October 23, 2017 Monday

from: Sassy
to: WrySmile
date: Mon, Oct 23, 2017 at 11:24 AM
subject: Re: Not goodbye

Hiya D! Hope your week is off to a grand start! Is there anything new going on with you?

You are the sweetest man… I so appreciate the offer to listen and be a friend. That is special. I don’t know if I can keep up my end of that, but let’s try. You are so smart and interesting and fun!

Thanks for asking about Hubby, and reminding me to check at the effects on me. He is back off the ledge, but still precarious. I am having to focus on him even more than usual. And it is getting to me more than usual.

I also appreciate your making the situation clear about us being in the friend zone. It may be useful to have a friend who understands a bit of the Ashley Madison dynamics etc. among his many experiences.

I hope things will calm down soon for me and I can get back to some fun conversations with you in my regular cheerful way!

-S

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from: WrySmile
to: Sassy
date: Mon, Oct 23, 2017 at 9:28 PM
subject: Re: Not goodbye

Sassy,

As I think you know, I’m just that kind of guy. I wish I had more friends I could share with, be mutually supportive with… and share secrets with without being judged. Married dating, dating websites, even sex fantasies and practices; my wife is terrific, but I certainly could never talk to her about these.

Here’s one that I can’t tell anyone else: I made a great dating connection with a woman in Quincy; everything seemed to click. Based on emails we would have been great together and we both wanted it to happen. We were about to meet, and…

I felt that I had to tell her that I love my wife. Boom! She called it off and cut me off. She said I had made her very sad.

Do you have a suggestion? Should I have waited until we met to tell her? Waited until I’d had a chance to grow on her? If it were me, I would have been furious to have this popped on me after we’d made a connection. I’m horny, but I’m not horny enough to do that. Especially not to someone I liked.

Was there anything else I could have done that would have been honest yet might have given us a chance?

Well, we’d both had gotten our hopes too high and now we’re both unhappy about it.

You asked about my Monday; it was annoying. It’s annoying to be ignored, but it’s infuriating to be ignored when you’re the only person in the room who truly understands the problem. I squirmed through a 45-minute discussion of something that should have taken 5-10 minutes.

Let’s stay in touch and keep trying to meet. Good luck in restoring (something like) normalcy to your life.

Darrin

October 21, 2017 Saturday

from: Sassy
to: WrySmile 
date: Sat, Oct 21, 2017 at 5:51 PM
subject: Re: goodbye

Hiya! Hope you got out to enjoy this beautiful day!

Please don’t take it personally that I have not been back in touch! I honestly meant to, but the past month has been a nightmare in three directions! My boss tortured me even more than usual, my project group was oddly busy, and my husband had a major nearly-suicidal episode! So, it was me and not you, dear man. I did not want to impose any of that crap on you, and barely had the energy to deal with that mess much less getting to know someone new.

I think often of our afternoon stroll and smile. You were so much fun to talk and walk with! 

However, I got the impression that I am not what you are looking for… I don’t look the way you want a woman in your arms to look, and the anal sex videos or having your cock in my ass is not a turn on, so I don’t want to waste your time. You deserve to have your sexy dreams come true with someone who is into your idea of fun and has a body that rocks your world! I wish you every success in finding her!

-S

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from: WrySmile 
to: Sassy
date: Sat, Oct 21, 2017 at 11:17 PM
subject: Not goodbye

Sassy,

I’m glad you responded.

What a horrible time. How is your husband now? And how well are you handling the aftermath? (I’m sorry for the pop psychology, but…) Please remember that the events were traumatic for you too and remember to take care of yourself. If it would help to talk to me – to vent, to get things off your chest, to cry to, for whatever reason, please let me know. I’m a good listener.

No, I do not want to have sex with you, anal or otherwise. But you’re a good person and I think you are fun and interesting to talk with. I’d really like to have more conversations and become friends. Not friends with benefits, but the friendship between two people who enjoy and respect each other. Everything I’ve written to you since our meeting I’ve written purely as a friend. Even the erotic stories were sent to you out of friendship, and not as a prologue to sex.

Does your crazy, busy life have room for a male friend you’re not having sex with? If so, let’s have lunch or tea or ice cream or a phone call and continue our conversation. If not, please say so and I’ll stop trying to keep in touch.

I hope your life is improving and will continue to improve. I’d like to play a small part in that.

Darrin

October 20, 2017 Friday

from: WrySmile 
to: Sassy
date: Fri, Oct 20, 2017 at 11:50 PM
subject: goodbye

I guess you don’t want to keep in touch.

bye