kris: did u have a project meeting tonight?
·       Apr 11 10:00 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 11 10:00 PM Kris: how was it?
·       Apr 11 10:00 PM Sassy: great! Big crowd
·       Apr 11 10:00 PM Kris: what time do u get home from it?
·       Apr 11 10:00 PM Sassy: about 9:30 PM
·       Apr 11 10:01 PM Kris: how much time do you have between when you get out of work and when you go there?
·       Apr 11 10:01 PM Sassy: Go straight there
·       Apr 11 10:01 PM Kris: when do u eat?
·       Apr 11 10:01 PM Sassy: on the way there and a bit there
·       Apr 11 10:02 PM Kris: eat and run…it’s not the best way to do it…but i do it constantly…lots of times while driving.
·       Apr 11 10:02 PM Kris: tomorrow is last night…right?
·       Apr 11 10:02 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 11 10:04 PM Kris: what’s the best part of your involvement in it all…what gives you the most pleasure by being involved
·       Apr 11 10:06 PM Sassy: When it all comes together
·       Apr 11 10:06 PM Sassy: and people adore it
Apr 11 10:06 PM Sassy: Being part of a community
·       Apr 11 10:07 PM Sassy: Providing a way for talented people to do their thing
·       Apr 11 10:07 PM Kris: cool!
·       Apr 11 10:08 PM Kris: sorry…don’t mean to bombad you with “a thousand questions”…just have this hunger to know all about you…anything on your mind?
·       Apr 11 10:09 PM Sassy: It’s fun to have someone who is interested
·       Apr 11 10:09 PM Sassy: My brain is fried… just chilling
·       Apr 11 10:09 PM Kris: work all day then go straight to a project meeting…can’t imagine why you’re tired.  ; )
·       Apr 11 10:10 PM Sassy: I usually take time off around a show but I had things to do at work
·       Apr 11 10:11 PM Kris: have plans sunday?
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Me: Sorry – net is being flaky 10:14 PM
Kris: No problem….want to see if it comes back up….or chat another time? 10:18 PM
Me: It usually comes back. 10:19 PM
Kris: K….will wait then…it’s nice u actually want to talk to me…..expecting to wake up to find it was all a dream….don’t know why….10:23 PM
Kris: Net still down? 10:40 PM
Me: Yes. Grrr 10:40 PM
Kris: K 10:41 PM
Me: Comcast sucks moose weiners 10:41 PM
Kris: Lol 10:41 PM
Me: 🙂 10:41 PM
Me: Sorry – still out. Waaah 11:00 PM
Kris: I know….give me a good time for u to chat tomorrow…..lunch sunday?….or early dinner mon?…..mon weather mid 70s…come to town on harley in “full leather glory”….will b very gropable…..answer in email with same questions when u can get back on…texting too tedious to type… 11:09 PM
Me: Ok 11:09 PM
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From: Kris
To: Sassy
Sent: Friday, Apr 11, 2014 11:27 PM
Lunch on Sunday? / early dinner on Monday?
Hi Sassie!
Lunch Sunday……or early dinner Monday?  Weather’s going to be very warm on Monday (mid 70s to possibly high of 80)….and I’m definitely going to be on my bike.  I’ll be dressed in “full leather glory”  ; ) and will be very gropable  < 🙂   !!!!!!!!  Have late afternoon work on Monday—then it would be only a “skip and a hop” (vroom, vrooom!!!!!!) from there to YOU!!!!!! 
 You’ll possibly have news to share by Monday (testing results)–which we’re both hoping is good.  Either way—either day—-want to see you, be with you, hug you, kiss you, touch you again.
Let me know if you want to chat Saturday–and give me a good time for you. 
I played with my bike a little today–learning all the controls and rode it a little.  I’m like a kid at Christmas—-but you’re even MORE fun!!!!!
You don’t have “dump-him-for-good-by-silence”—-but you do have a little “selective silence” on some things.  Which is ok—-I understand why—-and chuckle at it.  It’s part of “learning what you’ll respond to”  🙂  !!!!
When I make “crazy propositions”—you can just counter with more reasonable ones…..
🙂 <3
Frisky Kris

Actually Like Me

   Thursday, April 10, 2014 

     Kris: Just left last meeting…going to gym…home by 10:20…can u/want to chat then? 8:21 PM
     Me: Sure! Sounds great! 8:22 PM
     Kris: Big hug & kiss…huge smile…can’t stop thinking of u…fantasizing…later…mwah! 8:26 PM
·       Apr 10 10:37 PM Kris: Hi!…haven’t been online all day…want to check something…be right back!
·       Apr 10 10:37 PM Sassy: Okay
·       Apr 10 10:42 PM Kris: back…tests all negative!!!!…read your email…makes me want you more.
·       Apr 10 10:42 PM Sassy: I gave them the samples late this afternoon.
·       Apr 10 10:42 PM Sassy: Not sure when I’ll hear… probably Monday?
·       Apr 10 10:43 PM Sassy: They didn’t make me schedule a visit, just popped in to the lab. So it was free.
·       Apr 10 10:43 PM Sassy: I got all 8 tests, I think
·       Apr 10 10:44 PM Kris: to answer your question in your email about how i felt about getting the first 6 negative results…
·       Apr 10 10:45 PM Kris: not surprised…and expected the same from the last 2…but i’d be lying if i said i didn’t have a tiny bit of “concern”…but NOT lying about my sexual history…so there is no reason they should have been positive
·       Apr 10 10:46 PM Kris: besides you now knowing i can’t hurt your health in any way…one thing you said in your email is very important to me…
·       Apr 10 10:46 PM Kris: you said “i’m learning about std testing…and i’m learning about you…
·       Apr 10 10:46 PM Kris: just before i got on i thought to myself…i want her to know she can trust me…that i’m not going to lie to her
·       Apr 10 10:47 PM Sassy: You are different
·       Apr 10 10:48 PM Kris: from?
·       Apr 10 10:48 PM Sassy: Every other man I’ve met
·       Apr 10 10:48 PM Sassy: And I like that
·       Apr 10 10:48 PM Kris: ok…i was thinking about that too…
·       Apr 10 10:49 PM Kris: in order to have “fun cheating” people have to do all kinds of “mental gymnastics” it seems to me…
·       Apr 10 10:49 PM Kris: be super casual…non-committal…no strings attached…blah, blah, blah…and i get it…
·       Apr 10 10:49 PM Kris: but the truth is I don’t do “casual” so well.
·       Apr 10 10:50 PM Kris: but at the same time I don’t want to scare you away with “too intense”…
·       Apr 10 10:50 PM Kris: I WANT TO HAVE FUN…
·       Apr 10 10:50 PM Kris: but it’s in my nature to be committed.
·       Apr 10 10:50 PM Kris: of course i lie too
·       Apr 10 10:50 PM Kris: i’m lying to my wife.
·       Apr 10 10:50 PM Kris: but so far i haven’t lied to you
·       Apr 10 10:50 PM Kris: and i hope i don’t
·       Apr 10 10:52 PM Sassy: I hope that can remain true
·       Apr 10 10:52 PM Kris: if i thought i wanted to have sex with another woman…that would be hard for me to deal with…i don’t have your experience with that…
·       Apr 10 10:53 PM Kris: other than my wife…
·        Apr 10 10:55 PM Sassy: two years ago I had never had sex except as an expression of my love for a man
·       Apr 10 10:55 PM Kris: did you mean for “one” man?
·       Apr 10 10:56 PM Sassy: Definitely
·       Apr 10 10:56 PM Kris: i was afraid you were going to say…”but then i started seeing what women could do for me…LOL
·       Apr 10 10:57 PM Sassy: No… I am completely het
·       Apr 10 10:57 PM Sassy: I’ve tried to act on girl crushes and it just doesn’t work
·       Apr 10 10:57 PM Kris: random interruption…change of subject
·       Apr 10 10:58 PM Kris: i could be wrong but i think the more you trust me the hotter the sex is going to be…so…
·       Apr 10 10:59 PM Kris: if i don’t put any kind of pressure on you about anything you’re not ready for…that helps you trust me…and makes the sex better in the long run…at least that’s my theory…so…
·       Apr 10 10:59 PM Kris: don’t worry about telling me your real name…
·       Apr 10 10:59 PM Sassy: I do worry
·       Apr 10 11:00 PM Kris: no…i mean you don’t have to tell me it…
·       Apr 10 11:00 PM Sassy: Not about you, but about others who could see your email.
·       Apr 10 11:00 PM Sassy: Oh?
·       Apr 10 11:00 PM Kris: yes…don’t feel that you do…
·       Apr 10 11:00 PM Kris: don’t think i’m going to interpret it as you don’t trust me…
·       Apr 10 11:00 PM Sassy: It will be on the tests
·       Apr 10 11:01 PM Kris: you can white it out and do what i did…
·       Apr 10 11:01 PM Kris: copy and paste it to an MS Word doc…i don’t need to know if you don’t want me to
·       Apr 10 11:02 PM Sassy: Okay. Thanks.
·       Apr 10 11:02 PM Sassy: Just heard too many scary stories about mad spouses
·       Apr 10 11:03 PM Kris: or…if you want to tell me in person…i could know it that way…but only use Sassy online…but again…it’s up to you…really…
·       Apr 10 11:04 PM Kris: what scary stories of mad spouses have you hears?
·       Apr 10 11:04 PM Sassy: They are endless… awful. I’ll tell you some in person if you want.
·       Apr 10 11:05 PM Sassy: Betrayed spouses are big trouble
·       Apr 10 11:07 PM Kris: ok…again…me saying this may not “reassure” you…but i’ve already betrayed my wife…been caught…and she had absolutely no interest in even knowing who the women were…and she would never seek to find them…her only concern would be her hurt at my betrayal…that may not reassure you…but it’s as true as everything else i’ve told you…and she’s already shown how she will react…and it’s not by “going after” someone I cheated with…she would only be very hurt and ask how I could do that to her…and hold me 100% responsible for it…
·       Apr 10 11:08 PM Sassy: Interesting
·       Apr 10 11:08 PM Kris: what?
·       Apr 10 11:08 PM Sassy: That is good. Unusual.
·       Apr 10 11:10 PM Kris: my wife is a really good person…a very kind and merciful person…a very forgiving person…i was extremely bad as a drunk…she’s forgiven me a lot…compared to what i’ve already done to her…she would consider some woman i cheated with “small potatoes”…but ME she’d hold responsible…not a woman i cheated with…
·       Apr 10 11:11 PM Sassy: Sounds like me
·       Apr 10 11:11 PM Kris: in what way?
