Thursday, April 3, 2014
· Apr 03 10:45 PM Kris: Hi
· Apr 03 10:46 PM Sassy: Hiya!
· Apr 03 10:46 PM Sassy: I can’t stay up too late… I have a meet tomorrow. : )
· Apr 03 10:46 PM Kris: ok…how long….let’s set an end time…
· Apr 03 10:47 PM Sassy: You excited? Nervous?
· Apr 03 10:48 PM Kris: mostly excited….a little nervous but not too much….you’re very easy to talk to….so i expect it will be the same when we meet….except maybe a little nervous about “then what”?
· Apr 03 10:48 PM Sassy: Midnight?
· Apr 03 10:48 PM Kris: isn’t midnight too late for you?
· Apr 03 10:49 PM Sassy: Is it okay if I hug you right off? Like meeting an old friend?
· Apr 03 10:50 PM Kris: absolutely…and a light kiss on the cheek wouldn’t hurt either. : )
· Apr 03 10:51 PM Sassy: Ok. I try to be very circumspect in public.
· Apr 03 10:51 PM Sassy: If we see anyone I know, I am talking to you about donating to my projects. : )
· Apr 03 10:52 PM Sassy: Not very likely but good to have a story ready!
· Apr 03 10:52 PM Kris: ok…..with the arrangement you have with your husband I kind of forgot you still have to be discreet…..and being in your “own backyard”…..is it generally safe and ok?
· Apr 03 10:52 PM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 03 10:53 PM Kris: ok…I’m a prospective donor
· Apr 03 10:54 PM Kris: how do you want to dress….did you read my email?
· Apr 03 10:54 PM Sassy: I will have on my typical work outfit which also works for me to dash to the project meeting afterwards
· Apr 03 10:55 PM Sassy: But be comfortable
· Apr 03 10:55 PM Sassy: Doesn’t matter
· Apr 03 10:55 PM Kris: ok
· Apr 03 10:55 PM Sassy: My top buttons down the front
· Apr 03 10:56 PM Sassy: or unbuttons, as the case may be
· Apr 03 10:56 PM Kris: lol
· Apr 03 10:56 PM Sassy: blue silk scarf
· Apr 03 10:57 PM Sassy: Are you going to run into you know?
· Apr 03 10:58 PM Kris: what do you mean?
· Apr 03 10:58 PM Sassy: Would anyone you know show up at that place?
· Apr 03 10:59 PM Kris: no…extremely unlikely…i don’t really know anyone there…except my first wife’s mother owns a condominium there…but the chances of running into her are highly unlikely. and any lie i make up on the spot would be fine in the rare event that might happen.
· Apr 03 10:59 PM Kris: i won’t have anything to worry about that way
· Apr 03 11:00 PM Sassy: Okay.
· Apr 03 11:00 PM Kris: have u ever been with someone and run into someone u knew?
· Apr 03 11:01 PM Sassy: No
· Apr 03 11:02 PM Kris: i would think that would be a “tense moment” if it ever happened. hope it never does.
· Apr 03 11:03 PM Kris: tell me how you got involved in the projects…and what it is you do exactly
· Apr 03 11:04 PM Sassy: I will. Maybe tomorrow. Or the second time.
· Apr 03 11:05 PM Sassy: Sorry to be cagey
· Apr 03 11:05 PM Sassy: Just pretty easy to ID me from that and I like to stay anonymous awhile longer.
· Apr 03 11:06 PM Kris: ok…no problem
· Apr 03 11:06 PM Sassy: But thank you for asking!
· Apr 03 11:07 PM Sassy: It’s tough because I’m used to blabbing about it to everyone all the time
· Apr 03 11:07 PM Kris: it’s good that you have something that’s fun that your passionate about (besides sex—lol)
· Apr 03 11:17 PM Kris: sounds like fun…do you have close friends as a result?
· Apr 03 11:17 PM Sassy: Wouldn’t say that… but I do get to meet a lot of people
· Apr 03 11:18 PM Sassy: And when I was sick they were incredible
· Apr 03 11:18 PM Kris: that’s great….that they supported you…..how long were you sick for?
· Apr 03 11:18 PM Sassy: About 9 months
· Apr 03 11:19 PM Kris: you had chemo that whole time?
· Apr 03 11:19 PM
Sassy: No. I had surgery, recovered for a month, then 14 weeks of chemo, then a month to recover, then radiation every damn weekday for 2.5 months.
· Apr 03 11:20 PM Sassy: Have you heard of an Advent calendar?