·       Apr 10 11:12 PM Sassy: Good person, forgiving, blame husband
·       Apr 10 11:12 PM Sassy: He made out with a hotwife while her H watched tonight
·       Apr 10 11:12 PM Kris: your H did?
·       Apr 10 11:13 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 10 11:13 PM Kris: how do u know?
·       Apr 10 11:13 PM Sassy: He told me
·       Apr 10 11:14 PM Kris: is that normal in your relationship?
·       Apr 10 11:14 PM Sassy: that he tells me about his adventures? Yes
·       Apr 10 11:14 PM Sassy: Not a lot of details, just the high points or different stuff
·       Apr 10 11:14 PM Kris: do u tell him about yours?
·       Apr 10 11:15 PM Sassy: Not much
·       Apr 10 11:15 PM Kris: why do you say you forgive him but blame him…does it still hurt a little?
·       Apr 10 11:16 PM Sassy: I forgave him when he was cheating. I don’t think about it much now.
·       Apr 10 11:16 PM Kris: what do you mean when he was cheating…in the distant past…before you knew he was…but the found out?
·       Apr 10 11:16 PM Sassy: right
·       Apr 10 11:16 PM Kris: how did you find out?
·       Apr 10 11:16 PM Sassy: Did not blame the women
·       Apr 10 11:17 PM Sassy: He would admit it eventually
·       Apr 10 11:17 PM Kris: did you ask him…or did he just tell you?
·       Apr 10 11:17 PM Sassy: He would say
·       Apr 10 11:17 PM Sassy: He doesn’t know how to spell discreet
·       Apr 10 11:18 PM Kris: sorry…but lol…what do you mean?
·       Apr 10 11:18 PM Sassy: He can’t keep a secret in a bucket with a lid on it
·       Apr 10 11:19 PM Kris: so how did you first find out…what did he do specifically that gave himself away?
·       Apr 10 11:19 PM Sassy: He’d get very morose
·       Apr 10 11:19 PM Sassy: Start doing extra chores around the house or buying me a present
·       Apr 10 11:20 PM Sassy: GUILT!
·        Apr 10 11:20 PM Kris: that got you suspicious…you’re THAT “intuitive”!?
·       Apr 10 11:21 PM Sassy: He is very predictable
·       Apr 10 11:21 PM Sassy: Differences speak volumes
·       Apr 10 11:22 PM Kris: but there must have been the moment of “indisputable evidence”…or did he just fess up?
·       Apr 10 11:22 PM Sassy: You need to be very careful at home. Don’t be all giddy in a new way.
·       Apr 10 11:22 PM Sassy: He’d fess up pretty quickly
·       Apr 10 11:22 PM Kris: my wife already asked me if the next thing is an affair
·       Apr 10 11:22 PM Sassy: What?
·       Apr 10 11:22 PM Kris: she asked me that about a month ago
·       Apr 10 11:23 PM Sassy: Why?
·       Apr 10 11:23 PM Kris: losing weight…
·       Apr 10 11:23 PM Kris: working out…
·       Apr 10 11:23 PM Sassy: Ah yes
·       Apr 10 11:23 PM Kris: listening to different music…and loud…
·       Apr 10 11:23 PM Kris: dancing to the music…
·       Apr 10 11:23 PM Kris: acting crazy…
·       Apr 10 11:23 PM Kris: buying leather jacket…
·       Apr 10 11:23 PM Sassy: OMG, not a leather jacket! Description: )
·       Apr 10 11:24 PM Kris: today i bought new chaps…like a picture with just those on?
·       Apr 10 11:24 PM Sassy: You are so frisky!
·       Apr 10 11:25 PM Kris: a really hot biker chick helped me buy the chaps, new helmet (bluetooth in helmet to stream music from phone or ipod), gloves and new boots…she rides too so knew how to direct me to the right gear…
·       Apr 10 11:26 PM Kris: she works in the store i bought my bike at…
·       Apr 10 11:26 PM Kris: but i’m a “one woman man”…(ok…two woman…but not three)…
·       Apr 10 11:26 PM Sassy: Ask her to go for a ride?
·       Apr 10 11:27 PM Kris: no…she was “out of my league”…but i did flirt with her a little when she was watching me struggle to put on the chaps…
·       Apr 10 11:27 PM Kris: i was having trouble zippering them up…
·       Apr 10 11:27 PM Sassy: Flirting is good
·       Apr 10 11:27 PM Kris: she said to me…want some help?
·       Apr 10 11:28 PM Sassy: I’m better at unzipping
·       Apr 10 11:28 PM Kris: i said…no…i need to learn to do this myself…unless you’re going to be there all the time to do it for me…which would be nice.
·       Apr 10 11:28 PM Sassy: Ooh… smooth
·       Apr 10 11:28 PM Kris: she ignored the last sentence…but that was flirting.
·       Apr 10 11:29 PM Kris: yeah…i said it kind of fast and soft…smooth flirting that she just ignored.
·       Apr 10 11:30 PM Sassy: Red head?
·       Apr 10 11:30 PM Kris: truth is…it was “just business”…what was really helpful was that she said to me: “forget about trying to look cool…buy what’s most comfortable and safe.” so i got the right stuff
·       Apr 10 11:31 PM Kris: she said…i ride all the time…in cold weather too…i bundle all up…i don’t care what i look like…and if someone doesn’t like how i look…they don’t have to look at me.
·       Apr 10 11:32 PM Kris: that made me laugh…she knew what she was talking about and i didn’t make bad choices to “look cool”…but the stuff i bought does look cool…but is very functional.
·       Apr 10 11:32 PM Kris: to answer your question…
·       Apr 10 11:33 PM Kris: she had long dirty blonde hair with streaks of red or purple or something…doesn’t matter…this is weird…i want to focus on you…sorry i even brought it up…
·       Apr 10 11:33 PM Sassy: no worries
·       Apr 10 11:33 PM Sassy: It’s fun to see you spreading your wings
·       Apr 10 11:34 PM Kris: i’m just your ordinary weak man…but that doesn’t mean i’m going to do anything about it.
·       Apr 10 11:35 PM : )
Kris: what did you mean about sending you 3 pictures after we meet…did you mean don’t want to see nude pics till after you see in person?
·       Apr 10 11:35 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 10 11:35 PM Kris: i would have sent them now…but honestly am a little relieved you said that…and thought you might…as i get to know you
·       Apr 10 11:35 PM Sassy: I like to see in the flesh first
·       Apr 10 11:36 PM Sassy: like opening a present
·       Apr 10 11:36 PM Sassy: don’t want to know what’s in the box
·       Apr 10 11:36 PM Kris: i like that way of thinking…and there’s something i would add to that…
·       Apr 10 11:37 PM Kris: which is…to me it’s not “what it looks like” so much as “how you use it” and “what it does for me in the moment”…
·       Apr 10 11:37 PM Sassy: right
·       Apr 10 11:37 PM Kris: and then “how i see you” is joined to how you make me feel…
·       Apr 10 11:37 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 10 11:37 PM Kris: so if you make me feel good…you are by definition “hot” and “attractive” to me…
·       Apr 10 11:37 PM Sassy: I don’t judge or compare.. just another part of the puzzle
·       Apr 10 11:37 PM Sassy: Ha… I’ll be smoking hot then
·       Apr 10 11:38 PM Kris: that’s what i’m counting on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!…and why i’m getting impatient…but you’re not teasing me…we’ll get there.
·       Apr 10 11:39 PM Kris: well…your’e teasing me a little…but in a fun way…
·       Apr 10 11:39 PM Sassy: It’s not a tease… it’s a preview. or something
·       Apr 10 11:39 PM Kris: right…better way to put it…
·        Apr 10 11:39 PM Sassy: tantalizing
·       Apr 10 11:39 PM Kris: yes
·       Apr 10 11:40 PM Sassy: You haven’t known me two weeks yet!
·       Apr 10 11:40 PM Kris: meaning?
·       Apr 10 11:41 PM Sassy: this is a not a long, drawn out thing yet..
·       Apr 10 11:42 PM Kris: i know…but i’m a little “hung over” from my 3 month of chatting by an AM woman only to be abruptly dumped…
·       Apr 10 11:43 PM Kris: but you’re right…and we’re “moving right along”…aren’t we?
·       Apr 10 11:43 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 10 11:43 PM Sassy: Yes indeed
·       Apr 10 11:43 PM Sassy: It’s good to talk first, so it isn’t like I could be anyone
·       Apr 10 11:44 PM Kris: meaning i’m not just having sex with “just anyone”…but you…because i know you…to some degree?
·       Apr 10 11:44 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 10 11:45 PM Kris: and the more i get to know you the more i like you and the more i like you the more i want to have sex with you…especially after you “attacked” me in public…and sucked on my finger at lunch…omg
·       Apr 10 11:46 PM Kris: and grabbed me in a public parking lot…
·       Apr 10 11:46 PM Sassy: You inspired me
·       Apr 10 11:46 PM Sassy: I need to teach you about where to park!
·       Apr 10 11:46 PM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Apr 10 11:47 PM Sassy: Out of the stream of things, high up or low down… away from most cars but not too isolated, facing a wall
·       Apr 10 11:48 PM Kris: if i come into town on my Harley we’ll have to use your car…so you can pick the spot next time…lol
·       Apr 10 11:48 PM Sassy: But with some luck we won’t have to deal with that again
·       Apr 10 11:48 PM Kris: right…we’ll be in bed…
·       Apr 10 11:48 PM Sassy: naked
·       Apr 10 11:49 PM Kris: yummmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 10 11:49 PM Sassy: amazing how one word can do magic things, eh?
·       Apr 10 11:49 PM Kris: like?
·       Apr 10 11:50 PM Kris: naked?
·       Apr 10 11:51 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 10 11:52 PM Kris: right!
·       Apr 10 11:52 PM Sassy: Were you imagining it?
·       Apr 10 11:54 PM Kris: yes but not in a lot of detail…it helps when you describe things more specifically…when you were describing “basics” that you liked it was very exciting…partly because it was very…trying to find the right words…it wasn’t only about “hot and fast and heavy”…(want that too!)…but about more subtle…and details like you could get off just by me finding the right spot on your back…tells me what you like.
·        Apr 10 11:57 PM Sassy: Fascinates me what you focus on
·       Apr 10 11:57 PM Kris: why?
·       Apr 10 11:57 PM Sassy: Helps me learn to please you
·       Apr 10 11:57 PM Kris: how so…example please
·       Apr 10 11:57 PM Sassy: Lets me look inside your mind
·       Apr 10 11:58 PM Sassy: Which is where most of the pleasure happens
·       Apr 10 11:58 PM Sassy: examples of what?
·       Apr 10 11:58 PM Kris: what have you learned so far…that you think would help you please me?
·       Apr 10 11:59 PM Sassy: Knowing little quirky things about me
·       Apr 11 12:00 AM Kris: continue…i’m losing our train of thought.
·       Apr 11 12:01 AM Sassy: me too… getting late
·       Apr 11 12:01 AM Kris: question before we go
·       Apr 11 12:01 AM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 11 12:01 AM Sassy: I want to talk forever but I can’t…
·       Apr 11 12:01 AM Kris: what did you mean when you said you thought they would test for 8 but weren’t sure?
·       Apr 11 12:02 AM Sassy: I talked to the nurse twice, wasn’t sure the second part would get communicated before I got there. But they did all 8
·       Apr 11 12:02 AM Sassy: HIV Hep B & C, Chlamydia Gonnorhea Syphilis Herpes 1 & 2
·       Apr 11 12:03 AM Kris: those are fine…ones i had done…
·       Apr 11 12:03 AM Kris: let me say just one more thing…then i’ll let you go…ok?
·       Apr 11 12:04 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 11 12:05 AM Kris: every time i email you i worry that i’ve annoyed you…and your answers are always so sweet and nice…and every time i ask if you want to chat you seem to…i expect you to not want to…but i’m going to try and stop worrying and assume you actually like me…but tell me if you just can’t…and i’ll just have to trust i’m not dreaming.
·       Apr 11 12:06 AM Kris: that’s it…
·       Apr 11 12:06 AM Sassy: Yes. Please relax.
·       Apr 11 12:07 AM Sassy: If thing change, I will say.
·       Apr 11 12:07 AM Sassy: I hate silence.
·       Apr 11 12:07 AM Kris: ok…you’re like a snake charmer…i’m falling asleep on your naked breasts now…goodnight Sassy…Mwahh!
·       Apr 11 12:07 AM Sassy: Goodnight Kris. Sleep well.
·       Apr 11 12:08 AM Kris: Thanks…you too…smile…bye.

Gradual exposure

Tuesday, April 8, 2014
·       Apr 08 10:12 PM Kris: Hi!
·       Apr 08 10:18 PM Kris: u there?
          Kris: On if u want to chat 🙂 10:22 PM
           Me: Out picking up to be back in 15 minutes 10:24 PM
           Kris: K 10:24 PM

·       Apr 08 10:44 PM Sassy: Hiya! Back!
·       Apr 08 10:45 PM Kris: Hi!
·       Apr 08 10:45 PM Kris: how was your day?
·       Apr 08 10:46 PM Sassy: Busy. You?
·       Apr 08 10:46 PM Kris: same…under a lot of pressure…deadlines barely meeting…ugh!
·       Apr 08 10:47 PM Kris: what were u picking up…hubby or food?
·       Apr 08 10:48 PM Sassy: Hubby
·       Apr 08 10:48 PM Sassy: and a hot chocolate. : ) 
·       Apr 08 10:49 PM Kris: that a favorite?
·       Apr 08 10:49 PM Sassy: I’m having a phase
·       Apr 08 10:49 PM Sassy: In the summer it’s iced chai latte
·       Apr 08 10:49 PM Sassy: Sometimes raspberry lime rickies
·       Apr 08 10:49 PM Kris: what’s a rickie?
·       Apr 08 10:50 PM Sassy: sprite, lime juice and grenadine (pomegranate syrup)
·       Apr 08 10:50 PM Kris: sounds good!
·       Apr 08 10:51 PM Kris: tell me something that made you laugh today
·       Apr 08 10:54 PM Sassy: I was chatting with a woman who said her beau told her to stop calling him an idiot. So she was looking for synonyms!
·       Apr 08 10:54 PM Sassy: We had fun rolling off twit, prat, jerk, nincompoop…
·       Apr 08 10:54 PM Kris: lol
·       Apr 08 10:54 PM Sassy: cathartic
·       Apr 08 10:55 PM Kris: doesn’t sound like you came up with anything to make the poor idiot feel any better…
·       Apr 08 10:58 PM Kris: what gets you mad…and what do you act like when it happens?
·       Apr 08 10:58 PM Sassy: very very rare
·       Apr 08 10:58 PM Kris: how come?
·       Apr 08 10:58 PM Sassy: just not in my nature
·       Apr 08 10:59 PM Kris: ok…but you must SOMETIMES…no?
·       Apr 08 11:00 PM Sassy: I get very quiet.
·       Apr 08 11:00 PM Kris: when you’re mad?
·       Apr 08 11:00 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 08 11:00 PM Sassy: Take deep breaths.
·       Apr 08 11:00 PM Sassy: Clean the kitchen!
·       Apr 08 11:01 PM Kris: do you end up telling whoever makes you mad that you are?
·       Apr 08 11:01 PM Sassy: Mostly not
·       Apr 08 11:01 PM Kris: who does…make you mad sometimes…hubby?
·       Apr 08 11:02 PM Sassy: not much
·       Apr 08 11:02 PM Sassy: mostly my boss
·       Apr 08 11:02 PM Sassy: stupid people online
·       Apr 08 11:02 PM Kris: did any stupid people today make you mad?
·       Apr 08 11:03 PM Sassy: nope. Very rare… usually when they’re being mean to others
·       Apr 08 11:03 PM Kris: being mean live…or talking about others not there?
·       Apr 08 11:03 PM Sassy: mean right there
·       Apr 08 11:04 PM Kris: like calling names…saying people are stupid…like how?
·       Apr 08 11:04 PM Sassy: Devaluing their opinions, not letting them talk.
·       Apr 08 11:05 PM Kris: so you want people to value each other and try to be respectful?
·       Apr 08 11:06 PM Sassy: respect is crucial
·       Apr 08 11:06 PM Kris: one you think should be…but isn’t always?
·       Apr 08 11:06 PM Sassy: People have a lot of different kinks
·       Apr 08 11:06 PM Sassy: It’s important to not be all “ewww”
·       Apr 08 11:07 PM Kris: i’m assuming about sexual preferences…
·       Apr 08 11:07 PM Sassy: can be about almost anything
·       Apr 08 11:08 PM Kris: can u give me an example
·       Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: some you’d expect… over anal sex or public sex or toys
·       Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: other things like how soon to have sex
·       Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: or who pays for meals, hotels
·       Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: or whether to talk politics
·       Apr 08 11:09 PM Sassy: or various computer tactics
·       Apr 08 11:09 PM Kris: computer tactics
·       Apr 08 11:10 PM Sassy: do you delete everything or not? Is it okay to send cock shots?
·       Apr 08 11:10 PM Sassy: Apple vs PC!
·       Apr 08 11:10 PM Kris: omg…who cares what operating system anyone uses?
·       Apr 08 11:11 PM Sassy: some people care a lot. Idiots. Jerks. Twits. PRATS!
·       Apr 08 11:11 PM Kris: lol
·       Apr 08 11:11 PM Kris: what’s a prat
·       Apr 08 11:11 PM Sassy: But it can be whether they’d use tracking software
·       Apr 08 11:11 PM Kris: tracking software for what?
·       Apr 08 11:11 PM Sassy: to know where their spouse is at any given moment
·       Apr 08 11:12 PM Kris: so they don’t get caught cheating?
·       Apr 08 11:12 PM Sassy: right
·       Apr 08 11:13 PM Kris: what’s a prat…haven’t heard that one before
·       Apr 08 11:13 PM Sassy: an incompetent, stupid, or foolish person; an idiot.
·       Apr 08 11:13 PM Sassy: Brits use it
·       Apr 08 11:14 PM Kris: oh…an old term…i just haven’t heard it before…
·       Apr 08 11:14 PM Sassy: Or Aussies, Indians… former commonwealth nation dwellers
·       Apr 08 11:14 PM Kris: huh?
·       Apr 08 11:14 PM Sassy: People from all over the world talk to me online
·       Apr 08 11:15 PM Kris: those people use the word “prat”…is that what you’re saying?
·       Apr 08 11:15 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 08 11:15 PM Kris: oh
·       Apr 08 11:15 PM Sassy: Is your wife sitting next to you?
·       Apr 08 11:16 PM Kris: no…she started a new job today…worked till about 10…probably driving now…home in 45 minutes or so.
·       Apr 08 11:17 PM Sassy: Aha! So I could ravage you. ; ) 
·       Apr 08 11:17 PM Kris: ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 08 11:17 PM Kris: But you strike me as a girl who doesn’t like to travel too far from home…
·       Apr 08 11:18 PM Sassy: Really? I’ve gone a long way to ravage a man in the past.
·       Apr 08 11:18 PM Kris: Really…so you’re going to come to NH when my wife’s gone?
·       Apr 08 11:19 PM Sassy: Doesn’t seem wise in terms of being inside your house with my long grey hairs and distinctive scent…
·       Apr 08 11:19 PM Sassy: But I can drive places
·       Apr 08 11:19 PM Sassy: I’ve even flown places!
·       Apr 08 11:20 PM Kris: ok…so you’re not such a “home body”…
·       Apr 08 11:20 PM Sassy: I’ve even driven to the wild frontier of NH!
·       Apr 08 11:20 PM Kris: Ha!
·       Apr 08 11:20 PM Sassy: Okay… the beach… not so wild. But over the border!
·       Apr 08 11:21 PM Kris: yes…i know NH is almost like a foreign country to people in MA…lol
·       Apr 08 11:22 PM Kris: i had a major “omg” moment at work today…could have been bad…but wasn’t…
·       Apr 08 11:22 PM Sassy: That happen often?
·       Apr 08 11:23 PM Kris: not like this…had to do with shopping for std testing…
·       Apr 08 11:23 PM Sassy: ahem
·       Apr 08 11:23 PM Kris: meaning?