· Apr 03 11:20 PM Kris: yes…i was raised catholic and my mother had one every year when i was a kid growing up
· Apr 03 11:20 PM Sassy: My project peeps made me a “chemo calendar”
· Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: So every week, I had a present to open
· Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: and a different person to talk with
· Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: And people had a little something tangible they could do for me
· Apr 03 11:21 PM Kris: that’s so cool
· Apr 03 11:21 PM Sassy: I never heard of it before
· Apr 03 11:22 PM Sassy: They handed this huge box full of envelopes and said, “when you’ve opened these, you’ll be done”
· Apr 03 11:22 PM Sassy: There were 38 envelopes there
· Apr 03 11:22 PM Kris: wow!
· Apr 03 11:23 PM Sassy: Poems, knitted hats, lotions, teas, books, restaurant gift cards
· Apr 03 11:23 PM Kris: did u open them on the same day each week?
· Apr 03 11:23 PM Sassy: Yes. the night before surgery, then every week before chemo, then every Wednesday night during radiation
· Apr 03 11:24 PM Kris: what was your usual reaction…when you opened them
· Apr 03 11:24 PM Sassy: It depended
· Apr 03 11:24 PM Sassy: It was mostly bowled over…
· Apr 03 11:25 PM Sassy: especially the hand-knitted cap the night before they shaved my head
· Apr 03 11:25 PM Kris: what was special about that?
· Apr 03 11:26 PM Sassy: It was the perfect thing I needed, hand made, beautiful and from someone I didn’t know very well
· Apr 03 11:27 PM Kris: did having your head shaved make you feel sad, scared, depressed….how did you feel?
· Apr 03 11:28 PM Sassy: It was AWFUL
· Apr 03 11:28 PM Sassy: my hair was my mojo
· Apr 03 11:28 PM Sassy: I had waist length dark hair
· Apr 03 11:28 PM Kris: wow!
· Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: I took to friends to MGH
· Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: They made it as easy as possible
· Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: and the woman cut it in stages, to show me options I could do as it grew
· Apr 03 11:29 PM Sassy: Even a mohawk!
· Apr 03 11:30 PM Sassy: I had a wonderful long wig. That helped a lot
· Apr 03 11:30 PM Sassy: I thought it would just cover my head but it actually managed to fool most people
· Apr 03 11:30 PM Kris: how does a wig like that stay on?
· Apr 03 11:31 PM Sassy: It’s made of lace and elastic, then you can tape the back and front edges
· Apr 03 11:31 PM Sassy: They fit it to your head
· Apr 03 11:32 PM Kris: so the elastic kind of holds it in place…and the tape secures it more…
· Apr 03 11:32 PM Sassy: Once you have any hair at all, it will stay without the tape
· Apr 03 11:32 PM Sassy: only when you are completely skin that I needed tape
· Apr 03 11:35 PM Sassy: I had not realized you lose all your hair. Everywhere. Nose, face, arms, and “down there.”
· Apr 03 11:35 PM Kris: wow! well not to make light of your very serious battle with cancer…but I can relate to not having hair (at least on top)…just means lots of women “rule me out”…oh well.
· Apr 03 11:36 PM Kris: speaking of “hair”…can i ask you a personal question (i bet you can guess)….
· Apr 03 11:36 PM Sassy: Sure
· Apr 03 11:36 PM Kris: what do u think i’m going to ask?
· Apr 03 11:36 PM Sassy: Do I have hair down there
· Apr 03 11:37 PM Kris: yup
· Apr 03 11:37 PM Kris: well?
· Apr 03 11:38 PM Sassy: Yes. It’s natural. It came back in rather sparse and soft
· Apr 03 11:38 PM Sassy: You?
· Apr 03 11:38 PM Kris: yes
· Apr 03 11:38 PM Kris: i like natural
· Apr 03 11:38 PM Kris: i didn’t realize until just recently that more people like clean shaved then natural these days
· Apr 03 11:39 PM Kris: guess i’m just “old school”
· Apr 03 11:39 PM Sassy: It’s all you see in p0rn
· Apr 03 11:39 PM Sassy: that or “landing strips”
· Apr 03 11:39 PM Sassy: I think it makes men look prepubescent
· Apr 03 11:40 PM Sassy: I want hair I can play with it!
· Apr 03 11:40 PM Kris: ok…well if you decide to play with me…you’ll have some….
· Apr 03 11:40 PM Sassy: : )
· Apr 03 11:41 PM Sassy: I enjoyed getting to know what bare feels like… very sensitive
· Apr 03 11:41 PM Sassy: But not going to do it myself
· Apr 03 11:42 PM Kris: interesting that you hair grew back different…was that everywhere…on your head too that it was different after?