·       Apr 08 11:23 PM Sassy: nothing like real life and work life colliding
·       Apr 08 11:24 PM Kris: right
·       Apr 08 11:24 PM Kris: i was kind of stupid
·       Apr 08 11:24 PM Sassy: Tough for me to believe that
·       Apr 08 11:25 PM Kris: i’m usually not…but want me to tell you…i guarantee your response will be “omg”
·       Apr 08 11:25 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 08 11:26 PM Kris: ok…try to make it brief…but also wife just came home and now i’m pretending to listen to her while typing at the same time (don’t hold it against me)…
·       Apr 08 11:26 PM Kris: so here’s what happened…
·       Apr 08 11:26 PM Kris: i shopped for std testing…called some places in my insurance network…
·       Apr 08 11:26 PM Kris: got some info and prices…
·       Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: checked out the tstd website you gave me…
·       Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: decided to use the tstd website…
·       Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: went online to schedule an appt for today…
·       Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: online application failed for some reason…
·       Apr 08 11:27 PM Kris: called the website and was put on hold to talk to a counselor…
·       Apr 08 11:28 PM Kris: was waiting for a counselor to answer…30 minutes.
·        Apr 08 11:28 PM Kris: elevator music is playing…with an occasional “thank you for calling testing for stds”…then more elevator music…
·       Apr 08 11:29 PM Kris: while i’m waiting i’m sitting in my car…ready to go into a home for a 3:30 meeting.
·       Apr 08 11:29 PM Kris: now i’ve been on hold for about 45 minutes…
·       Apr 08 11:29 PM Kris: so i make a really stupid decsion…
·       Apr 08 11:30 PM Kris: i decide to stay on…put the volume on really low…and go into my meeting still on hold…elevator music playing…
·       Apr 08 11:30 PM Kris: say I’m trying to buy something and don’t want to miss having them pick up…
·       Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: they are very close to me…very flexible…don’t care…laugh and say fine…
·       Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: elevator music playing softly as we talk…
·       Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: all of a sudden there a small voice that starts to say…
·       Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: thank you for calling the testing for stds…
·       Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: i freak out and shut off the phone…
·       Apr 08 11:31 PM Kris: they didn’t hear it…
·       Apr 08 11:32 PM Sassy: phew
·       Apr 08 11:32 PM Kris: and now you say…
·       Apr 08 11:32 PM Kris: you idiot would fit (except you’re too nice)…
·       Apr 08 11:33 PM Sassy: I’m sorry… that must have been nerve-wracking!
·       Apr 08 11:33 PM Kris: REALLY…THAT’S IT…NOT “HOW DUMB CAN YOU BE!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 08 11:34 PM Kris: I like you
·       Apr 08 11:35 PM Sassy: I put myself in your shoes
·       Apr 08 11:37 PM Kris: you’re really sweet…I REALLY like you…anyhow…i called back…made an appt…gave them my pee and blood…will send you results on Thursday when I get them…if I’m not clean I’ve been carrying something for 25 years…since that’s the last time i had sex with anyone but my wife…it’s the truth.
·       Apr 08 11:38 PM Sassy: Or she’s been having more fun than you think.
·       Apr 08 11:38 PM Kris: lol…i know 100% NO…
·       Apr 08 11:38 PM Sassy: But I hope this gives you peace of mind in one way
·       Apr 08 11:38 PM Sassy: And I can give it to you in another
·       Apr 08 11:39 PM Kris: i did it for you…i’m not concerned about having anything…but it wasn’t fair to ask you to “just believe me”…
·       Apr 08 11:40 PM Kris: it will put my mind at ease when you get yours though…you’re right…hopefully you don’t have anything…
·       Apr 08 11:42 PM Sassy: Indeed
·       Apr 08 11:43 PM Sassy: I am trying not to think about it until I have to think about it
·       Apr 08 11:44 PM Kris: understood…but the fact that you’re willing to do it means you’re not just “sticking your head in the sand” either…which I respect you for.
·        Apr 08 11:45 PM Sassy: It will be good to know
·       Apr 08 11:45 PM Kris: exactly
·       Apr 08 11:45 PM Sassy: I had a couple of tests done in December
·       Apr 08 11:45 PM Kris: for what?
·       Apr 08 11:46 PM Sassy: Chlamydia and Gonnorhea
·       Apr 08 11:46 PM Kris: assuming they were negative?
·       Apr 08 11:46 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 08 11:47 PM Kris: so that’s two out of 8 on the full panel
·       Apr 08 11:47 PM Sassy: they told me to wait on the others due to various incubation protocols
·       Apr 08 11:47 PM Kris: been long enough now to work?
·       Apr 08 11:47 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 08 11:47 PM Sassy: could have done it in early March
·       Apr 08 11:48 PM Kris: have you been tested before…in the past?
·       Apr 08 11:48 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 08 11:48 PM Sassy: once after a fling and the other for insurance
·       Apr 08 11:48 PM Kris: every need to be treated for anything?
·       Apr 08 11:48 PM Sassy: no
·       Apr 08 11:48 PM Kris: that’s good
·       Apr 08 11:49 PM Kris: short of hiv i think the others are all treatable…not 100% sure…haven’t really needed to think about it much…until now.
·       Apr 08 11:49 PM Sassy: even HIV is treatable these days. Not curable…
·       Apr 08 11:50 PM Kris: yes…but i meant curable…gone…
·       Apr 08 11:51 PM Kris: i asked today about why they didn’t test for HPV and another one i had on my list…
·       Apr 08 11:51 PM Kris: got answers…
·       Apr 08 11:51 PM Kris: no blood test for HPV…
·       Apr 08 11:51 PM Sassy: in men
·       Apr 08 11:52 PM Kris: i don’t know…maybe not…usually what women are tested for via pap smear…right?
·       Apr 08 11:52 PM Sassy: my nurse said they do a pap smear and only test for HPV if the pap is abnormal in certain directions
·       Apr 08 11:53 PM Kris: oh…
·       Apr 08 11:53 PM Sassy: what about the other test?
·        Apr 08 11:54 PM Kris: i’m probably going to misspell it…but it’s the one called something like trichomonmasis…
·       Apr 08 11:54 PM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 08 11:54 PM Kris: talked to a nurse on the phone about it at a clinic today
·       Apr 08 11:54 PM Kris: she said it will present as a greenish discharge…that has a strong smell like a fish (lovely!)
·       Apr 08 11:55 PM Kris: discharge from penis…maybe in urine…
·       Apr 08 11:55 PM Kris: or woman’s vagina…yuck!
·       Apr 08 11:55 PM Sassy: I think I’d notice that
·       Apr 08 11:55 PM Kris: when I go down there i’m not looking for “fish and chips” thank you very much!
·       Apr 08 11:55 PM Sassy: Heh
·       Apr 08 11:56 PM Sassy: Did they ask you why you wanted to be tested?
·       Apr 08 11:56 PM Sassy: Or any sexual history questions?
·       Apr 08 11:56 PM Kris: not the tstd.org counselor…but a nurse at the public health dept. in Manchester asked me…
·       Apr 08 11:56 PM Kris: it was on the phone…she asked…
·       Apr 08 11:57 PM Kris: are you concerned about having been exposed to something…
·       Apr 08 11:57 PM Kris: i said…no…
·       Apr 08 11:57 PM Sassy: that’s subtle
·       Apr 08 11:58 PM Kris: someone asked me to do it that i’m thinking of being in a relationship with (simple truth is less complicated than lying—-these are health professionals after all)
·       Apr 08 11:58 PM Sassy: Did you pay for it on your credit card?
·       Apr 08 11:59 PM Kris: yes…i thought about shopping for a clinic that i could pay through my insurance…but higher risk of getting caught if bills come in the mail…
·       Apr 08 11:59 PM Sassy: W doesn’t see credit card bill?
·       Apr 08 11:59 PM Kris: no…i do all the finances…
·       Apr 08 11:59 PM Sassy: Nice
·       Apr 09 12:00 AM Kris: sort of…it’s just “one more thing to do”…but means I “get away with stuff” easily…
·       Apr 09 12:00 AM Sassy: Phew
·       Apr 09 12:01 AM Kris: why phew
·       Apr 09 12:01 AM Sassy: So you don’t have to worry about it from that angle
·       Apr 09 12:01 AM Kris: right
·       Apr 09 12:01 AM Sassy: So you can do AM, this stuff, lunch etc.
·       Apr 09 12:02 AM Kris: what do you mean?
·        Apr 09 12:02 AM Sassy: charge stuff and she won’t see
·       Apr 09 12:02 AM Kris: yes
·       Apr 09 12:03 AM Sassy: Once I charged a hotel and the guy gave me cash because his W goes over all the bills
·       Apr 09 12:03 AM Kris: yeah…that would be tough…
·       Apr 09 12:04 AM Sassy: Several of my pals can’t cheat because they can’t figure out how to finance it
·       Apr 09 12:04 AM Kris: pals?
·       Apr 09 12:04 AM Sassy: online buddies
·       Apr 09 12:04 AM Kris: because they can’t afford it…but can’t hide it?
·       Apr 09 12:04 AM Sassy: can’t hide it
·       Apr 09 12:05 AM Sassy: We talk about mischief phones
·       Apr 09 12:05 AM Sassy: stockpiling small amounts of cash here and there
·       Apr 09 12:05 AM Sassy: gift credit cards
·       Apr 09 12:07 AM Sassy: Did you get to ride the motorcycle yet?
·       Apr 09 12:08 AM Kris: glad i don’t have to deal with all that…but sometime want to talk with you about us…and money…but not now cuz i’m tired…and i have to get up really early for meetings tomorrow…so if there’s something else…had this all typed…so will send then answer question about bike?
·       Apr 09 12:08 AM Sassy: Ok
·       Apr 09 12:08 AM Kris: answer about bike…not yet…have a question for you about bike…
·       Apr 09 12:10 AM Kris: does the thought of being on bike make you nervous…because of safety?
·       Apr 09 12:10 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 09 12:11 AM Kris: ok…so i’ll use my considerable therapy skills to treat you like one of my clients who has “anxiety with agoraphobia”…
·       Apr 09 12:11 AM Sassy: Oh great
·       Apr 09 12:11 AM Kris: it’s a technique called “gradual exposure”…
·       Apr 09 12:11 AM Kris: so how does this sound…
·       Apr 09 12:11 AM Sassy: I won’t think about it until I have to think about it.
·       Apr 09 12:12 AM Kris: to begin with…i’ll ask you to just sit on the back of it…with your favorite music playing through the four external speakers…
·       Apr 09 12:12 AM Kris: and to really “sweeten” it for you…
·       Apr 09 12:12 AM Kris: i’ll ask you to grope me while we’re sitting on it…
·       Apr 09 12:12 AM Sassy: oooh
·       Apr 09 12:13 AM Kris: no riding…just sitting on it…
·       Apr 09 12:13 AM Kris: baby steps… : ) 
·       Apr 09 12:13 AM Kris: “gradual exposure/desensitization”…to overcome fear…
·        Apr 09 12:14 AM Kris: maybe you can use that technique for whatever “wild moves” you have planned for me in bed
·       Apr 09 12:16 AM Sassy: hmmmm
·       Apr 09 12:17 AM Kris: hmmm?
·       Apr 09 12:17 AM Sassy: thinking
·       Apr 09 12:17 AM Sassy: got a little lost mulling over… you… in bed… me…
·       Apr 09 12:17 AM Kris: lost in what way?
·       Apr 09 12:18 AM Sassy: in my mind… fantasizing
·       Apr 09 12:19 AM Kris: ok…just when i thought it was safe to go…tell me…
·       Apr 09 12:19 AM Sassy: Sleep is more important
·       Apr 09 12:19 AM Sassy: Plenty of time later
·       Apr 09 12:19 AM Sassy: I probably won’t be online tomorrow night
·       Apr 09 12:19 AM Sassy: It’s a busy project night with an after party
·       Apr 09 12:20 AM Kris: won’t be able to chat?
·       Apr 09 12:20 AM Sassy: right
·       Apr 09 12:20 AM Kris: what’s the party like?
·       Apr 09 12:20 AM Sassy: take over the top floor of a restaurant
·       Apr 09 12:21 AM Kris: with project people?
·       Apr 09 12:21 AM Sassy: yes
·       Apr 09 12:22 AM Kris: ok…sounds “different”…fun…
·       Apr 09 12:22 AM Kris: did u read my email…
·       Apr 09 12:22 AM Sassy: remind me to show you a photo tomorrow
·       Apr 09 12:22 AM Sassy: or Th, from the party
·       Apr 09 12:22 AM Kris: ok
·       Apr 09 12:23 AM Sassy: Can you go now?
·       Apr 09 12:23 AM Kris: meaning say good nite?
·       Apr 09 12:24 AM Sassy: Yes and yes
·       Apr 09 12:24 AM Kris: yes…nite sexy Sassy.
·       Apr 09 12:24 AM Sassy: Mwah! Sweet sexy dreams Kris!

Ready to go

·       Apr 07 10:07 PM Kris: Hi!
·       Apr 07 10:08 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Apr 07 10:08 PM Sassy: Good work out?
·       Apr 07 10:08 PM Kris: yes!
·       Apr 07 10:09 PM Sassy: Been feeling alive?
·       Apr 07 10:09 PM Kris: yes!
·       Apr 07 10:10 PM Kris: worried all day about reading your email…just read it…you’re unbelievably sweet and nice!
·       Apr 07 10:11 PM Sassy:  : )
·       Apr 07 10:11 PM Kris: only one line worried me a little…
·       Apr 07 10:11 PM Sassy: Oh?
·       Apr 07 10:12 PM Kris: when you said you worried i should find a gal who likes riding harleys.
·       Apr 07 10:13 PM Sassy: Why is that worrisome?
·       Apr 07 10:14 PM Sassy: I don’t want to worry you…
·       Apr 07 10:15 PM Kris: cuz it’s not really that important in terms of what i’m REALLY wanting…and i don’t think you would do it…but some women will pretend to be “watching out for my interests” but it’s really their way of saying…i’m easing you into letting you know i’m losing interest…but i don’t think you’re like that…i think you’ll be straight with me…like you said
·       Apr 07 10:16 PM Sassy: The more I like someone, the more I want them to have what they want
·       Apr 07 10:16 PM Sassy: I even start to think I should go away so you could find someone thin and beautiful! But then I remember how fantastic I am and get over it.  : )
·       Apr 07 10:17 PM Kris: GOOD FOR YOU SASSIE…LIVE UP TO YOUR NAME GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 07 10:17 PM Sassy: Ha ha… okay then.  : )
·       Apr 07 10:18 PM Sassy: You sitting next to your lovely wife?
·       Apr 07 10:18 PM Kris: yes
·       Apr 07 10:18 PM Kris: you
·       Apr 07 10:18 PM Sassy: alone at my desk, eating a late supper
·       Apr 07 10:19 PM Kris: whatch eatin
·       Apr 07 10:19 PM Sassy: Thai food
·       Apr 07 10:19 PM Kris: is it spicy
·       Apr 07 10:19 PM Sassy: not tonight
·       Apr 07 10:19 PM Sassy: a mild chicken coconut soup, little crispy spring rolls and steamed shrimp shumai
·       Apr 07 10:20 PM Kris: yum…sounds good…
·       Apr 07 10:20 PM Kris: can i respond to “thin and beautiful” for a minute?
·       Apr 07 10:20 PM Sassy: sure
·       Apr 07 10:21 PM
Kris: ok…i’m hot to not lose focus here…and i’m not a “chaser”…i want to “close”…if you let me…so what’s the MAIN thing i’m looking for (please pass this quiz)..
·       Apr 07 10:23 PM Kris: tap, tap, tap…waiting
·       Apr 07 10:26 PM Sassy: What quiz?
·       Apr 07 10:26 PM Sassy: Sorry… I am still a little slow from lack of sleep
·       Apr 07 10:26 PM Kris: my question is…what’s the main thing i’m looking for?
·       Apr 07 10:28 PM Kris: you have it in spades…just sayin
·       Apr 07 10:28 PM Kris: ok…want me to just tell you?
·       Apr 07 10:28 PM Sassy: Yes.
·       Apr 07 10:29 PM Kris: YOU REALLY LIKE SEX!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 07 10:29 PM Sassy: Ah right! I certainly showed that on Friday!
·       Apr 07 10:29 PM Kris: ok…but let me tell you the other reasons…
·       Apr 07 10:30 PM Sassy: I start to blush thinking of how bold I was, but then I think of what we did and I get lost in the heat and the passion and… mmmm
·       Apr 07 10:30 PM Kris: right…and you so turned me on because you took the initiative…
·       Apr 07 10:30 PM Kris: you just kissed me right in front of the restaurant…
·       Apr 07 10:30 PM Kris: and we just stood there on the street for a while
·       Apr 07 10:31 PM Kris: i never did that before
·       Apr 07 10:31 PM Kris: i would normally be embarrassed
·       Apr 07 10:31 PM Kris: but it was like there wasn’t anyone else there
·       Apr 07 10:31 PM Kris: and the same thing in the parking lot
·       Apr 07 10:31 PM Kris: i was lost in you…i didn’t care…
·       Apr 07 10:31 PM Kris: i was really excited
·       Apr 07 10:31 PM Kris: and really comfortable..
·       Apr 07 10:31 PM Kris: AND I WANT MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 07 10:32 PM Sassy: Yes… I shudder when I think of all the people and… then I don’t care. Just us… so good…
·       Apr 07 10:33 PM Sassy: I try to be outside myself… think what I would do if I was parking, walking to the mall, saw someone making out… whatever! Look! They’re having fun! Ha ha ha
·       Apr 07 10:34 PM Kris: some people would think that…others would think “get a room”…and be a little “put off” by it…
·       Apr 07 10:34 PM Kris: oh well..who cares…i didn’t
·       Apr 07 10:35 PM Sassy: Thank you very much for rolling with it.
·       Apr 07 10:35 PM Kris: something in the email you said we could chat about…think it had to do with testing
·       Apr 07 10:36 PM Sassy: I need to think more about it.
·        Apr 07 10:36 PM Kris: about what in particular?
·       Apr 07 10:36 PM Sassy: I suppose it comes down to whether I believe you.
·       Apr 07 10:37 PM Kris: ok…i’m going to make it easy for you…i’m going to do it…so let’s move on…
·       Apr 07 10:37 PM Sassy: Oh?
·       Apr 07 10:37 PM Kris: yes…
·       Apr 07 10:37 PM Sassy: There’s a bit of history behind this.
·       Apr 07 10:38 PM Sassy: Old flame went on and on about how he had never cheated, and he is such the “man of honor” boy scout etc. and I thought he is just like me! etc etc
·       Apr 07 10:39 PM Sassy: Of course, he meant except for this one woman that he moved out to be with and stayed out for 6 months and then his kids convinced him to go back and he had done all this wild stuff with her and she was totally wild and…
·       Apr 07 10:39 PM Sassy: He had only been back with his wife about 6 months
·       Apr 07 10:40 PM Sassy: He got tested every year – military is big on that – but it was just… he totally mischaracterized it
·       Apr 07 10:41 PM Sassy: So the person I feel closest to in the world was totally lying for a long time, mostly by omission but also in any “firsts” we did
·       Apr 07 10:42 PM Sassy: I’ve dealt with, I understand it, but it’s out there
·       Apr 07 10:42 PM Sassy: Thank you for not making me wonder
·       Apr 07 10:42 PM Sassy: Can you go to your doctor or are you using an online test? A pal recommends tstd.org
·       Apr 07 10:44 PM Kris: i would be embarrassed to go to my doctor…because he knows both me and my wife really intimately…so i’ll have to find someplace else…how can u do it online…need to draw blood and go to a lab…
·       Apr 07 10:44 PM Kris:  i did some research about testing sites in boston and nh a while back
·       Apr 07 10:45 PM Kris: there are free ones for the “big STDs”…
·       Apr 07 10:45 PM Kris: but not the whole list i emailed you
·       Apr 07 10:45 PM Kris: they cost about $40/test
·       Apr 07 10:45 PM Kris: i have insurance
·       Apr 07 10:45 PM Sassy: Check out the site. I think they have connections to local clinics. Give you a number – you walk in for a blood test and urine test – then they email you the results in 48 hrs
·       Apr 07 10:46 PM Kris: ok…but i want all the ones i emailed you…total of about 10
·       Apr 07 10:46 PM Kris: some only do “big ones”…not all i listed
·       Apr 07 10:47 PM Kris: only AIDS will kill you…but and all the others are “treatable”…but I don’t want ANY…
·       Apr 07 10:48 PM Kris: ok…i’ll check it out. what did you think of my list?
·       Apr 07 10:48 PM Sassy: It’s $199 for a full panel
·       Apr 07 10:48 PM Sassy: just enter your zip code… or mine for Boston area places
·       Apr 07 10:48 PM Sassy: friend online uses them
·       Apr 07 10:49 PM Kris: but does “full panel” include all 10 i listed?
·       Apr 07 10:51 PM Sassy: It lists 7.
·       Apr 07 10:52 PM Kris: what does…the full panel you’re talking about?
·       Apr 07 10:52 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 07 10:52 PM Kris: ok…so we’re both going to get tested and show each other the results…right?