· Apr 03 11:42 PM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 03 11:42 PM Sassy: The chemo hair was all swirly curly
· Apr 03 11:42 PM Sassy: and very soft
· Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: I had been dying my hair for about 30 years…
· Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: had no idea what it would look like
· Apr 03 11:43 PM Kris: what’s your natural color?
· Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: chestnut brown
· Apr 03 11:43 PM Sassy: what was yours?
· Apr 03 11:44 PM
Kris: “was”? LOL really hard!!!!!!!!!!!!
· Apr 03 11:44 PM Kris: dark brown
· Apr 03 11:44 PM Sassy: Mine came in silver.
· Apr 03 11:45 PM Sassy: Quite a shock all at once
· Apr 03 11:45 PM Kris: so you aged 20 years overnight?
· Apr 03 11:45 PM Sassy: Hubby said the wig made me look 10 years younger
· Apr 03 11:45 PM Sassy: then the new hair made me look 10 years older
· Apr 03 11:46 PM Kris: so do you dye it now?
· Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: no
· Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: I had not been to a salon in 3.5 yrs when I went today
· Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: I couldn’t dye it until the chemo hair grew out (it dyes green)
· Apr 03 11:46 PM Sassy: and then I sort of forgot about it
· Apr 03 11:47 PM Sassy: Can you grab a fistful of silver hair?
· Apr 03 11:47 PM Kris: Sure! reminds me of a crude bumper sticker i saw a couple of times on some women’s cars….it said….
· Apr 03 11:48 PM Kris: “If you’re going to ride my ass…at least you could pull my hair!” LOL
· Apr 03 11:48 PM Sassy: Whoa!
· Apr 03 11:48 PM Sassy: That’s Sassy!
· Apr 03 11:49 PM
Kris: Speaking of which…how did you get your nickname (or did you already tell me?)
· Apr 03 11:51 PM Sassy: My old flame wanted to know if I was the Same Sassy Girl he knew in high school?
· Apr 03 11:51 PM Sassy: He started calling me Sassy or Sass…
· Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: I needed a… sexy side
· Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: a name for the devil on my left shoulder
· Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: to argue with the angel on my shoulder
· Apr 03 11:52 PM Sassy: Let me be sexy, sassy, shameless
· Apr 03 11:53 PM
Kris: i get it…makes sense. so who calls you that now?
· Apr 03 11:53 PM Sassy: Everyone online
· Apr 03 11:53 PM Sassy: I like it. It frees me
· Apr 03 11:53 PM Sassy: I can shed the demure lady and play!
· Apr 03 11:54 PM Sassy: Do you have Good side and Bad side?
· Apr 03 11:56 PM Kris: sort of…i think everyone does…i know what you mean when it comes to sex…but i didn’t have to wait so long as you to figure out how pleasurable it was. i started at 13
· Apr 03 11:57 PM Sassy: I’m trying to unify them more
· Apr 03 11:57 PM Sassy: I can’t believe what a doofus I was
· Apr 04 12:00 AM Kris: sorry for the delay…keyboard on laptop doesn’t work right sometimes……i have something to say about your last statement….but it can wait…because in one minute we’re going to turn into pumpkins…
· Apr 04 12:00 AM Kris: Midnight!
· Apr 04 12:03 AMKris: i’ve got two reasons to be excited about tomorrow: 1) lunch with you, and 2) Harley being delivered. and both of those are “Bad me”…..cuz both have to be hidden from my wife…but I’m REALLY looking forward to lunch with you. going to say goodnight so you can get the rest you need.
· Apr 04 12:04 AM Sassy: Thanks!
· Apr 04 12:04 AM Sassy: Drive carefully.
· Apr 04 12:04 AM Sassy: Look both ways crossing the street
· Apr 04 12:05 AM Sassy: Don’t think of my chest… too much.
· Apr 04 12:05 AM Kris: LOL….ok….try not to. : )
· Apr 04 12:05 AM Sassy: Or my hands
· Apr 04 12:05 AM Kris: did you get your nails done?
· Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: Yes
· Apr 04 12:06 AM Kris: can i kiss them?
· Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: Sure
· Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: Hope you like bright red!
· Apr 04 12:06 AM Kris: sounds sexy!
· Apr 04 12:06 AM Sassy: It makes me feel that way!
· Apr 04 12:06 AM Kris: good!
· Apr 04 12:07 AM Kris: nite nite…don’t let the bed bugs bite!
· Apr 04 12:07 AM Sassy: sweet dreams Kris!
· Apr 04 12:08 AM Kris: you too!….nite