·       Apr 07 10:53 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 07 10:53 PM Kris: ok…then we get lying out of the way
·       Apr 07 10:53 PM Sassy: Phew
·       Apr 07 10:53 PM Kris: that feels good
·       Apr 07 10:53 PM Sassy: I want you to feel good
·       Apr 07 10:53 PM Kris: and i want you to feel good
·       Apr 07 10:54 PM Sassy: You have magic hands
·       Apr 07 10:55 PM Kris: it wasn’t as good as it can be…partly because i was using my left hand and i’m right handed…
·       Apr 07 10:55 PM Kris: but thank you for saying so
·       Apr 07 10:56 PM Sassy: Yes… but it blew my mind that under some of the worst circumstances, it was still really really good. If it gets a lot better in a bed in private… damn…
·       Apr 07 10:56 PM Kris: it will…i promise…
·       Apr 07 10:56 PM Sassy: Have you seen “The Princess Bride?”
·       Apr 07 10:56 PM Kris: no
·       Apr 07 10:57 PM Sassy: It’s campy but fun.
·       Apr 07 10:57 PM Sassy: There is a great sword duel where they are dueling verbally as well and one guys says… you are better than I thought you’d be, you may be a match for me. I thought I was the best.
·       Apr 07 10:58 PM Sassy: And the other man says… there is something you should know.
·       Apr 07 10:58 PM Sassy: I am not left-handed!
·       Apr 07 10:58 PM Sassy: And he switches the blade over to his right hand and is an even better swordsman!
·       Apr 07 10:58 PM Kris: LOL!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 07 10:58 PM Kris: so watch out!
·       Apr 07 10:59 PM Sassy:  It is a movie I didn’t get a first, but after several tries it gets funnier and funnier and you start seeing the lines in every day life.
·       Apr 07 11:00 PM Kris: think we could watch it together sometime?
·       Apr 07 11:00 PM Sassy: Maybe so!
·       Apr 07 11:00 PM Sassy: My favorite line is… “I will explain… no… there is too much. I will sum up!”
·       Apr 07 11:01 PM Sassy: It’s very romantic
·       Apr 07 11:01 PM Sassy: There is kissing.  : )
·       Apr 07 11:01 PM Kris: Mwahh!
·       Apr 07 11:04 PM Sassy: Have you been fantasizing?
·       Apr 07 11:05 PM Kris: yes…constantly…and i’m not going to be too patient pretty soon…
·       Apr 07 11:07 PM Kris: right now if you let me…there’s only one thing i would feel “safe” doing before getting tested…but if you said “come play” in any other way…you wouldn’t have to ask twice…
·       Apr 07 11:08 PM Sassy: What would you feel safe doing?
·       Apr 07 11:08 PM Kris: I meant only one thing I WOULDN’T feel doing…but could do anything else
·       Apr 07 11:09 PM Kris: only one thing i wouldn’t feel safe doing…(get it straight Kris)
·       Apr 07 11:09 PM Sassy: What is that? P in V?
·       Apr 07 11:09 PM Kris: no…that i would feel safe doing with a condom on…
·       Apr 07 11:10 PM Sassy: anal?
·       Apr 07 11:10 PM Kris: going down on you…it’s not the highest risk thing…but still can transmit…
·       Apr 07 11:10 PM Sassy: ah… I see
·       Apr 07 11:10 PM Kris: with a condom I would do anything…right now…
·       Apr 07 11:10 PM Kris: i like giving oral…
·       Apr 07 11:10 PM Kris: but i can use my hand…and other things
·       Apr 07 11:12 PM Kris: have you been fantasizing?
·       Apr 07 11:12 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 07 11:12 PM Kris: want to tell me some?
·       Apr 07 11:12 PM Sassy: I tend to focus on basics
·       Apr 07 11:12 PM Kris: go on
·       Apr 07 11:12 PM Sassy: Kissing
·       Apr 07 11:13 PM Kris: you’re a great kisser…we’ve established that
·       Apr 07 11:13 PM Sassy: You exploring my body…
·       Apr 07 11:13 PM Sassy: What happens when you touch my back… my neck…
·       Apr 07 11:14 PM Sassy: kiss the inside of my knee
·       Apr 07 11:14 PM Sassy: me sucking on you.  : )
·       Apr 07 11:15 PM Kris: omg…do you need the results of my tests first?
·       Apr 07 11:16 PM Kris: parts of your fantasy are similar to parts of mine…want to hear some?
·       Apr 07 11:18 PM Sassy: Oh yes
·       Apr 07 11:19 PM Kris: i asked 2 questions…sorry…first one is “do you need the results of my tests first? (impatience)
·       Apr 07 11:19 PM Sassy: oop
·       Apr 07 11:20 PM Sassy: missed that one
·       Apr 07 11:20 PM Kris: so?
·       Apr 07 11:20 PM Kris: pressure…i know…you’ve got me SO horny…
·       Apr 07 11:21 PM Kris: so answer is?
·       Apr 07 11:21 PM Sassy: I am ready to go
·       Apr 07 11:21 PM Kris: Whoopeee!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 07 11:21 PM Kris: ok…back to my fantasy…ready?
·       Apr 07 11:23 PM Sassy: oh yes.  : )
·       Apr 07 11:24 PM Kris: ok…so my fantasies tend to be not “fully developed”…if that makes any sense…it’s like they’re kind of “scenes in a movie” that aren’t necessarily all connected…but i’ll do the best i can…
·       Apr 07 11:24 PM Sassy: Of course
·       Apr 07 11:24 PM Kris: so here’s one…about the first time…
·       Apr 07 11:25 PM Kris: we’re in a softly lit room…but want to see everything…
·       Apr 07 11:27 PM Kris: I ask you to get undressed without me there…and get in bed…and lay on your stomach on the bed with something covering your butt…so your bare back and legs are exposed…but that’s all i can see at first…
·       Apr 07 11:28 PM Kris: then i start to gently rub your shoulders and back…i ask you teach me how to rub your back so that it feels really good…harder…softer…rub…press down a little harder…
·       Apr 07 11:28 PM Kris: i want to start with the “non-erogenous” parts first…and “work my way there”…
·       Apr 07 11:29 PM Kris: i bend over and brush your hair back and kiss you on the neck…
·       Apr 07 11:29 PM Kris: nibble a little on your ear…
·       Apr 07 11:29 PM Kris: rub your arms…outstretched…
·       Apr 07 11:29 PM Kris: kiss your arms…kiss your hands…
·       Apr 07 11:29 PM Kris: rub your back…
·       Apr 07 11:30 PM Kris: rub your legs…gently…kiss you anywhere you want…
·       Apr 07 11:30 PM Kris: you teach me what feels good and how to do it…
·       Apr 07 11:30 PM Kris: that’s as far as i get in the “non-erogeous” part…
·       Apr 07 11:30 PM Sassy: That is mesmerizing…
·       Apr 07 11:30 PM Sassy: I will tell you there is a spot
·       Apr 07 11:31 PM Sassy: on my back
·       Apr 07 11:31 PM Sassy: It’s directly connected to another spot
·       Apr 07 11:31 PM Sassy: you’ll know when you find it
·       Apr 07 11:31 PM Kris: how will i know?
·       Apr 07 11:31 PM Sassy: I will explode
·       Apr 07 11:32 PM Kris: stupid question…but how will you explode?
·       Apr 07 11:32 PM Sassy: or squirm a lot
·       Apr 07 11:32 PM Kris: nother stupid question…what’s it connected to?
·       Apr 07 11:32 PM Sassy: inside me
·       Apr 07 11:33 PM Kris: not enough to have an orgasm though?
·       Apr 07 11:33 PM Sassy: enough
·       Apr 07 11:33 PM Kris: WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How does that even work?
·       Apr 07 11:34 PM Sassy: I dunno… it’s like the Staples easy button!
·       Apr 07 11:34 PM Kris: I guess! You could make the worst lover in the world look good!
·       Apr 07 11:34 PM Sassy: Ha ha
·       Apr 07 11:35 PM Sassy: I used to think sex was this fast, frantic thing
·       Apr 07 11:35 PM Sassy: and it still can be
·       Apr 07 11:35 PM Sassy: But I have also learned the joys of touching
·       Apr 07 11:35 PM Sassy: slow
·       Apr 07 11:35 PM Sassy: careful
·       Apr 07 11:36 PM Sassy: agonizingly tantalizing
·       Apr 07 11:36 PM Sassy: varied
·       Apr 07 11:36 PM Sassy: often much more memorable
·       Apr 07 11:36 PM Sassy: and you find places…
·       Apr 07 11:36 PM Sassy: a patch of skin
·       Apr 07 11:36 PM Sassy: a sensation
·       Apr 07 11:36 PM Kris: omg…like the way you sucked my finger and there wasn’t anything left to my imagination…except…IS SHE ACTUALLY GOING TO DO THAT TO ME SOMEDAY
·       Apr 07 11:37 PM Sassy: Yes… little things… that go into our minds and come out much more powerful
·       Apr 07 11:37 PM Sassy: Mmmf.. i was a total hussy on Friday
·       Apr 07 11:38 PM Sassy: I was not being a tease… it was foreplay… a preview… a promise
·       Apr 07 11:38 PM Kris: a PROMISE?
·       Apr 07 11:38 PM Sassy: a peek
·       Apr 07 11:38 PM Kris: i thought you were still deciding…but i’m not letting you off the hook of your answer just a little whiile ago: “I’m ready to go.”
·       Apr 07 11:39 PM Sassy: That’s the odd thing about affairs
·       Apr 07 11:39 PM Kris: what?
·       Apr 07 11:39 PM Sassy: Deciding
·       Apr 07 11:39 PM Sassy: I get the feeling men are always deciding
·       Apr 07 11:39 PM Kris: deciding what?
·       Apr 07 11:40 PM Sassy: If they want to continue
·       Apr 07 11:40 PM Kris: we have barely started…and i want to get in bed with you
·       Apr 07 11:41 PM Kris: don’t you think women are also deciding if they want to continue?
·       Apr 07 11:41 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 07 11:41 PM Sassy: Interesting balance to keep it exciting
·       Apr 07 11:41 PM Kris: balance between what and what?
·       Apr 07 11:42 PM Sassy: Endless auditioning but not boring, allowing each other to relax a little, without taking it for granted
·       Apr 07 11:43 PM Kris: i wouldn’t mind being able to “take something for granted”…at least for awhile…the “hunt” is exhausting…
·       Apr 07 11:43 PM Sassy: indeed
·       Apr 07 11:43 PM Kris: i mean…if we start out having really good sex…and lots of fun…and we just go along…then it’s good…
·       Apr 07 11:44 PM Sassy: Sounds fantastic!
·       Apr 07 11:44 PM Sassy: and you know I won’t be boring.
·       Apr 07 11:44 PM Kris: if one day we’re looking at each other thinking “ho hum”…well…we deal with it then…but hope it doesn’t happen too soon…at least that’s the way i’m thinking…and hoping for…
·       Apr 07 11:46 PM Sassy: Sounds so good
·       Apr 07 11:46 PM Kris: little digression…but about how much you’ve got me “hooked”…
·       Apr 07 11:46 PM Kris: i’m at the gym tonight working out…
·       Apr 07 11:47 PM Kris: i’m probably one of the oldest guys in there…
·       Apr 07 11:47 PM Kris: surrounded by beautiful young women and muscle-bound young studs…
·       Apr 07 11:47 PM Kris: tight clothes on all the women…
·       Apr 07 11:47 PM Kris: pretty faces…fit bodies…
·       Apr 07 11:48 PM Kris: and the whole time i’m thinking of what i want to do with you…
·       Apr 07 11:48 PM Kris: it’s not about “thin and beautiful” for me…
·       Apr 07 11:48 PM Kris: it’a about…if you WANT ME…and YOU LIKE SEX… you’ve got me…and right now you do…
·       Apr 07 11:48 PM Kris: i lust after other women…
·       Apr 07 11:49 PM Kris: but i’m not going to be with anyone else…
·       Apr 07 11:49 PM Kris: not because i’m “noble”…
·       Apr 07 11:49 PM Kris: i don’t have the time or energy…
·       Apr 07 11:49 PM Kris: and i’m not “wired’ that way…
·       Apr 07 11:49 PM Kris: stepping out on my wife is a “big deal” to me…
·       Apr 07 11:49 PM Kris: and i want to do it with YOU…
·       Apr 07 11:49 PM Kris: your turn
·       Apr 07 11:50 PM Sassy: My turn?
·       Apr 07 11:50 PM Kris: to talk
·       Apr 07 11:50 PM Sassy: You make me smile
·       Apr 07 11:50 PM Kris: why?
·       Apr 07 11:51 PM Sassy: So earnest
·       Apr 07 11:51 PM Kris: hmmmm…meaning?
·       Apr 07 11:51 PM Sassy: I am used to casualness
·       Apr 07 11:52 PM Sassy: Non-committed ness
·       Apr 07 11:52 PM Kris: don’t want to scare you off
·       Apr 07 11:52 PM Sassy: It is refreshing
·       Apr 07 11:52 PM Kris: ok
·       Apr 07 11:53 PM Sassy: But take your time. Get to know me
·       Apr 07 11:53 PM Kris: ok…is having sex with you getting to know you?…not going to want to wait long…
·       Apr 07 11:54 PM Sassy: Oh yes… that is a very important component of this
·       Apr 07 11:54 PM Sassy: Because you can do all the rest with almost anyone else… eating, talking, etc.
·       Apr 07 11:55 PM Sassy: But the sex has to be good.
·       Apr 07 11:55 PM Sassy: First times can be odd…
·       Apr 07 11:55 PM Sassy: please do not judge too much from that
·       Apr 07 11:56 PM Sassy: It can be tough to have the most fun as you’re getting used to someone
·       Apr 07 11:56 PM Sassy: But it can just get better and better
·       Apr 07 11:57 PM Kris: well…you’re obviously much more experienced in all of this than me (having affairs that is)…but…
·       Apr 07 11:58 PM Sassy: I try to use what I’ve learned but not be too big a cynic.
·       Apr 07 11:58 PM Kris: those last six lines are almost exactly what the woman who had a 3 month chatting relationship said…and i know it’s true…she asked me once…
·       Apr 07 11:58 PM Kris: she asked me…what happens if we have sex and it isn’t good?
·       Apr 07 11:58 PM Kris: i said, well…do i only get “one shot” at it…don’t you think there will be just a little nervousness the first time?
·       Apr 07 11:59 PM Kris: she said…yes…don’t judge by that…
·       Apr 07 11:59 PM Kris: just like you said…but with you..
·       Apr 07 11:59 PM Kris: i have this feeling it’s not going to be so hard…
·       Apr 07 11:59 PM Kris: that’s not b.s…
·       Apr 07 11:59 PM Sassy: I hope we could talk…
·       Apr 08 12:00 AM Sassy: Say… hunh… that was a little freaky… let’s try again and do more x or try y…
·       Apr 08 12:00 AMS assy: Does that seem possible?
·       Apr 08 12:00 AM Kris: does what seem possible?
·       Apr 08 12:00 AMSassy: talking, being open, trying again
·       Apr 08 12:00 AMSassy: like a recipe…may not taste quite right the first time. Add more milk… try some salt…
·       Apr 08 12:02 AMKris: gotcha…absolutely…we tell each other what we like…what feels good…what isn’t working…if we like each other and trust each other and can even laugh a little about things…it seems like it should be exciting and fun and work…
·       Apr 08 12:03 AMKris: i mean…what about Friday?
·       Apr 08 12:03 AMKris: that was good for me…very exciting…felt good…comfortable…know i’m repeating myself…a “first” for me…just really good…and only a “sneak peek”
·       Apr 08 12:04 AMSassy: Very promising start!
·       Apr 08 12:05 AMKris: ok…so where/when are we doing something next?…and what…do you want to do?
·       Apr 08 12:05 AMSassy: I need to focus on my project stuff this week. But after that I am open
·       Apr 08 12:06 AMKris: when is it over?
·       Apr 08 12:06 AMSassy: Saturday
·       Apr 08 12:06 AM Kris: so from this coming Sunday on?
·       Apr 08 12:07 AMSassy: Yes. My life should get much quieter
·       Apr 08 12:07 AMSassy: So I can focus on you
·       Apr 08 12:09 AMKris: what do you want to do the next time we meet?
·       Apr 08 12:09 AMSassy: thinking up ways to make you smile and help you make me smile
·       Apr 08 12:10 AMKris: so we’re going to sit around tell each other jokes all day?
·       Apr 08 12:10 AMKris: JUST KIDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 08 12:11 AMKris: where will we be…and how long will we spend together?
·       Apr 08 12:11 AMSassy: What were you envisioning?
·       Apr 08 12:12 AMKris: a whole day starting with lunch and leading to bed
·       Apr 08 12:12 AMKris: or brunch…
·       Apr 08 12:14 AMKris: or an early dinner leading to bed…but doesn’t leave as much time for the most fun part…
·       Apr 08 12:15 AMSassy: Hotel may be tricky until the Marathon is over
·       Apr 08 12:17 AMKris: or could move a little further out…close enough so you’re not out of your comfort zone…but less popular area for the Marathon visitors…when’s the Marathon?
·       Apr 08 12:17 AMSassy: April 21
·       Apr 08 12:18 AMSassy: I can do some checking once we know possible dates
·       Apr 08 12:19 AMKris: what are your thoughts about my suggestions…do you have some alternate thoughts/ideas…something else in mind that you’d prefer?
·       Apr 08 12:19 AMSassy: Sounds wonderful
·       Apr 08 12:20 AMSassy: We’ll figure it out. It will be fun!
·       Apr 08 12:20 AMSassy: I should get to bed.
·       Apr 08 12:20 AMSassy: Talk more tomorrow night?
·       Apr 08 12:21 AMKris: me too…thank you…Mr. Earnest
·       Apr 08 12:21 AMKris: nite…hugs and love that groping…
·       Apr 08 12:21 AMSassy: You are made of awesome
·       Apr 08 12:21 AMKris: tomorrow…ok…might be late again though…
·       Apr 08 12:22 AMSassy: Sure
·       Apr 08 12:22 AMKris: ok…deep kiss…nite

The night before

Thursday, April 3, 2014
·       Apr 03 10:45 PM Kris: Hi
·       Apr 03 10:46 PM Sassy: Hiya!
·       Apr 03 10:46 PM Sassy: I can’t stay up too late… I have a meet tomorrow.  : ) 
·       Apr 03 10:46 PM Kris: ok…how long….let’s set an end time…
·       Apr 03 10:47 PM Sassy: You excited? Nervous?
·       Apr 03 10:48 PM Kris: mostly excited….a little nervous but not too much….you’re very easy to talk to….so i expect it will be the same when we meet….except maybe a little nervous about “then what”?
·       Apr 03 10:48 PM Sassy: Midnight?
·       Apr 03 10:48 PM Kris: isn’t midnight too late for you?
·       Apr 03 10:49 PM Sassy: Is it okay if I hug you right off? Like meeting an old friend?
·       Apr 03 10:50 PM Kris: absolutely…and a light kiss on the cheek wouldn’t hurt either. : )
·       Apr 03 10:51 PM Sassy: Ok. I try to be very circumspect in public.
·       Apr 03 10:51 PM Sassy: If we see anyone I know, I am talking to you about donating to my projects.  : )
·       Apr 03 10:52 PM Sassy: Not very likely but good to have a story ready!
·       Apr 03 10:52 PM Kris: ok…..with the arrangement you have with your husband I kind of forgot you still have to be discreet…..and being in your “own backyard”…..is it generally safe and ok?
·       Apr 03 10:52 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 03 10:53 PM Kris: ok…I’m a prospective donor
·       Apr 03 10:54 PM Kris: how do you want to dress….did you read my email?
·       Apr 03 10:54 PM Sassy: I will have on my typical work outfit which also works for me to dash to the project meeting afterwards
·       Apr 03 10:55 PM Sassy: But be comfortable
·       Apr 03 10:55 PM Sassy: Doesn’t matter
·       Apr 03 10:55 PM Kris: ok
·       Apr 03 10:55 PM Sassy: My top buttons down the front
·       Apr 03 10:56 PM Sassy: or unbuttons, as the case may be
·       Apr 03 10:56 PM Kris: lol
·       Apr 03 10:56 PM Sassy: blue silk scarf
·       Apr 03 10:57 PM Sassy: Are you going to run into you know?
·       Apr 03 10:58 PM Kris: what do you mean?
·       Apr 03 10:58 PM Sassy: Would anyone you know show up at that place?
·       Apr 03 10:59 PM Kris: no…extremely unlikely…i don’t really know anyone there…except my first wife’s mother owns a condominium there…but the chances of running into her are highly unlikely. and any lie i make up on the spot would be fine in the rare event that might happen.
·       Apr 03 10:59 PM Kris: i won’t have anything to worry about that way
·       Apr 03 11:00 PM Sassy: Okay.
·       Apr 03 11:00 PM Kris: have u ever been with someone and run into someone u knew?
·       Apr 03 11:01 PM Sassy: No
·       Apr 03 11:02 PM Kris: i would think that would be a “tense moment” if it ever happened. hope it never does.
·       Apr 03 11:03 PM Kris: tell me how you got involved in the projects…and what it is you do exactly
·       Apr 03 11:04 PM Sassy: I will. Maybe tomorrow. Or the second time.
·       Apr 03 11:05 PM Sassy: Sorry to be cagey
·       Apr 03 11:05 PM Sassy: Just pretty easy to ID me from that and I like to stay anonymous awhile longer.
·       Apr 03 11:06 PM Kris: ok…no problem
·       Apr 03 11:06 PM Sassy: But thank you for asking!
·       Apr 03 11:07 PM Sassy: It’s tough because I’m used to blabbing about it to everyone all the time
·       Apr 03 11:07 PM Kris: it’s good that you have something that’s fun that your passionate about (besides sex—lol)
·       Apr 03 11:17 PM Kris: sounds like fun…do you have close friends as a result?
·       Apr 03 11:17 PM Sassy: Wouldn’t say that… but I do get to meet a lot of people
·       Apr 03 11:18 PM Sassy: And when I was sick they were incredible
·       Apr 03 11:18 PM Kris: that’s great….that they supported you…..how long were you sick for?
·       Apr 03 11:18 PM Sassy: About 9 months
·       Apr 03 11:19 PM Kris: you had chemo that whole time?
·       Apr 03 11:19 PM
Sassy: No. I had surgery, recovered for a month, then 14 weeks of chemo, then a month to recover, then radiation every damn weekday for 2.5 months. 
·       Apr 03 11:20 PM Sassy: Have you heard of an Advent calendar?
·       Apr 03 11:20 PM Kris: yes…i was raised catholic and my mother had one every year when i was a kid growing up
·       Apr 03 11:20 PM Sassy: My project peeps made me a “chemo calendar”
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: So every week, I had a present to open
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: and a different person to talk with
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: And people had a little something tangible they could do for me
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Kris: that’s so cool
·       Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: I never heard of it before
·       Apr 03 11:22 PM Sassy: They handed this huge box full of envelopes and said, “when you’ve opened these, you’ll be done”
·       Apr 03 11:22 PM Sassy: There were 38 envelopes there
·       Apr 03 11:22 PM Kris: wow!
·       Apr 03 11:23 PM Sassy: Poems, knitted hats, lotions, teas, books, restaurant gift cards
·       Apr 03 11:23 PM Kris: did u open them on the same day each week?
·       Apr 03 11:23 PM Sassy: Yes. the night before surgery, then every week before chemo, then every Wednesday night during radiation
·       Apr 03 11:24 PM Kris: what was your usual reaction…when you opened them
·       Apr 03 11:24 PM Sassy: It depended
·       Apr 03 11:24 PM Sassy: It was mostly bowled over…
·       Apr 03 11:25 PM Sassy: especially the hand-knitted cap the night before they shaved my head
·       Apr 03 11:25 PM Kris: what was special about that?
·       Apr 03 11:26 PM Sassy: It was the perfect thing I needed, hand made, beautiful and from someone I didn’t know very well
·       Apr 03 11:27 PM Kris: did having your head shaved make you feel sad, scared, depressed….how did you feel?
·       Apr 03 11:28 PM Sassy: It was AWFUL
·       Apr 03 11:28 PM Sassy: my hair was my mojo
·       Apr 03 11:28 PM Sassy: I had waist length dark hair
·       Apr 03 11:28 PM Kris: wow!
·       Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: I took to friends to MGH
·       Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: They made it as easy as possible
·       Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: and the woman cut it in stages, to show me options I could do as it grew
·       Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: Even a mohawk!
·       Apr 03 11:30 PM Sassy: I had a wonderful long wig. That helped a lot
·       Apr 03 11:30 PM Sassy: I thought it would just cover my head but it actually managed to fool most people
·       Apr 03 11:30 PM Kris: how does a wig like that stay on?
·       Apr 03 11:31 PM Sassy: It’s made of lace and elastic, then you can tape the back and front edges
·       Apr 03 11:31 PM Sassy: They fit it to your head
·       Apr 03 11:32 PM Kris: so the elastic kind of holds it in place…and the tape secures it more…
·       Apr 03 11:32 PM Sassy: Once you have any hair at all, it will stay without the tape
·       Apr 03 11:32 PM Sassy: only when you are completely skin that I needed tape
·       Apr 03 11:35 PM Sassy: I had not realized you lose all your hair. Everywhere.  Nose, face, arms, and “down there.” 
·       Apr 03 11:35 PM Kris: wow!  well not to make light of your very serious battle with cancer…but I can relate to not having hair (at least on top)…just means lots of women “rule me out”…oh well.
·       Apr 03 11:36 PM Kris: speaking of “hair”…can i ask you a personal question (i bet you can guess)….
·       Apr 03 11:36 PM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 03 11:36 PM Kris: what do u think i’m going to ask?
·       Apr 03 11:36 PM Sassy: Do I have hair down there
·       Apr 03 11:37 PM Kris: yup
·       Apr 03 11:37 PM Kris: well?
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Sassy: Yes. It’s natural. It came back in rather sparse and soft
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Sassy: You?
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Kris: yes
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Kris: i like natural
·       Apr 03 11:38 PM Kris: i didn’t realize until just recently that more people like clean shaved then natural these days
·       Apr 03 11:39 PM Kris: guess i’m just “old school”
·       Apr 03 11:39 PM Sassy: It’s all you see in p0rn
·       Apr 03 11:39 PM Sassy: that or “landing strips”
·       Apr 03 11:39 PM Sassy: I think it makes men look prepubescent
·       Apr 03 11:40 PM Sassy: I want hair I can play with it!
·       Apr 03 11:40 PM Kris: ok…well if you decide to play with me…you’ll have some….
·       Apr 03 11:40 PM Sassy:  : )
·       Apr 03 11:41 PM Sassy: I enjoyed getting to know what bare feels like… very sensitive
·       Apr 03 11:41 PM Sassy: But not going to do it myself
·       Apr 03 11:42 PM Kris: interesting that you hair grew back different…was that everywhere…on your head too that it was different after?
·       Apr 03 11:42 PM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 03 11:42 PM Sassy: The chemo hair was all swirly curly
·       Apr 03 11:42 PM Sassy: and very soft
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: I had been dying my hair for about 30 years…
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: had no idea what it would look like
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Kris: what’s your natural color?
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: chestnut brown
·       Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: what was yours?
·       Apr 03 11:44 PM
Kris: “was”? LOL really hard!!!!!!!!!!!!
·       Apr 03 11:44 PM Kris: dark brown
·       Apr 03 11:44 PM Sassy: Mine came in silver.
·       Apr 03 11:45 PM Sassy: Quite a shock all at once
·       Apr 03 11:45 PM Kris: so you aged 20 years overnight?
·       Apr 03 11:45 PM Sassy: Hubby said the wig made me look 10 years younger
·       Apr 03 11:45 PM Sassy: then the new hair made me look 10 years older
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Kris: so do you dye it now?
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: no
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: I had not been to a salon in 3.5 yrs when I went today
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: I couldn’t dye it until the chemo hair grew out (it dyes green)
·       Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: and then I sort of forgot about it
·       Apr 03 11:47 PM Sassy: Can you grab a fistful of silver hair?
·       Apr 03 11:47 PM Kris: Sure! reminds me of a crude bumper sticker i saw a couple of times on some women’s cars….it said….
·       Apr 03 11:48 PM Kris: “If you’re going to ride my ass…at least you could pull my hair!” LOL
·       Apr 03 11:48 PM Sassy: Whoa!
·       Apr 03 11:48 PM Sassy: That’s Sassy!
·       Apr 03 11:49 PM
Kris: Speaking of which…how did you get your nickname (or did you already tell me?)
·       Apr 03 11:51 PM Sassy: My old flame wanted to know if I was the Same Sassy Girl he knew in high school?
·       Apr 03 11:51 PM Sassy: He started calling me Sassy or Sass…
·       Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: I needed a… sexy side
·       Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: a name for the devil on my left shoulder
·       Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: to argue with the angel on my shoulder
·       Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: Let me be sexy, sassy, shameless
·       Apr 03 11:53 PM
Kris: i get it…makes sense. so who calls you that now?
·       Apr 03 11:53 PM Sassy: Everyone online
·       Apr 03 11:53 PM Sassy: I like it. It frees me
·       Apr 03 11:53 PM Sassy: I can shed the demure lady and play!
·       Apr 03 11:54 PM Sassy: Do you have Good side and Bad side?
·       Apr 03 11:56 PM Kris: sort of…i think everyone does…i know what you mean when it comes to sex…but i didn’t have to wait so long as you to figure out how pleasurable it was. i started at 13
·       Apr 03 11:57 PM Sassy: I’m trying to unify them more
·       Apr 03 11:57 PM Sassy: I can’t believe what a doofus I was
·       Apr 04 12:00 AM Kris: sorry for the delay…keyboard on laptop doesn’t work right sometimes……i have something to say about your last statement….but it can wait…because in one minute we’re going to turn into pumpkins…
·       Apr 04 12:00 AM Kris: Midnight!
·       Apr 04 12:03 AMKris: i’ve got two reasons to be excited about tomorrow: 1) lunch with you, and 2) Harley being delivered. and both of those are “Bad me”…..cuz both have to be hidden from my wife…but I’m REALLY looking forward to lunch with you. going to say goodnight so you can get the rest you need.
·       Apr 04 12:04 AM Sassy: Thanks!
·       Apr 04 12:04 AM Sassy: Drive carefully.
·       Apr 04 12:04 AM Sassy: Look both ways crossing the street
·       Apr 04 12:05 AM Sassy: Don’t think of my chest… too much.
·       Apr 04 12:05 AM Kris: LOL….ok….try not to. : )
·       Apr 04 12:05 AM Sassy: Or my hands
·       Apr 04 12:05 AM Kris: did you get your nails done?
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: Yes
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Kris: can i kiss them?
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: Sure
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: Hope you like bright red!
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Kris: sounds sexy!
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: It makes me feel that way!
·       Apr 04 12:06 AM Kris: good!
·       Apr 04 12:07 AM Kris: nite nite…don’t let the bed bugs bite!
·       Apr 04 12:07 AM Sassy: sweet dreams Kris!
·       Apr 04 12:08 AM Kris: you too!….nite